alright, this isn't exactly about don juan stuff, but I have no other place to turn for advice.

I am in a long distance relationship with a girl who lives about 2 hours away from me. We get to see each other about once a week, and hopefully by the end of this next school year my family and I will be moving up closer to her.

but now to the point. I don't know if its me worrying, or what, but I need peoples opinions on my situation. We talk a lot online, and also on the phone, but the problem is her father has nothing like free long distance, or anything like that, and so the long distance phone calls are racking up her phone bill. (or so her dad says). Now, tonight, she told me that we should limit ourselves to how much we talk on the phone, and instead talk online more. I wasn't to happy to hear this because I'm worried that when we talk online, it will become less "real" and that might lead to us breaking up. She seems to think its not a problem at all and that since she knows "she has me and I have her" we will be fine.

What i didn't like even more, was the time she wants to limit us to on the phone. Right now we talk about every night, for an hour or a couple hours. MAYBE once in a while a little less then that. But NOW she wants to (starting today) cut it down to where we talk every other day on the phone, for about 10-15 minutes! So like monday, wednesday, friday, and who knows what we will do on the weekends.

WTF?! she says we need to do it, otherwise her dad will say she can never talk to me on the phone again since it cost so much. But to me that seems like a HUGE extreme to cut down on. I'm afraid she might be wanting to break up with me and trying to get rid of me slowly, but she says she loves me and will sometimes say the sweetest things that shows she does. but i'm just like worried. Is cutting down that much on talking on the phone going to hurt our relationship? I need some help.

talking on the phone that much is no good. talking every other day for 10-15 minutes is perfect because you'll have that much more to talk about when you are together...people can have too much contact to the point where its not exciting anymore and when that happens one party involved will probobly break things off. I used to chat on the phone for long periods of time with girfriends and it never did squat for me. It took away challenge and mystery as well as valuable time to do other things

I understand how you feel. I am acually in a similar situation. The only difference is that i can talk to her for as long as i want...she is just very busy and "calls me back"

I know this is hard to digest. But you must relax. Why?
Well, Number 1. You have no choice. What can you do? You care about her alot...i can tell...so make sure it won't break up. I can't see that happening - based on what you posted.

Life has a way of working things out. Talk to her, enjoy the time you have on the phone. And when you move...

Life isnt easy - ups and downs...if u compare to my situation...at least your girlfriend apprehiates you more. Don't doubt her...it isnt easy. Take the advice of a member here and purchase a calling card; enabling you to talk to her much LONGER without her spending money.

Don't worry about it much man. Both of you still like each other...and with that bond...it will not falter. Be strong...support the "bond" - its a 2 way street. If one breaks so does the other.
Don't break your part of the bond...she wont either. If she wanted to, i mean she has no reason not to. I mean she lives 2hrs away so if she didnt like you in the first place - she has no reason to hide it.

thanks guys. Well I surprised her this last wednesday. I went and picked her up from school. She was beyond surprised to see me, and she couldn't stop smiling. Im sure that really made her feel good, plus she kept saying thanks for it haha. Well with the phone thing, we were trying to limit it, but we still talk a bunch on the phone. Just need to see where it goes.

I dont think she will break up with me. but i sometimes get worried that she something will happen. Especially since she is on some websites like buddypic.com and things, and gets messages all the time from guys wanting to talk and stuff. So much temptation for her. She hates people that cheat though, and has even said that if someone does stuff online she thinks its cheating, so I'm hoping her hatred for that stuff will keep her from ever doing that to me.

anyways, thanks peeps been a lot of help!