Mos def made this song, many are familiar with it from Jordan ads from a few years back. Great song with a great message.

The title of the song reeks of self acceptance, self love, self trust, and the want to give your love to others. That is a key to being successful with women and being happy with yourself.

You gotta beleive in yourself, you have something to give to the world. Love. Shine it unabashedly, because you want to. Don't do it because it will get your women or friends, do it because you are happy.

Don't expect something in return.

Be a giver. Givers are very rare, everyone expects that people should love them, we believe that we deserve everything, and we think the world, or society is unfair, its never our fault is it? We always place the blame elsewhere. This is desperation and it is unattractive.

Stop seeking to get and start looking to give!

Be unselfesh, shine your light on the world, we deserve to bask in your shine. If someone likes the shade, don't worry, move on, your not doing this to gain acceptance, your doing it out of love and joy.

I'm not saying you gotta be a super nice, polite to everyone, goody goody. Because no one is really like that and people that pretend to be only end up looking pretentious and holier than thou. Make jokes, make fun of others and yourself to get everyone around you in a good mood.

You always hear people on this site saying you shouldn't care what others think of you. Thats exactly right, you shouldn't but that doesn't mean you should walk around acting cold because you don't care what they think of you, it means you should be social and not expect anything in return for it. If people like you great, if not oh well, thats not gonna stop you from shining your light. Thats what makes people say so and so is cool. Being cool is all about not caring what others think, but you want to be approachably cool.

You gotta love yourself, that is key to all of this becuase when you do, you really don't care if people don't like and you won't be desperate for acceptance, and people will want to be around you. The key is you. Once you got that love, share it.

Mr. Mystery

Yes.
All should be able to help, to love, to share their warmth with those who sincerely need it. Yet at the same time, stand their ground, and not get walked over by anyone with lower standards.
This applies to me more than anybody. In worrying about getting "played" I forget that I have a certain power in myself, and a duty to share it.

the song is called "Umi Says" for those interested