Craig Reeves
Master Don Juan
Hello everybody. I've decided that in times like these we need some words of encouragement....
To All Of Those Who Don't Know Where To Start or are Just Starting Out...
The first thing I can tell you is this...
If you are just starting out, the first thing you must do is admit the problem you are having. Usually, this problem is that you are poor with women. You dating life sucks, and you want it to improve. You are willing to improve your dating life but you must then realize that it may take some time, effort, dedication, disicipline, and learning things that you may not want to believe to get to that point.
The next thing that I can tell you is that once you realize all of this....you must now accept the fact that it will not be easy nor will it come overnight. Period. I dont' care how fast of a learner you are, I do not care how much potential or how good-looking you are....if you are NO GOOD with women, this will NOT come overnight.
Finally, to those who are just starting out....don't get discouraged just because you don't see immediate results. Expect your first TEN ventures to be failures. Expect your first ten cold approaches to be failures. You CANNOT get around this. You will not be successful immediately even if you follow every technique available to a TEE. Techniques will NOT WORK until they can flow from WITHIN and become a PART of you. Until you are in the ZONE (where you aren't thinking about "is she into me", but you are enjoying what you are doing and the techniques are so a part of you that they just flow naturally), your techniques will always wind up in failure. This is why you must KEEP FAILING until you succeed. There is no such worthy prize that doesn't require pain to recieve.
None of these techniques are a PART of you and cannot flow NATURALLY from WITHIN until you have FAILED as well as succeeded many times over and over and over. Techniques are NOTHING without making them your OWN. And the only way to make them your own is to get out there and use them so much until you know them backwards and forwards. I see way too many guys give up when something a dating book teaches them fails for them in the real world simply because they are doing it strictly by the book and aren't allowing THEMSELVES to be a part of it.
Techniques are useless unless they are BROUGHT TO LIFE BY *YOU*. They have to be performed with confidence and finesse - and the ONLY way you will be able to do that is if you use it OVER and OVER and OVER again, failure or no failure.
To Those Who Are Learning....
Now to address those who regularly come to this site, in hopes of improving his life with women....
Make sure that you are not using this site as an excuse to obstain from taking ACTION. 95% of your learning will come from FIRST HAND EXPERIENCE. Never read more than you have to, and never ask questions on this forum unless there is no way at all that you can figure what you want to know out on your own through your own experience. Never be afraid to experiment. Ever. If you are unsure if something is "okay" for you to do, try going out there and FINDING OUT FOR YOURSELF....because a certain action may be OK for somebody else to do, but it ISN'T OK for YOU. Remember that. Experience and going out there and DOING IT should be your guide. Only use this site (or even the DJB for that matter) if you cannot get your answer from experience.
Something else....
I know times get tough, and I know there are instances when you feel hopeless, but NEVER, EVER let ANYONE make you feel ashamed for wanting to learn. EVER. I can't tell you HOW many people will try and stop you once they find out that you are trying to learn this stuff. They WILL try and stop you, telling you to "just be yourself" and junk like that. You cannot allow these people to creep into your life. You only need to be around positive people.
Another thing...
Stop saying the words CAN'T on this forum. Stop saying "i guess I'm not (insert DJ quality here) enough to get this girl", or "maybe if I was more (insert DJ quality here), maybe she'd like me."
Not only is this discouraging yourself and ultimately confirming the fact that you will never get better once you start believing that, you are going about this ALL wrong. Never do ANYTHING to seek a woman's approval. Stop beating yourself up just because you didn't gain ONE woman's approval. Stop trying to PLEASE women and start focusing on pleasing YOURSELF. If YOU like a certain aspect of yourself, don't change it until YOU are ready, not when some woman is.
This isn't discussed a lot on this forum, but....
Don't ever sacrifice your own life just because you don't have a girl. Just because you do not have a girl does not give you any kind of excuse to sulk, feel sorry for yourself, and not improve yourself. Do not ever stop trying to improve yourself just because you haven't found a girl to impress, because you are not doing this for them, you are doing this for YOU. You're not learning all of this DJ stuff to make women approve of you, you're learning all of this DJ stuff to make YOUR dating life better. Don't ever wait around on a woman to make you happy, because if you aren't happy alone....you won't be happy with ANY woman. Period.
Stop beating yourself up over each and every one of your actions you have taken with a girl....even if they ultimately caused you to lose her. If you feel good about your actions with a girl and she drops you, then you would not have been happy with her to begin with and you should take it as a learning experience and something that builds character, not as a means of hurting you. There is no reason AT ALL to change your behavior with women just because ONE woman didn't like you when 12 other BETTER women DID.
I don't care HOW charming, good looking, tall, handsome, rich, or WHATEVER you are...you are going to run into a woman who isn't into you. But just because a woman isn't in to you, does not at all mean that she SHOULDN'T have been.
Do everything you can to improve yourself. Go to the gym and workout, read books, get a good nights sleep, go to church and pray (if you're religion calls for it), make friends and give to charity. Do all of this in seek of your OWN approval, so that YOU can look and feel better and more confident. Do this even if you are not currently seeking a girl. In fact, THAT'S the best time TO do it. Have high standards for youself and do not stop in your efforts to improve yourself and your life until YOU are satisfied. You are doing this for your OWN approval. Not anybody else's. You see, once you have your OWN approval, no woman can take that away from you and your confidence will skyrocket.
To Those That Have Read This....
I urge you to right now think about what you can do to improve your dating life. Think about what you can do TOMMOROW (which is Monday, the beginning of the week...a fresh start) to improve your dating life. Think about where you are at RIGHT NOW, and think about where you want to be. Think about something that you can do TOMMOROW that will give you EXPERIENCE in this area of life. I don't care if it's simply to go to a department store and say hi to as many women as you can - you will learn far more from doing THAT than reading a forum. If you want your dating life to improve, seek only those that will encourage you to reach for your dreams, because without dreams, there can be no accomplishment.
Thank you, and God bless,
Craig Reeves
To All Of Those Who Don't Know Where To Start or are Just Starting Out...
The first thing I can tell you is this...
If you are just starting out, the first thing you must do is admit the problem you are having. Usually, this problem is that you are poor with women. You dating life sucks, and you want it to improve. You are willing to improve your dating life but you must then realize that it may take some time, effort, dedication, disicipline, and learning things that you may not want to believe to get to that point.
The next thing that I can tell you is that once you realize all of this....you must now accept the fact that it will not be easy nor will it come overnight. Period. I dont' care how fast of a learner you are, I do not care how much potential or how good-looking you are....if you are NO GOOD with women, this will NOT come overnight.
Finally, to those who are just starting out....don't get discouraged just because you don't see immediate results. Expect your first TEN ventures to be failures. Expect your first ten cold approaches to be failures. You CANNOT get around this. You will not be successful immediately even if you follow every technique available to a TEE. Techniques will NOT WORK until they can flow from WITHIN and become a PART of you. Until you are in the ZONE (where you aren't thinking about "is she into me", but you are enjoying what you are doing and the techniques are so a part of you that they just flow naturally), your techniques will always wind up in failure. This is why you must KEEP FAILING until you succeed. There is no such worthy prize that doesn't require pain to recieve.
None of these techniques are a PART of you and cannot flow NATURALLY from WITHIN until you have FAILED as well as succeeded many times over and over and over. Techniques are NOTHING without making them your OWN. And the only way to make them your own is to get out there and use them so much until you know them backwards and forwards. I see way too many guys give up when something a dating book teaches them fails for them in the real world simply because they are doing it strictly by the book and aren't allowing THEMSELVES to be a part of it.
Techniques are useless unless they are BROUGHT TO LIFE BY *YOU*. They have to be performed with confidence and finesse - and the ONLY way you will be able to do that is if you use it OVER and OVER and OVER again, failure or no failure.
To Those Who Are Learning....
Now to address those who regularly come to this site, in hopes of improving his life with women....
Make sure that you are not using this site as an excuse to obstain from taking ACTION. 95% of your learning will come from FIRST HAND EXPERIENCE. Never read more than you have to, and never ask questions on this forum unless there is no way at all that you can figure what you want to know out on your own through your own experience. Never be afraid to experiment. Ever. If you are unsure if something is "okay" for you to do, try going out there and FINDING OUT FOR YOURSELF....because a certain action may be OK for somebody else to do, but it ISN'T OK for YOU. Remember that. Experience and going out there and DOING IT should be your guide. Only use this site (or even the DJB for that matter) if you cannot get your answer from experience.
Something else....
I know times get tough, and I know there are instances when you feel hopeless, but NEVER, EVER let ANYONE make you feel ashamed for wanting to learn. EVER. I can't tell you HOW many people will try and stop you once they find out that you are trying to learn this stuff. They WILL try and stop you, telling you to "just be yourself" and junk like that. You cannot allow these people to creep into your life. You only need to be around positive people.
Another thing...
Stop saying the words CAN'T on this forum. Stop saying "i guess I'm not (insert DJ quality here) enough to get this girl", or "maybe if I was more (insert DJ quality here), maybe she'd like me."
Not only is this discouraging yourself and ultimately confirming the fact that you will never get better once you start believing that, you are going about this ALL wrong. Never do ANYTHING to seek a woman's approval. Stop beating yourself up just because you didn't gain ONE woman's approval. Stop trying to PLEASE women and start focusing on pleasing YOURSELF. If YOU like a certain aspect of yourself, don't change it until YOU are ready, not when some woman is.
This isn't discussed a lot on this forum, but....
Don't ever sacrifice your own life just because you don't have a girl. Just because you do not have a girl does not give you any kind of excuse to sulk, feel sorry for yourself, and not improve yourself. Do not ever stop trying to improve yourself just because you haven't found a girl to impress, because you are not doing this for them, you are doing this for YOU. You're not learning all of this DJ stuff to make women approve of you, you're learning all of this DJ stuff to make YOUR dating life better. Don't ever wait around on a woman to make you happy, because if you aren't happy alone....you won't be happy with ANY woman. Period.
Stop beating yourself up over each and every one of your actions you have taken with a girl....even if they ultimately caused you to lose her. If you feel good about your actions with a girl and she drops you, then you would not have been happy with her to begin with and you should take it as a learning experience and something that builds character, not as a means of hurting you. There is no reason AT ALL to change your behavior with women just because ONE woman didn't like you when 12 other BETTER women DID.
I don't care HOW charming, good looking, tall, handsome, rich, or WHATEVER you are...you are going to run into a woman who isn't into you. But just because a woman isn't in to you, does not at all mean that she SHOULDN'T have been.
Do everything you can to improve yourself. Go to the gym and workout, read books, get a good nights sleep, go to church and pray (if you're religion calls for it), make friends and give to charity. Do all of this in seek of your OWN approval, so that YOU can look and feel better and more confident. Do this even if you are not currently seeking a girl. In fact, THAT'S the best time TO do it. Have high standards for youself and do not stop in your efforts to improve yourself and your life until YOU are satisfied. You are doing this for your OWN approval. Not anybody else's. You see, once you have your OWN approval, no woman can take that away from you and your confidence will skyrocket.
To Those That Have Read This....
I urge you to right now think about what you can do to improve your dating life. Think about what you can do TOMMOROW (which is Monday, the beginning of the week...a fresh start) to improve your dating life. Think about where you are at RIGHT NOW, and think about where you want to be. Think about something that you can do TOMMOROW that will give you EXPERIENCE in this area of life. I don't care if it's simply to go to a department store and say hi to as many women as you can - you will learn far more from doing THAT than reading a forum. If you want your dating life to improve, seek only those that will encourage you to reach for your dreams, because without dreams, there can be no accomplishment.
Thank you, and God bless,
Craig Reeves
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