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seabreeze
05-19-2005, 07:49 PM
Why do guys like to stare directly at a woman's face during sex? Me? I close my eyes, turn my head, check out their whole body, all sorts of things. But I've noticed most of the guys I've been with stare at my face, almost without blinking, the whole time. It can be very embarrassing, so how should I react to it? I mean what do you guys think they might want to see?

I would NEVER ask them why, but I can ask my Internet buddies. Just very curious.
SB

nappa
05-19-2005, 07:53 PM
Im not sure but I think its supposed to give a more powerful emotional orgasm or something like that. Like a connection thing

rgeere
05-19-2005, 07:57 PM
When a man does that to a woman when they are having sex or even when they arn't it means he has alpha type tendencies.

So in other words, you are screwing high status or low status men men depending on how you look at things; atleast a man with strong dominant tendencies.

al77
05-19-2005, 07:58 PM
Originally posted by seabreeze
Why do guys like to stare directly at a woman's face during sex?

It all depends. My ex asked me: "why do you close your eyes???"

Besides, what would you want to stare at? Not look at you at all?

fender85
05-19-2005, 08:05 PM
Odd, I thought women liked for you to look them in the eyes when having sex?

penkitten
05-19-2005, 08:27 PM
an old wives tale says that if the both of you stare in each others eyes without blinking for more than three minutes while you are having sex, then you will end up married.

usually people ponder while doing this and turn away right before three minutes haha!!

seabreeze
05-19-2005, 09:05 PM
Sorry. tried to reply a couple of times but it wouldn't work.

Anyway, what you guys say about the alpha male thing makes a lot of sense. I do feel sense of submission/domination when they stare, like I'm being taken or claimed. It's a weird feeling.

I actually don't mind looking at each other off and on, but there's something about being stared at, like my every move is being watched that I don't really like. I wonder if they expect me to do or say something.

What are guys who stare during sex usually thinking about? How should I respond: smile, stare back until they look away, or what?
SB;)

Unregistered
05-19-2005, 09:14 PM
What are guys who stare during sex usually thinking about?

I doubt there's much thinking going on.

DJDamage
05-19-2005, 09:41 PM
How hard can it be? They want to look at your face for two reasons

a) They read in some Cosmo Magazine that looking at a woman's face during sex is very important for some reason (makes a woman trust you or some bullsh1t like that)

b) Guys want to please you, so they are looking at your face to see if they are doing something right or doing something wrong based on your reaction.

al77
05-19-2005, 09:46 PM
Originally posted by seabreeze

I actually don't mind looking at each other off and on, but there's something about being stared at, like my every move is being watched that I don't really like. I wonder if they expect me to do or say something.

What are guys who stare during sex usually thinking about? How should I respond: smile, stare back until they look away, or what?
SB;)

Here is one thing that many guys would not mind you doing while they stare at you: ...make sounds! Different and a lot... i.e. express your feelings with them.

And I don't think guys are thinking a lot at those moments.:D

rgeere
05-19-2005, 10:04 PM
Originally posted by seabreeze
Sorry. tried to reply a couple of times but it wouldn't work.

Anyway, what you guys say about the alpha male thing makes a lot of sense. I do feel sense of submission/domination when they stare, like I'm being taken or claimed. It's a weird feeling.

I actually don't mind looking at each other off and on, but there's something about being stared at, like my every move is being watched that I don't really like. I wonder if they expect me to do or say something.

What are guys who stare during sex usually thinking about? How should I respond: smile, stare back until they look away, or what?
SB;)

Actually, the best thing you could do is to just submit your body ... I don't really think it matters which way you do it.

This sort of reminds me of things girls tell me. I am am very dominant and I often scare shy girls off because they complain about me staring at them and not blinking. However, once they learn I am someone to be trusted they get very very close and don't back off. I do what I can to make them feel safe.

seabreeze
05-19-2005, 10:20 PM
al77,

I always make LOT'S of noise and move a lot too, but when I look at how they are looking at me it breaks the mood. I think, "they must not be enjoying themselves if they are looking so much at me." I expect them to be going out of their mind with pleasure like me, not staring.

But, maybe I ask too much of them.
SB;)

fender85
05-19-2005, 10:27 PM
Originally posted by seabreeze

What are guys who stare during sex usually thinking about?

I'm an advocate of the 9-and-1 method, so chances are that I'm counting.

seabreeze
05-19-2005, 10:32 PM
Fender, that's interesting, what is the 9 - to - 1 method?

Now that I think of it, they do seem to be concentrating on something...

al77
05-19-2005, 10:37 PM
Originally posted by seabreeze
al77,

I always make LOT'S of noise and move a lot too, but when I look at how they are looking at me it breaks the mood. I think, "they must not be enjoying themselves if they are looking so much at me." I expect them to be going out of their mind with pleasure like me, not staring.



Ok, maybe they ask you with that silent stare "are you having a good time?.. are you... are you...........
If his stare breaks the mood and you stop making noises then the answer is no... you are not having such a good time that you can forget about anything...

seabreeze
05-19-2005, 10:46 PM
al77,

Not true, it breaks the mood simply because I feel like I'm the only one having a good time! The best part of sex for me is driving my man crazy too, I like that. I still might be enjoying it physically, but it's a bummer unless he is too.

SB;)

al77
05-19-2005, 11:31 PM
Originally posted by seabreeze
al77,

Not true, it breaks the mood simply because I feel like I'm the only one having a good time!

The best part of sex for me is driving my man crazy too, I like that. I still might be enjoying it physically, but it's a bummer unless he is too.


Thats what you think. He doesn't think that way...guys want to hear.. and "see" the proof that you are feeling great. That might be one of the reasons of his stare.

If he stares at you why would you " feel like I'm the only one having a good time!"?? He stopped? He is angry? He is unhappy?
No! He just.. stares. And I gave you one of teh possible reasons why he does ....

fender85
05-19-2005, 11:35 PM
Originally posted by seabreeze
Fender, that's interesting, what is the 9 - to - 1 method?



It cannot be explained, it must be experienced! Oh wait, you're in Long Beach. Guess I'll go ahead and stop trying to lay you.

The 9 and 1 method is basically where you do this with your thrusts:

9 shallow, 1 deep
8 shallow, 2 deep
7 shallow, 3 deep
6 shallow, 4 deep
5 shallow, 5 deep
4 shallow, 6 deep
3 shallow, 7 deep
2 shallow, 8 deep
1 shallow, 9 deep

And then start again from the top.

( . )( . )
05-19-2005, 11:44 PM
Originally posted by fender85

The 9 and 1 method is basically where you do this with your thrusts:

9 shallow, 1 deep
8 shallow, 2 deep
7 shallow, 3 deep
6 shallow, 4 deep
5 shallow, 5 deep
4 shallow, 6 deep
3 shallow, 7 deep
2 shallow, 8 deep
1 shallow, 9 deep

And then start again from the top.

Why? unless its like some distraction technique for 2 strokers why would you do this?

seabreeze
05-20-2005, 12:08 AM
al77,

I'm not sure you're getting it. Read my replies again...

Staring during sex is just plain creepy to me.

I'm with the boob guy, fender, why???? I would hate to know that a guy had to do that.

SB
:confused:

rgeere
05-20-2005, 03:51 AM
Originally posted by seabreeze
al77,

I'm not sure you're getting it. Read my replies again...

Staring during sex is just plain creepy to me.

I'm with the boob guy, fender, why???? I would hate to know that a guy had to do that.

SB
:confused:

It is not a matter of having to do that, they just do that. It is a part of having a dominant personality; it isn't a good or bad thing necessarily.

al77
05-23-2005, 11:45 AM
Originally posted by seabreeze
al77,

Not true, it breaks the mood simply because I feel like I'm the only one having a good time!



I think the problem is not in him... but in your perception of his stare.

Why do you find his stare uncomfortable? Because you think he is not having good time???? C'mon. He is.
No man would ever think to stare at your eyes becasue he is not having good time.

If the stare just bothers you you can a) simply clos eyour eyes.
b) try to talk to him about it...figure out why he is doing it.

flyinshark
05-23-2005, 12:11 PM
I hope this is not the case, but maybe he's too shy to look at the rest of your body. Or he doesn't wanna seem creepy by starring at your breasts or crotch too much:)

OR, if he is on top of you, it might just be a bit hard physically to look down at the rest of your body, as he'd have to bend his neck, lol. So the easiest thing to look at would be your face.

flyinshark
05-23-2005, 12:15 PM
And oh yeah, looking at your face in order to see your reaction to what he is doing to you seems right too. I do that, and i really enjoy it when my girl either closes her eyes or puts her head back because the pleasure is too intense.

Maybe you are thinking too much about this and you stare at him in return. Try putting your head back when you feel very excited (while moaning, cuz guys love that) and he just might stop starring for some time, because he will be satisfied by your reaction and won't keep starring in order to get some feedback.

Francisco d'Anconia
05-23-2005, 12:25 PM
I say it's what Eddie Murphy said in "Delirious." Guy's get that fvck face because they are surprised that they are getting any pvzzy. Think about the first time you ever got any guys, you know the look. I guess there are still guys out there that are still surprised, as well they should be! :p

al77
05-23-2005, 12:33 PM
Maybe it is all much simplier than we think?

If you talk to sombody... how do you do that? You are supposed to maintain eye contact...why? We were told that we would show"confidence" and "sincerity" by looking staright in the eyes.
So it is good, and it is a communication feature.

Probably many guys just remember about it when they are having sex.....
What else they can be doing - looking at a wall? May seem "dishonest".. the wall is better than she is??
Close his eyes? Well, where is that openness and sincerity then?

So he left with looking at her. I assume ears or hair is much less attractive then the eyes....

PRMoon
05-23-2005, 12:43 PM
If indeed you have reactions like you describe SeaBreeze then they might just enjoy watching your facial expressions. I mean if you make A LOT of noise and close your eyes and look around and what not, that could be kind of like a mini show for them and they just gett off watching your reactions to their performance.

I try not to stair during sex, but I've caught myself staring at my current girl while i'm bedding her. Though it's mostly because she grabbs my shoulders/back and head and pulls me towards her while we're lateral. She says she really likes me being up on her and really close and i don't have many other places to look other then just closing my eyes.

DrMetallica
05-23-2005, 01:15 PM
Originally posted by fender85
It cannot be explained, it must be experienced! Oh wait, you're in Long Beach. Guess I'll go ahead and stop trying to lay you.

The 9 and 1 method is basically where you do this with your thrusts:

9 shallow, 1 deep
8 shallow, 2 deep
7 shallow, 3 deep
6 shallow, 4 deep
5 shallow, 5 deep
4 shallow, 6 deep
3 shallow, 7 deep
2 shallow, 8 deep
1 shallow, 9 deep

And then start again from the top.

Jesus man, so complicated... I like to think of simpler things when I'm having sex, like... "oh, that feels good...", "Yeah do that..." etc.

I always liked staring into her eyes if we're doing missionary and I never knew why. She would always look away or keep her eyes closed so I grabbed her face and just looked at her. I'm not sure if it's a submission thing but it sure feels good.

Francisco d'Anconia
05-23-2005, 02:06 PM
Originally posted by fender85
It cannot be explained, it must be experienced! Oh wait, you're in Long Beach. Guess I'll go ahead and stop trying to lay you.

The 9 and 1 method is basically where you do this with your thrusts:

9 shallow, 1 deep
8 shallow, 2 deep
7 shallow, 3 deep
6 shallow, 4 deep
5 shallow, 5 deep
4 shallow, 6 deep
3 shallow, 7 deep
2 shallow, 8 deep
1 shallow, 9 deep

And then start again from the top.

So are you saying that all the counting causes the distracted type stare?

seabreeze
05-23-2005, 04:07 PM
hey, it's back!!! lol

al77, you're awesome!

I don't know, I guess it just makes me feel self-conscious. I usually moan a lot, writhe, close my eyes alot so maybe they were just checking out the scenery. I think I'll just take everyone's advice and ignore it and enjoy myself like I usually do.

I do believe that it is an alpha male behavior. It definitely makes me feel dominated. Actually, these were the guys who also would go down on me and refuse to move when I pulled their head away. They'd stay down there until they were good and ready to stop. Interesting...
SB;)

fender85
05-23-2005, 08:15 PM
Ok to guys asking about the 9 and 1 method. From what I understand, it came from somewhere over in the Orient. I mean these are the guys that came up with tantra and kama sutra, and apparently it is their "Orgasmic equation." I find it works very well for satisfying my partner, other friends of mine that have tried it have also had good success. And no, I don't think it's why most guys have a vacant stare when boning, it's just that SB asked what men were thinking while having sex, so I told her what I do.

rapsta
05-24-2005, 04:46 PM
myself, I'm sometimes staring a woman in the face because her face expressions make me hornier

Don Ronny
05-25-2005, 12:34 AM
Maybe your body is all hurt up and your face is your best asset. haha...jest playin

Personally I only look a girl in the eyes intensely during sex when I am totally in love with her and I usually do it when she is coming so she knows who her daddy is. I also do it when I am about to butter her muffins.

I do agree with with you on this one SB. It is inappropriate and weird to do this with some random chick. Besides, there are so many great things to look at during sex, why limit yourself?

seabreeze
05-25-2005, 08:42 AM
"Maybe your body is all hurt up and your face is your best asset. haha...jest playin"

LOL! You may have a point there! My body's not perfect.
SB;)

Don Ronny
05-25-2005, 09:40 AM
Originally posted by seabreeze
"Maybe your body is all hurt up and your face is your best asset. haha...jest playin"

LOL! You may have a point there! My body's not perfect.
SB;)

Time to hit the gym, sistah! Nothing worse than saggy T&A.

spider_007
05-25-2005, 10:35 AM
There is notting more enyojable then waching a woman gett off. JUST THE LOOK ON HER FACE.

Just imagening her half moning, eyes closed, biting the pillow.........

DAMN, IM GETTING A BONER:D

Aztec
05-25-2005, 04:36 PM
Hey L!


Originally posted by seabreeze
Why do guys like to stare directly at a woman's face during sex?

Scanning where to aim for the money shot! (Sorry I skimmed through the post, I don't know if someone already gave that answer).

seabreeze
05-25-2005, 05:44 PM
Azzy!!! baby!! How you been?!

Don Ronny, that goes both ways brotha. Both ways...
SB:D