the last couple of days havent really tallked to her....she called me last night..I was just about home..told me I can stop by if I wanted too.

I stopped by....we talked...some....she told me she missed me and this and that..I told her ive been having fun out doing things...ended up making out and kinda messing around on her bed....accidently fell asleep...so stayed over....that wasnt something I wanted to do.

it wasnt bad..I didnt call her sweetie, blah..she told me why are you not being so nice..I just wansnt being supersweet..I told her I missed her 1 time...that was it.


whats my next move guys? go on with my business like I was?

yep... go on with life without her as you normally would.. and let her wonder why you havent begged for her back yet.

if her IL in you is high enough, she'll soon come crawling back

Well, I know that this is a hard situation friv. I almost ended up in it with my current girl.

However, you guys did break off. THat was supposed to be permanent.

If you do get back together you'll probably go through the exact same thing again.

Fooling around with her is ok if you don't give her any verbal or dynamic indication that you still "love" her or whatnot. She'll probably get some sort of emotional satisfaction with it so I can tell you that you're also gonna have to brandish a heart of lead to withstand the waterworks when you tell her you are dating other women, or when she finds out.

Go date other women. You are a free man.

she meant something to you mate... if she comes crawling back begging for forgiveness, i see no reason why you shouldn't give it another shot.. it may end in hurt again, but its only a possibility. its also highly possible that she may have regretted dumping you the way she did, and if she means enough to you, give it another try, you may be surprised at the results. if she doesnt mean that much to you at all and you resent her to the core for what she did then do as what Luveno said -

"go date other women. you are a free man"

thanks for the replys....well she didnt break up with me.

actually she told me she was unsure and confused..also homesick and I also had her chasing me..and I ended up doing some of the chasing towards the end. and I realize I ****ed up there. If she broke up with me...then I wouldnt really be doing this..but Im not some afc senile..I know we ahve somethning great..I also know she really does care about me, attracted to me, likes having sex with me, ect. she has High IL..she wanted some space to get things together..and she tried talking to me everyday of it...also missed to the point of just wanted my arms around her.

she deserves a 2nd shot...but believe me..that afc that almost came out in me....wont!

and as for the free man....I plan on dating others!

I didnt tell her, I liked her at all..she told me she missed me hugging me..and I didnt say it back. I also commented on how I lke my new gym(jokingly) about all the hotties that workout there as well!

I figure I gave her "chris" fix so she can prolong this before wanting me back...its time to make this weekend like the plague! also tonight going out to the local bars to see whats crackin