Ok. I've been friends with this chick for about a year now. We've always enjoyed each others company, and I have recieved a lot of signals from her. So yesterday I bought a rose from the flourist and gave it to her after school, and asked her to the formal. She said, "Awww pricey, thats soo sweet. Yes." For the rest of the arvo till I got picked up she was happy as ever and full of energy.
However. Today I go to school, and its weird.
She looks bored, sad and depressed. Like she would rather be anywhere right now than with me.
There are awkward silences in our conversations, and we have no idea what to talk about. She claims that she is tired. However, I see her with other people and shes happy. I don't understand this. I've wanted to ask her for quite some time now, because I thought it would be easier. But if this is the way its gunna be, I'd prefer not to of asked her. I'm even stuttering and act nervous.
Why is this?
I don't think I've down anything to upset her. From the moment I said, "hi" i knew something was wrong.

Any help greatly appreciated.
Thanks

BUMP

Anyone?

There are good silences and there are bad ones. If you guys are struggleing to have a conversation, you need to try extra hard to get her to open up. She's just not comfortable around you yet. This doesn't mean that she isn't attracted to you or doesn't like you, it just means she might be a little shy around you now. Live up to that rose you gave her and show her your awesome personality.


If you're looking for things to talk about, start out with one thing you KNOW you have in common with her. PROM. Talk to her about what you all are going to do and branch off onto other topics. I'll make one up and give you an example:

You: Hey babe, what's going on?
Her: Nothin, just got outta class
You: Pretty exited about prom?
Her: Yea, I really can't wait
You: Well, I think we're going to go eat at ___ first, get some pics, go to prom, and hit up a party at my friends afterwords.
Her: That sounds great. We're eating at ___!! I love that place. I remember this one time when I was little, my mom took me out there and it was soo good
You: What was your favorite thing to eat there?
Her: The fish
You: Mine too!

That's probably the best way I'd go about it. Of course you don't have to talk about prom or fish, but you get the drift Good luck man

Well he did say that he has been friends with her for a year now, so I'm assuming he's comfortable talking to her, as she is with him. I wonder if maybe after you asked her she told her friends and then they talked to her and got her thinking maybe she shouldn't have said yes, because of the good friendship you guys have. Maybe she just wants to stay friends and doesn't want to wreck what you guys have. Every guy wants to get laid on prom night. Maybe she doesn't want that with you, because she likes what you have already.

If you are fine with staying friends, then you need to just mention to her that you are fine with that and that you don't want anyting more than friends either and that you're on the same page. Next time you're with her, just say "You're cool with us going to formal JUST as friends right? I mean, I don't want to wreck what we have".

She will either agree and be happy or get upset because she does want something more. In that case, go for it! haha.

K. Well I'm not trying to get laid on Prom night. I go to a Christian school so I won't be doing any screwing.

The formal is in November so its a fair way away. I don't really know if talking about the formal is such a good idea yet.
With the rose I gave her a card as well. On the card it said, "Dear *****, Will you go to the formal with me? Your friend, Andrew"
So she knows we're going as just friends.

Yesterday we did get some good conversation going, however. We spent the lunch time looking for some other guy, who has a date to the formal, but uses a lot of kino on my date. She used to think he was weird, but now she doesn't. Whenever she is with me, she complains shes bored, but with him shes fine.
But seriously this guy is crazy, always talking about embarrasing things, making fun of her, poking her in the stomache etc. However he does massage her back a lot.
Personally I think she would rather go with this guy to the formal. How can I turn this around?

Problem one is that you are being affected by it. I dont know what you are doing when you are around her, but something is making her uneasy, which is making you uneasy, which is going to spiral out of control.

Take a half step back, compose yourself, and go on. Things may be a bit uneasy, but try and return things to normal. This does not mean try to talk to her about what is going on, try to overcompensate for her apparent bad mood. It simply means to be the same way that you used to. The sooner you take control and treat things the same, the sooner she will reciprocate. From there, you can try to move things ahead.

This other guy seems to have the confidence and kino and C&F......sounds like a DJ to me. You gotta step up buddy. Otherwise you're going to lose.

I'd say explore other avenues while this is going on. She sounds kinda flaky or not too sure that she is in to you that way. Meaning: NEXT!

You're stuttering, fawning over her, letting her know you really like her by giving her roses, worst of all you don't have anything interesting to talk about, and on top of that you're not entertaing her!

Come on man you know whats wrong here!

Use this as a lesson in what not to do.

If you don't know what to say around her and she thinks you're boring you're obvioulsy not comfortable enough with yourself around her to express your personality and be fun and interesting.

The other guy has game, you should see what he's doing and learn from it. Meaning this type of girl responds to that type of flirting. He's not giving her **** except for what she really wants...fun! Talking about crazy **** no one else will, which is getting her excited = fun, making fun of her in a non-insulting way = fun, poking her stomach....I used to do this **** to highschool girls all the time and I STILL do it to some of them. When you're really comfortable around people you know you do this stuff on occasion.

Case in point, yesterday I was at my parents house and they had this hot girl from church come over to decorate for a party later that night. She was a bit on the quiet side but all I did all night long was bust her balls and make fun of her. She had a huge smile on her face the whole time and loved it.

Move on to another girl and let her sit on the back burner for a while. You can probably recover this one in the future since you're in highschool but get some other girls into you and her intereest will probably return.