You know, I've been a member of this forum on an off now for a few years. This is actually the fourth generation of Albion that I've had. It sucks when you've forgotten your password and changed your e-mail. 
But, there's one thing I have noticed all over the place that really ticks me off.
Back in the 1800's there were these guys who traveled around the crountry side selling healing. They'd using bait and switch tactics to make you think that they could actually heal people, then they'd sit outside their tent selling their snake oil with claims of magical or biblical properties. People would buy this stuff and by the time they'd figure out that it really didn't work the snake oil artist would be long gone with their hard earned money. Dr. McGillicutty's actually started out as a snake oil.
Well all these guys selling their "pick up more chicks" books are the same thing. They sit around posting articles that tell you what's wrong with you then expect you to shell out tons of cash to find out how to fix it. Well you don't need that. So here's Albion's 2 step method to picking up chicks.
1. Stop being afraid
2. Build your self confidence.
That's it. Once you conquer those two things everything else will just come naturally. You won't have to think about what some guy wrote in some book because you're instinct will just do it for you.
Some of you may now be thinking, "But how do I build self-confidence." Well that's easy. When ever you want to learn something you must first define what you are learning. So I'll do that for you.
- Fear is the fight or flight instinct mixed with past experience and your consious minds deliberation of the current situation.
- Confidence is the ability to place yourself in line of danger without the fear of consequence.
- Danger can be anything from a girl laughing at you after you've tried to talk to her, to a brute picking on your girlfriend, to a bear threatening to eat your children, to your boss firing you when you demand a raise.
Understand exactly what the consequences and ramifications of your actions are and be willing to accept them when you must face them. Understand that when you step up to that bully who's picking on your girlfriend that you may get hit. But, understanding that 90% of the time a fight will usually end with one of the two parties backing down from the stare or the exchange of words. And that all depends on your intelligence and what you know. But knowing that you only have a 10% chance of getting hit by Mr. brut gives you the confidence to stand up to him.
Always keep your head clear and keep your mind educated. The more you learn the more you know, the more you know the more power you have over an opponent or a situation. Make sure what you know is truth. Don't believe something just because some dude at the end of the bar told you. Research your knowledge and find the truth. With the onset of the internet it's nearly impossible to not be able to find out the correct information.
Learn to recognise when you are afraid. Cognativly determin why you were afraid. Place yourself in that situation again and feel the fear. Ride it like a rollercoaster instead of letting it initiate the fight or flight reaction. Think about it alanyse it and understand why it's there. Usually that alone will give you an epiphany that there's nothing to be afraid of.
Once you start to overcome your fears things will start to get easier and easier. After time it will just become second nature. We are creatures of habit after all. Once you overcome the fear you WILL show an aire of self confidence. And it won't be someway that someone told you to stand, a haircut, or the way you dress. It will be because you were confident in your ability, you understood and accepted the consequences of your actions, and you weren't afraid. Chicks dig that!
-Al
But, there's one thing I have noticed all over the place that really ticks me off. Back in the 1800's there were these guys who traveled around the crountry side selling healing. They'd using bait and switch tactics to make you think that they could actually heal people, then they'd sit outside their tent selling their snake oil with claims of magical or biblical properties. People would buy this stuff and by the time they'd figure out that it really didn't work the snake oil artist would be long gone with their hard earned money. Dr. McGillicutty's actually started out as a snake oil.
Well all these guys selling their "pick up more chicks" books are the same thing. They sit around posting articles that tell you what's wrong with you then expect you to shell out tons of cash to find out how to fix it. Well you don't need that. So here's Albion's 2 step method to picking up chicks.
1. Stop being afraid
2. Build your self confidence.
That's it. Once you conquer those two things everything else will just come naturally. You won't have to think about what some guy wrote in some book because you're instinct will just do it for you.
Some of you may now be thinking, "But how do I build self-confidence." Well that's easy. When ever you want to learn something you must first define what you are learning. So I'll do that for you.
- Fear is the fight or flight instinct mixed with past experience and your consious minds deliberation of the current situation.
- Confidence is the ability to place yourself in line of danger without the fear of consequence.
- Danger can be anything from a girl laughing at you after you've tried to talk to her, to a brute picking on your girlfriend, to a bear threatening to eat your children, to your boss firing you when you demand a raise.
Understand exactly what the consequences and ramifications of your actions are and be willing to accept them when you must face them. Understand that when you step up to that bully who's picking on your girlfriend that you may get hit. But, understanding that 90% of the time a fight will usually end with one of the two parties backing down from the stare or the exchange of words. And that all depends on your intelligence and what you know. But knowing that you only have a 10% chance of getting hit by Mr. brut gives you the confidence to stand up to him.
Always keep your head clear and keep your mind educated. The more you learn the more you know, the more you know the more power you have over an opponent or a situation. Make sure what you know is truth. Don't believe something just because some dude at the end of the bar told you. Research your knowledge and find the truth. With the onset of the internet it's nearly impossible to not be able to find out the correct information.
Learn to recognise when you are afraid. Cognativly determin why you were afraid. Place yourself in that situation again and feel the fear. Ride it like a rollercoaster instead of letting it initiate the fight or flight reaction. Think about it alanyse it and understand why it's there. Usually that alone will give you an epiphany that there's nothing to be afraid of.
Once you start to overcome your fears things will start to get easier and easier. After time it will just become second nature. We are creatures of habit after all. Once you overcome the fear you WILL show an aire of self confidence. And it won't be someway that someone told you to stand, a haircut, or the way you dress. It will be because you were confident in your ability, you understood and accepted the consequences of your actions, and you weren't afraid. Chicks dig that!
-Al
