I went to visit a college I might go to (I'm definately going to one, just haven't decided yet) and I went to a frat party and it was cool. But I've never been in an environment where I can go anywhere and stay out as late as I can and not have to worry about someone seeing me sneak a girl into my room.

So, the question is, let's say I dance with a girl for a few songs and we are having fun and junk and I think she is hot. How do I get alone with her? I was thinking just whisper in her ear while dancing after a while "Wanna go somewhere?" or some bullspit like that.

Is that too forward? I mean, I wouldn't know the girl (if I did, it wouldn't be an issue), but then again parties are loud and it's not really a place where you should start a conversation. I was also thinking about maybe approaching her later but that would seem kinda desperate if she saw that I took the time to look for her later and on top of that I think girls have different mindsets during party time.

Anyway, I just basically want to know how do I get a hot girl who I dance with at a party to go with me somewhere more private without getting an awkward rejection and without coming off like an AFC?

Here ya go:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=60342

Not exactly a direct answer to your question but more so advice on being succesful in college.

First off just forget that this website exists unless you really need help. Spend your first year meeting every person that you can. Fat girls, ugly girls, exchange students, frat boys, drunks...everyone. Build up the biggest social circle that you can and enjoy yourself. Social proof is probably the biggest thing to college girls. If you are a well liked guy who constantly has people wanting to hang out with them you will almost certainly have girls be hitting on you.

I really think you would be best served just going out with the intention to have fun and not worry about screwing up. Everyone gets rejected sometimes, thats just life. Really I think that is half the fun. If you frequent parties/bars you'll very quickly become good at reading girls and knowing which ones you can isolate more easily.

Okay so exactly what interpols post says. I'm just to lazy to go into the details as eloquently as he has done.

That post really doesn't apply to my question because it's a different type of parties. The parties I go to people aren't standing around socializing, they are dancing their asses off. You have to shout right next to someone's ear to talk to them.

And to dance with a girl you just get behind them, grab their waist and start grooving. I'm just not totally sure on how to go from that to a convo or even just straight from that to "wanna go watch a movie in my dorm" or some bullspit like that.

But, yeah, I think I am pretty good with females. Like, I spent 4 days at MIT, starting talking to this girl the 2nd day and she was stuck on me the whole time. Followed me everywhere. I have a girlfriend, so I didn't do anything but I knew that I could have if I wanted to.

BTW, I just said I have a girlfriend, but you know how long-distance relationships go, especially since she is not going to the same college I am.

Are you basing the parties you go to on the one party during your visit?

Well, that's how all the parties have been throughout my high school career. And that's how it was when I visited Dartmouth too in the fall. I have never been to the type of party to see on tv when they show colleges (like the low-key party on 'Legally Blonde' -- I know, it's all I could think of at the time -- or even Drumline).

Maybe it's because I'm black...

Originally posted by JCKey618
That post really doesn't apply to my question because it's a different type of parties. The parties I go to people aren't standing around socializing, they are dancing their asses off. You have to shout right next to someone's ear to talk to them.

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I've never been to a party where EVERY SINGLE PERSON is dancing. There should always be people standing around, taking a break from the dance floor, having a drink, etc.

If you do want to approach someone on the dance floor, just go up to them and start dancing. In this case, catching a girl's interest will depend a lot on 1.) Your skill as a dancer, and 2.) How physically attractive you are.

After she dances with you for a few songs, you can either say "see ya later" and go mack some other chicks (build up mystery) or grab her arm and say "let's take a break" where you can proceed to game on as I describe in my post.