I'm in love with this girl who has a boyfriend of over two years. They've had tons of problems, but she always goes back to him. I hadn't considered myself an AFC in a long time...but looking back on things with her...I totally am. She knows how I feel, and she's expressed 'strong' feelings back...which is what has kept me thinking 'some day i'll be with her'. Finally, I've given up on it. I made too many mistakes, and I doubt we'll ever be together. I'm still her friend because she's awesome, but I'm not letting myself fall for what she says anymore.
I guess the whole point of this is...if you want a girl...never become her friend, and if she has a bf...but says she has feelings for you in that way...don't let yourself get caught up in it...because you will get hurt in the end.

ya, the friend zone is a bottomless pit with an exit hole at the bottom. also, ive seen this type of post a billion times, we ought to make some sort of special place for all the small issues to go so that we can focus on the bigger picture

Originally posted by stumpy_mcgee
She knows how I feel, and she's expressed 'strong' feelings back...which is what has kept me thinking 'some day i'll be with her'. Finally, I've given up on it.

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To her you are just an idiot she uses when she needs to talk to someone. Of course she will say she has strong feelings for you, but when it is all said and done she won't even leave her bf who she has tons of problems with! This is all bs. If she has expressed 'strong' feelings for you yet is still with problem bf, you know this is just bs. If she really wanted you she would have gone after you. Instead she has been with her bf for over 2 years. You are nothing more than a friend to her.

take this advice, don't be such an idiot not to see her bs. Stop being such a puzzy and be a real man, get a girlfriend of your own, don't take another man's woman or wait around for girls to leave their boyfriends.

Do you know how pathetic you sound? coming here saying you are in love with a girl that has had a bf for over 2 years, and you are waiting there like a p**** for her to leave him? stop wasting your precious life, read the dj bible, apply the concepts to your life and get yourself your own girlfriends

Originally posted by stumpy_mcgee
I'm in love with this girl who has a boyfriend of over two years. They've had tons of problems, but she always goes back to him. I hadn't considered myself an AFC in a long time...but looking back on things with her...I totally am. She knows how I feel, and she's expressed 'strong' feelings back...which is what has kept me thinking 'some day i'll be with her'. Finally, I've given up on it. I made too many mistakes, and I doubt we'll ever be together. I'm still her friend because she's awesome, but I'm not letting myself fall for what she says anymore.
I guess the whole point of this is...if you want a girl...never become her friend, and if she has a bf...but says she has feelings for you in that way...don't let yourself get caught up in it...because you will get hurt in the end.

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is your name sergio?! you sound like my girlfriend's best friend

Originally posted by chill
ya, the friend zone is a bottomless pit with an exit hole at the bottom

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You do realize you just contradicted yourself there, right?

Friend zone is absolute garbage.

It's good, however, that you can realize and identify the issue - that's the first step to getting out of these predicaments.

If it helps any - take solace in that women get in the 'friends zone' with guys a lot too, and regret it as well.

Ouch...that was kinda harsh. I asked for it though. Just to defend myself...a lot of guys, and yes, real men, end up falling for taken girls, who they are friends with. I know I've gotta focus on those other girls who are interested in me...it just sucks sometimes when you want the girl who'll never want you.