Ok hopefully someone will be able to help me here. When I am around women, I come off as a jerk, like I tease or for instance a girl will ask me for a smoke and I will say things like "if you do a trick for me" or "after this dont ask me for another one" shiit like that. And this is very natural for me to do. In all actuality I am just being myself, I am cranky most of the time and am a negative person. it just fits who I am, I dont wanna be positive and fake when my humor is geared more in a negative fashion. Should I just be who I am? People that know me dont get offended and bullshiit back with me when I tease them, but to people that dont know me, they may get offended. To put this in better perspective, I treat most women like I would my sister, I dont kiss there azz, and if I dont feel like talking to them I dont. I like saying rude things in a playful matter. What do women think of this kind of behavior, is it ok to be this way? I am like the guy in American Splender, if youve seen that movie. If something is not funny I dont fake laugh, I basically have no social fakeness about me and it sometimes could rub people wrong. Im a genuinley nice guy but just come across as a diick sometimes. anybody like this?
Thanks,
ROn

Originally posted by saki
Ok hopefully someone will be able to help me here. When I am around women, I come off as a jerk, like I tease or for instance a girl will ask me for a smoke and I will say things like "if you do a trick for me" or "after this dont ask me for another one" shiit like that. And this is very natural for me to do. In all actuality I am just being myself, I am cranky most of the time and am a negative person. it just fits who I am, I dont wanna be positive and fake when my humor is geared more in a negative fashion. Should I just be who I am? People that know me dont get offended and bullshiit back with me when I tease them, but to people that dont know me, they may get offended. To put this in better perspective, I treat most women like I would my sister, I dont kiss there azz, and if I dont feel like talking to them I dont. I like saying rude things in a playful matter. What do women think of this kind of behavior, is it ok to be this way? I am like the guy in American Splender, if youve seen that movie. If something is not funny I dont fake laugh, I basically have no social fakeness about me and it sometimes could rub people wrong. Im a genuinley nice guy but just come across as a diick sometimes. anybody like this?
Thanks,
ROn

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I say continue what you're doing.

Most women(especially the hot ones) deserve it and ask for it anyhow.

Being yourself is the best thing you could do to attract the type of girl for you.

fair enough guys, I guess I am doing nothing wrong then by just being myself. Some girls make take it too harsh initially, but oh well theyll get over it just like i get over them

Try saying those lines with a smirk or smile. They'll see that and assume that you're just being an ass in a sarcastic way.

Alexi

FYI, I used to be the same way. Now what I do is either smirk so they know I'm joking around, or I make such an OUTRAGEOUS request/remark that they KNOW I'm joking.

Welcome to my world!

My feeling on this is...why pretend to be something you are not? Women should know right off the bat the kind of guy they are dealing with.

If a girl ever gets offended, I make fun of her for being sensitive till she sees what a dork she is being. Then I let her make it up to me with some nice head.