I've realized that in the past three months or so of dating my girlfriend, I have been turning back to an AFC. I've been calling her too much, acknowledging her too much, and have become more of the "follower" instead of the "leader."

Nothing magnifies the AFCness most, though, than when sex comes up. It seems that SHE is the one who dictates whether or not we have sex. She knows that since I'm always willing to do it, she can just have it whenever she wants.

Last night, we were just kinda messing around because we didn't have any condoms. Well anyway she starts rubbing against me and getting off. She decided to give me a handjob. In a couple minutes, she achieves her "mini orgasm," yet I have not. Then after this, she just starts acting non-sexual. It comes across to me as "well okay, I got what I want and now I'll just do what I HAVE to." So she starts doing this sh*tty ass handjob as if she just wants get it done as fast as possible. I wasn't going to have it, so I just pulled my pants up and told her how what she's doing isn't turning me on.

Then when she starts acting b*tchy and claiming it to be my fault, I tell her that I'm leaving, that I've had enough BS for one night.

The only thing is that I DIDN'T end up leaving. I ended up being nice to her and waited around for her to come with me. So there ya go, total f*cking AFC at work!

I think the problem is that I LIKE having a gf. I really don't like having to go back and playing all the stupid games of attraction. I just like having sex, having some company, and doing what's more important in life.

But anyway, sometimes I feel like this girl is in control, knows it, and is soaking it up at my expense. And this really does irritate me.

Are there ANY tips to help me out here?

THANKS

Your biggest problem is showing that you're irritated. There's no point in getting prissy. All you do is lose respect.

If you hand her the power she's gonna use it.

The only way to get true magnificent and awesome power back is to shove a gun into her mouth.

Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
Wow. Sounds just like me dude. We need to take a step back here and think about how to get back on track. She doesn't do her job and I tell her i'm gonna leave but I stay anyway.

I'm still DJ about calling her and attention and all the shyt. But. I've gone back to near AFC with all the sexual stuff though. Sometimes I get too d@mn horny. Somebody please slap me across my fvckin face...

Master DJ's please help us with this! :wave:

How do we get the power back??

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Ya man, we need to grab our f*cking balls and start acting like men.

It seems like the whole DJ thing is just a facade because when I get horny, my d*ck takes over and rolls me right back into AFC mode. So no matter how many DJ acts I do, she still really does have the power.

Time to just not get irritated, and when it happens again, just get up and leave, and go do something else.

Originally posted by Hellboy
Your biggest problem is showing that you're irritated. There's no point in getting prissy. All you do is lose respect.

If you hand her the power she's gonna use it.

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So I should just ignore it? At the same time, I don't want her to know that it does piss me off, and that I'm not just okay with it. So should I just leave?

Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
???

STFU F@G...

Anyone wanna be serious about this?? Thanks.

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I will after your dad lets go of his mouth off my penis.

Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
So I should just ignore it? At the same time, I don't want her to know that it does piss me off, and that I'm not just okay with it. So should I just leave?

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Why would you leave? That isn't the sort of behavior that's gonna get you respected. Keep it light, and stay in control (of yourself too).

Next time 2 things:
1) Always have condoms.
2) If that's the way shes gonna play it, make sure you come first.

Im gonna keep tabs on this thread!

My girl had done nothing before I came along, but with all the damn gossip girls do, its no excuse for poor performance.

I'm a bit of a nypmho myself, but lately i've been keeping the ball in my park...

But yeah, i am interested to know how other guys here react to their girls selfishness in the sack. Usually i'll just end it, or get my rocks off quickly so I can move on.

If its the former, she visibly feels bad/asks whats wrong/apologises profusely etc. But ****, the last thing I want to do after being disappointed is talk about it. I'd rather go to sleep.

Any thoughts?

Originally posted by Hellboy
Why would you leave? That isn't the sort of behavior that's gonna get you respected. Keep it light, and stay in control (of yourself too).

Next time 2 things:
1) Always have condoms.
2) If that's the way shes gonna play it, make sure you come first.

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I have just put the condoms in my bag. No more of this bullsh*t. Next time, I'm just going to have sex with her, stay for a few minutes, then leave.

Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
so I just pulled my pants up and told her how what she's doing isn't turning me on.

Then when she starts acting b*tchy and claiming it to be my fault, I tell her that I'm leaving, that I've had enough BS for one night.

The only thing is that I DIDN'T end up leaving. I ended up being nice to her and waited around for her to come with me. So there ya go, total f*cking AFC at work!

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Next time you WALK, you KEEP ON WALKING!! Now she knows she's got you by the balls, and there will be no doubt in her mind that she has you P-whipped, that she OWNS you, until you stand up and walk away.

I'd wait until she's horny one night, get her all hot and bothered, and then right when she's getting into it/getting ready to come, just get up, put your clothes on, and walk out. Tell her you're bored.

May end up sending her off the deep end, but the expression on her face would be worth it!

If you are willing to sit there and let her take a **** on you for ANY reason, be it sex, money, status, WHATEVER...you are the b!tch in that relationship and she will most likely end up cheating or dumping you as soon as a REAL man comes along.

Most of the advice in this thread deals with how to fake like you don't want sex as much as you really do, like getting ready to fvck her and then "changing your mind." I would say that this is not a long term solution.

If you do this, she'll bang you more in the short-term to regain your validation and assure herself that you really do find her sexually attractive. However, once she's banged you enough times, she'll revalidate herself, and she'll know you were just faking it to try and make her want you more. Then, it won't be necessary to bang you so often.

What I would say is that, instead of pretending that you want sex LESS, you should make her want sex MORE. This is also better, because you can only fake it for so long before your real desires come out. Of course, this is a lot harder than simply playing hard to get.

First, you should be amazing in bed. Is she having multiple orgasms? Can you give good oral sex? Can you make her come just from fvcking her long and hard? if you can make the sex better than any that she's had in her life, then she'll want more. There's some really good techniques out there for sex, but more than anything else you have to learn to let go and release the beast within you in bed.

You also should be working on the DJ end of it. You should be alpha at all times, have great convo skills, keep improving your body and style, and develop a really sexy voice. Also, you should flirt with other girls regularly to social proof yourself, and let her know that you're desirable.

-Dan

http://www.rapidsocialimpact.com

When you like sex more than your manhood and dignity then you lose control of the woman - women know this - she has usurped your manhood - you become the woman and she becomes the man!!!!!!!! Welcome to the new generational oeder of things!

Re: Re: The Want of Sex Making me an AFC!

Originally posted by squirrels
Next time you WALK, you KEEP ON WALKING!! Now she knows she's got you by the balls, and there will be no doubt in her mind that she has you P-whipped, that she OWNS you, until you stand up and walk away.

I'd wait until she's horny one night, get her all hot and bothered, and then right when she's getting into it/getting ready to come, just get up, put your clothes on, and walk out. Tell her you're bored.

May end up sending her off the deep end, but the expression on her face would be worth it!

If you are willing to sit there and let her take a **** on you for ANY reason, be it sex, money, status, WHATEVER...you are the b!tch in that relationship and she will most likely end up cheating or dumping you as soon as a REAL man comes along.

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I have already noticed little things that seem to illustrate less respect towards me, and this absolutely unacceptable in my mind.

I don't f*cking care anymore...I'm gonna take that AFC part of me and stomp on it. No more making excuses.