Let's get down to it. I've been dating my girl for 3 years, 2 short breakups along the way (my fault), and now she needs the dreaded "exploring time". She said she wants to see other people, since im the only one she has ever been with, before things get "serious". As in, me getting my own place and her moving in.

I think that scared her? Mind you we are a young couple, but I feel its a mature issue. We havent talked in 2 weeks, except for about 5 minutes on the phone. Then she emails me saying "she wants to talk to me on the phone but it feels wierd so we will in 3 weeks".

From the start she said we would be back together in about a month.I dont know whether to believe her, but part of me does, since I pulled the same **** on her and knows what it feels like. What confuses me is the deadline and saying we will be back together. She is special to me so I cant just move on, I want to make it work.

Forgot to mention we would se eachother about 2-3 times a week during the relationship. So its not like I was suffocating her.

Ignore the post, posted in wrong forum on accident. reply if ya want though

I don't know

I dated a girl for 3 years and had the same thing breakups.

We broke up for good last September and if you follow some of my postings since then I dated a party girl with a seedy past and then a girl that was great and that I truly still love but she dumped me when i moved to this new town. Ugggh.

That being said, the girl I dated for 3 years still calls and she wants to get back with me (I made the mistake of saying it wouldn't be so bad, but i really don't want to get back with her adn she does).

The moral of the story? Once a girl has that much time invested in you, she isn't going to just kick you to the curb unless things get really bad.

I always enjoyed the space and dated other girls behind her back during the 3 year relationship. And I have stories to tell about it!