i've met this really 25 year old hot girl in a net chat program ( msn) and she was really into me, we had great convos till she came up with her ex-boyfriend story she met in the university and whom she still cant forget... i mean from a potential interest in me she directed the convo towards how she is hurt and sad and wants to forget him but still wants him bad...

i think i get fed about her because while we had great conversations since she started talking about her past relationships we just dont communicate anymore... i think she sensed that and i just dont ****ing care. i was just wondering why they come to us and start telling those things like we were old time friends or something.... its not only in web chats that this happens, it happens in real field situations as well...

So if a woman finds you atractive why does she act like you are her best friend. also was my reaction the normal thing to do?

Forget the online thing, you can't judge anything by it.


First of all, I take it your wondering who girls who find you attractive in real life end up talking to you like you're their best friend ?


Its quite simple, you hung out with her and you weren't sexual enough, didnt initiate enough kino, and didn't flirt enough. A women that has a fun time with you, but no sexual tension is exhausted, will think of you as just a good friend. Throw in some good kino, flirt with her, tease her, kiss her, and your in.

Think about it.....why would she want to have sex with you if you've done nothing to sexually excite her. Attraction is only 1 small part of the process. Thats the hurdle you have little control over that just gets you in the door. Walking upstairs to the bedroom, thats another step.

2 ways to go about it. The just don't care attitude is a key though.

#1 Get her on the phone, you cannot allow yourself to become an online girlfriend who she uses as an outlet for her feelings. Talk to her on the phone about meeting up, follow through and play the game like normal.

#2 You can turn her ex-BF talk around on her stupid a$$ and use it to your advantage. Have her talk about her "feelings" and link those feelings to you, let her know subtly that you can make her feel all those things, and more. This one is much more advanced though and I would not recommend it unless you are any good at Patterning and NLP.

Overall I would say something is wrong in your game, you need to cut that "problem-talk" in the bud. Don't let a chick you are interested in fill your ear with all kinds of her problems and assorted bull$hit. Tell her flat out that you are not one of her girlfriends and this kind of talk bores you. Find a more tactful way to say this is you'd like.

'Slinger

Edited to add, Weisman44 hit it spot-on.

i hate it when they try to make a guy her emotional tampoon

ya **** like that is rediculuous

don't let her get away with that