Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
DON’T GET BOGGED DOWN IN MECHANICS
By Marlimus
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You are probably thinking, “Getting bogged in mechanics, what the hell does that mean?” Well, let me explain. Let’s say you picked up a girl somewhere, and she gave you all the right signals. She laughed when you busted her balls, gave you steady eye contact, she returned your Kino when you touched her, so you exchange numbers (some say email is better, whatever works for you). You religiously follow the three day rule (do not call any earlier that the third day after getting the number) and you get the answering machine. You call back the next day, you get the machine again. You call again the day after, same thing.
You still follow the rules, so you lay off for a while before you try to call again, but the same thing happens, and all kinds of doubts start going through your mind. Is she flaking out already? Screening my calls? Maybe she just leaves it off, ya know?
Now the rational part of your mind tells you that at this point calling again unless she calls you back will make you seem needy and diminish her attraction for you because you’re not being a challenge AND YOU KNOW THIS. But instead, what do you do? You try to make excuses for her. Maybe her phone isn’t working anymore, you tell yourself. Maybe she’s sick, or she’s just really busy, or maybe she was hit by a bus or has laryngitis, or maybe (and this is the killer) my timing is really bad, and coincidentally when I call, she can’t pick up or can’t hear the phone, in which case I should call again, because this time my timing might be better.
Your mind starts to rationalize behaviors that you know are against the rules. That’s what I mean by getting bogged down in mechanics. Before you knew the rules, before you became a Don Juan, your mistakes were made out of ignorance. This is different. This time you know the rules, but your needy side is cleverly and secretly undermining your conscious DJ mind by trying to make you think that its okay by the rules.
Here’s another example. A girl flakes on you. Now according to one brilliant technique posted in the Hall of Fame, you call back the next day and pretend that you didn’t show, apologize for flaking on HER, and tell her that you’ll make it up to her whenever you have the time. And once again, you know this technique, but instead, you think, “nah, she wouldn’t do that to me, it must be something serious, I should make sure she’s okay” or, and here’s the next killer:
“The rules don’t apply to her, she’s special”
Bullsh!t. The rules apply to any woman you are interested in.
But instead, you call her the same day and ask why she didn’t show. Getting bogged down in mechanics means that insecurity causes you to try to interpret her behavior in such a way that will make you think that is okay to do something that you know makes you less of a challenge. Now that you are aware of this trap, you’re halfway there in terms of spotting it. So, how do you deal with this trap?
AVOIDING/ESCAPING THE TRAP
1) Do not speculate or care about what might be happening in her life.
If she was supposed to call and didn’t, simply assume it was deliberate until she proves otherwise. Don’t wonder about the possible good excuses for her behavior.
2) Assume everything is a test. Everything.
3) Think only about the game and yourself. Ask yourself WWDJ
What Would a Don Juan do?
Remember that female tests and tricks are designed to leave you in doubt allowing you to think about them so much till you act needy, then shoot you down.
The rules have survived for so long because there are consequences to breaking them.
Marlimus
By Marlimus
[email protected]
You are probably thinking, “Getting bogged in mechanics, what the hell does that mean?” Well, let me explain. Let’s say you picked up a girl somewhere, and she gave you all the right signals. She laughed when you busted her balls, gave you steady eye contact, she returned your Kino when you touched her, so you exchange numbers (some say email is better, whatever works for you). You religiously follow the three day rule (do not call any earlier that the third day after getting the number) and you get the answering machine. You call back the next day, you get the machine again. You call again the day after, same thing.
You still follow the rules, so you lay off for a while before you try to call again, but the same thing happens, and all kinds of doubts start going through your mind. Is she flaking out already? Screening my calls? Maybe she just leaves it off, ya know?
Now the rational part of your mind tells you that at this point calling again unless she calls you back will make you seem needy and diminish her attraction for you because you’re not being a challenge AND YOU KNOW THIS. But instead, what do you do? You try to make excuses for her. Maybe her phone isn’t working anymore, you tell yourself. Maybe she’s sick, or she’s just really busy, or maybe she was hit by a bus or has laryngitis, or maybe (and this is the killer) my timing is really bad, and coincidentally when I call, she can’t pick up or can’t hear the phone, in which case I should call again, because this time my timing might be better.
Your mind starts to rationalize behaviors that you know are against the rules. That’s what I mean by getting bogged down in mechanics. Before you knew the rules, before you became a Don Juan, your mistakes were made out of ignorance. This is different. This time you know the rules, but your needy side is cleverly and secretly undermining your conscious DJ mind by trying to make you think that its okay by the rules.
Here’s another example. A girl flakes on you. Now according to one brilliant technique posted in the Hall of Fame, you call back the next day and pretend that you didn’t show, apologize for flaking on HER, and tell her that you’ll make it up to her whenever you have the time. And once again, you know this technique, but instead, you think, “nah, she wouldn’t do that to me, it must be something serious, I should make sure she’s okay” or, and here’s the next killer:
“The rules don’t apply to her, she’s special”
Bullsh!t. The rules apply to any woman you are interested in.
But instead, you call her the same day and ask why she didn’t show. Getting bogged down in mechanics means that insecurity causes you to try to interpret her behavior in such a way that will make you think that is okay to do something that you know makes you less of a challenge. Now that you are aware of this trap, you’re halfway there in terms of spotting it. So, how do you deal with this trap?
AVOIDING/ESCAPING THE TRAP
1) Do not speculate or care about what might be happening in her life.
If she was supposed to call and didn’t, simply assume it was deliberate until she proves otherwise. Don’t wonder about the possible good excuses for her behavior.
2) Assume everything is a test. Everything.
3) Think only about the game and yourself. Ask yourself WWDJ
What Would a Don Juan do?
Remember that female tests and tricks are designed to leave you in doubt allowing you to think about them so much till you act needy, then shoot you down.
The rules have survived for so long because there are consequences to breaking them.
Marlimus
