1. The act of rejecting or the state of being rejected.

Lets be real for one quick second. When one strips away all the fluff talk from the pick up game what we find staring back at us is this little word REJECTION. When you throw out all the inner game and all the other game, toss the E books and seminars out the window you are left with REJECTION.

Rejection pries at our deepest insecurities. Lets face it: The reason you don’t approach is fear of rejection. What else could it be? She isn’t going to call the police on you. You aren’t under any physical danger. The only thing you have to fear is being rejected.

The challenge becomes turning the rejection into a positive. I remember when I first started doing some approaches I would purposely try to get blown out of a set because I wanted to get used to being rejected or brushed off. Even the greatest DJ’s don’t have 100 percent success rate.

So I’ll keep this short for those of you working on your fear of rejection issues. For the next week you will approach 10 girls. I want you to be gradual. Start with an UG1 and try to get blown out. Move up to an UG 2. Keep going to you can approach a HB10 and get blown out.

I think this method those 2 things.

1. It takes all the pressure off the approach. You are literally approaching to get blown out. So you have no expectations.

2. It gets the aspiring DJ in the mindset for approaching. After he is done with this exercise he can move onto the next one where he will be able to do cold approaches with the mindset of getting a #close.

Thanks for the advice, Casino.

Rejection pries at our deepest insecurities. Lets face it: The reason you don’t approach is fear of rejection.

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This doesn't really pertain to me, though. The reason I don't approach women is because I'm uninterested, I can't think of anything to say, or because my debilitating low self-esteem has left me with a less-than-stellar DJ mentality. Rejection to me is a way of life. I might be a little disappointed that I didn't get anywhere with her, but I can't say that fear of rejection has ever been a major reason as to why I don't approach women.

AHAH, i love it, ill give it a shot, ill try and think of things to piss her off. :cheer: :crackup:

Why practice failure? You produce what you train, so why do you train yourself to get rejected?

Dont come across as a jerk just because you want to show you have the balls to approach. That isnt the point. This way you can cover up your rejection by saying "I wasnt being myself, I just wanted to approach." and *justify* it.

Whats hard is being completely yourself when you approach. Then if the girl rejects you, she rejects you 100%.

So what? So fking what! Just realise that not everyone has to like you, and in my books thats 100% ok. I dont like some people, some people dont like me. Its GREAT!

PS. On thinking about this tip more, I can see how it might work. I guess when you're not attached to the outcome, you will naturally have game; if you're not completely hopeless that is. You shouldnt TRY and get rejected, just dont be attached to outcome. Detachment is sooo where its at for guys who are new at approaches

To quote Pook: Rejection is always better than Regret. As a guy you will always risk rejection - and more so than women - in everything you do; not just with the opposite sex, but business, family, personal decisions, etc. Get used to it. How a man handles rejection becomes his greatest strength if he embraces it and weathers it well. It's the guys that don't who end up in marriages of convenience, in imbalanced relationships and develop these poverty/scarcity mentalities convincing themselves that 'taking what they can get' is as good as they can do. When you can turn rejection into a benefit and be uncompromising in them to better yourself then you're on the way to personal success.

How do you do this? Change your mind about yourself. I can sit here at my keyboard and type up all these techniques to help you cope with rejection, but they'll simply address the symptoms and not the disease. You have to make yourself the PRIZE in order to really handle rejection well. I'll pop off about the philosophy of rejection and it's latent benefits to you, but they wont make you feel any better about yourself when you are in fact rejected. You have to fundamental alter your own self-evaluation before you can allow things to roll off your back.

Amazingly the more you are rejected the better prepared you are for it the next time. Think of the outcome of the last rejection you experienced, there's a whole list of reactions you can go through depending on the circumstances. You probably felt hurt or disappointed for the rebuff, or you may have been angry at the source of your rejection (the girl in this case) or yourself for being "such a fool" as to think she'd accept you. Notice the slew of negativity that initially occurs in this state? When you're young you get so trapped in this dramatic, emotional nonsense that you tend to fail to see the basics or learn from the experience because you impulsively move on to the reaction phase of the rejection and only in rare instances do you do any introspection about the event. Young men (and old ones too unfortunately) rarely pause to think what actually occured, what circumstance lead up to the rejection? What events predisposed her to LJBF him? What excuses did she use to evade him or deter him? What signs did he misinterpret? Was she even really worth his attentions and efforts? Rarely do guys put themselves in a position of learning from these experiences - instead they play 'friends' with the target of their approach and quietly try to prove themselves worthy of her intimacy for months or years post-rejection. The natural reaction simply isn't a self-adjustment or an altering of behavior or a change of mind about themselves, of how to better themselves, of how to learn from a girls behavior and NOT what she says.

Confidence is the key to overcoming rejection. The easiest example of this is the Jock - sorry, I know you're not all the athletic type, but it's the easiest illustration here. When a guy is confident in his physique he naturally displays characteristics (unconsciously) that he can in fact get 'any girl' he wants and females react to this covertly (and most often unconsciously). This then naturally makes him the PRIZE and, usually unaware to him, his confidence is reinforced by women who are attracted to him. Only rarely does he have to experience rejection in this regard. Sure, some girls may think he's vain, attractive, but vain. Or a 'fullofhimself' A-Hole, but his physical confidence has proven itself to be a great deterent for this type of rejection, because no matter how many women rebuff him (not that he needs to spend that much effort) he's found that more often than not the next hot girl he encounters wont. Ergo he uncosciously displays this confidence and women naturally, unconsciously read this. I might also add that this is the type of guy who experiences more frustration when he is rejected in other aspects of life (i.e. business) when he has an underdeveloped ability to handle rejection.

So how does that help you? Not every guy is the exceptional physical specimen, but there are ways to separeate yourself and display this type of confidence. The first step as aI stated was to change your perspective of yourself. Become the PRIZE to yourself. That doesn't mean to walk around like your sh!t doesn't stink of to become concieted or self-centered. It does however mean to become self-important and have a better estimation of yourself, and this comes, at least partially, from knowing what girl's behavior prove they value_ in a guy. That understanding, when communicated covertly, is confidently attractive. There's a reason older, or more mentaly mature guys are more attractive to a woman and this is part of it - they have a better, unstated, understanding of what women want due to their prior experiences and never need to be 'told' "what a woman wants." Beyond this, what are you passionate about? Do it, to the exception of chasing after girls. Why are up-and-coming rockstars never for want of a girlfriend(s)? Because of what they do and the mentality that goes with it. Like a Jock, the rockstar is a Bad Boy who knows if one woman rejects him there are 10 more waiting in line to have him. This translates into confidence behaviors. You must stop caring whether a girl is into you or not, there are plenty more who will be. When you assume this attitude about yourself you will start to display these behaviors.