I have come to realize this site has too many rules and has made me paranoid as coming across as needy.

I went out on a first date a couple of weeks ago and it went pretty good. The girl called me the next day and left a voicemail saying she had a nice time. I would have called her back, but my phone was acting funny and I did not get the message until Monday morning.

Here lies the problem: We went out on Saturday and I figured I would not call her, I would just wait to see her in class (tuesday) to remain "mysterious" and non-desperate.

Well, this has back fired on me, since the girl's IL has plummeted and is blowing me off.

MORAL OF THE STORY: Don't read too much of what you read on this site...alot of it is BS. Everygirl is different.

Obviously, not calling her before I saw her in class screwed things up. It was not the date, because she never would of called and said she had a nice time.

I say 2-3 days wait is good. Anti-dump's 4-5 days is a lil too much for me.

The rules on this site are not set in stone. You've got to have some instinct to what you need to do in certain situations. If a girl reacts one way or another you have to react accordingly. There are general standards to be followed but you still have to do a great deal of the foot work by yourself.

Think of the site as a coach to get you practiced up for game time. The advice and practices get you ready for the show and when things are happening in real time you'll be able to recognize them and play accordingly to what you've been taught. Players aren't robots, they have to make smart decisions on their own while in the field.