I just did and it kinda sucks worse than just getting shot down from the get go.

This girl has wanted to go out with me for sometime now so I took her out, at the end of the date she said she'd love to go out again but now she has been giving me the run around and won't return my calls.
It's time to next her but I can't help but wonder if I had a booger hanging out my nose all night or was I a complete **** and don't even realize it.

Yeah, I think out of all the first dates I've had, I've never made it to a second date. And it is worse than being rejected before a first date in some ways. If someone rejects you before a first date you can brush it off that they don't know you very well so you can't take it so personally. But after they date you once, it's like they see who you are and decide that they don't like it. Yes, it sucks. But what can you do about it?

yeah there's always a first date, just not second or more

i've had only 2 good first dates in my whole life.. yet i've ALWAYS managed to get a second date..

what are u guys doing wrong?

Originally posted by quest
i've had only 2 good first dates in my whole life.. yet i've ALWAYS managed to get a second date..

what are u guys doing wrong?

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I just suck and you are too cool. How do I respond to that question?

I believe my mistakes on first-date misses were:

Not going in for a kiss (if it's going good)

Picking her up in my beater car (I had a nicer car I was just too lazy to gas up)

Not being C&F enough

In one of my first dates, I had great convo. but I didn't kino enough. I also didn't go for the kiss at the end, so she prolly though I was AFC. Sheesh, never again!

I just suck and you are too cool. How do I respond to that question?

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DS, the same way jungalist did would be sufficient.

Originally posted by JuNgaLisT
I believe my mistakes on first-date misses were:

Not going in for a kiss (if it's going good)

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yeah thats prob bad, but shouldn't cost you your next date.

Picking her up in my beater car (I had a nicer car I was just too lazy to gas up)

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i've got a really bad looking car. a 1990 ford falcon (google it if u want) and i still got second dates.

Not being C&F enough

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this might mean, being too boring?

In one of my first dates, I had great convo. but I didn't kino enough. I also didn't go for the kiss at the end, so she prolly though I was AFC. Sheesh, never again!

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girls don't think "he's AFC" they may think, he lacks confidence, which they would then put down to "he's cute and shy" u should still get another date..


i think the only thing that could cost u a second date is if ur not having fun..

there is probably too much concentration of kino and conversation (mirroring what they say, etc.)

its rare you here anyone talking about having fun..

things which i do when dating..
- push the girl into something, maybe a pole, maybe a grandma.. just while ur walking bump her with ur side..
- tease her about this and that.. things which she likes.. "oh i like this song!" "so does my grandma.." "so does my 11 year old brother, he thinks liking this makes him cool"
-do a fun activity (i'd like to claim having done this on a first date, but truely all have been movies... )

its hard to try and teach someone how to have fun.. i think if u have alot of friends, u'll know how to have fun.. if u don't.. i don't know what to tell u.. make some friends and learn..

Originally posted by Dapper Swindler
I just suck and you are too cool. How do I respond to that question?

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lmao, haha. Nice.

Anytime I've really been into a girl in the last several years I've got a second date. The times where it's been "iffy", it means there wasn't much of a connection between us and I'm not feelin her so I don't call her again so there is no rejection against me.

The last time I was rejected was several years ago. I really got twisted over this girl. She had it all...or so I thought. Cuuuuuute face...gorgeous body...in fact, the best body I've yet to come across...ohhhh so nice...and she was really chill and fun to be around. She was diggin me hardcore and suggested we go back to my place to watch a movie. Cool with me. Of course you know what that means...we ended up fvcking. But like I said, I got twisted and became infatuated like a retard and started getting all lovey dovey after we fvcked. I'm sure it creeped her out cause it would creep me out. Anyway, she said she'd call me..hahahha...she never did. So I called her. And called her. And called her. My female friends told me to ignore her the next time I saw her, which was good advice....and I listened to it. But guess what...hahahahahhah...the next day I felt bad for ignoring her cause I thought it was uncool and out of my character so i called her to apologize!!!! ahahhahahahah. Luckily her mom answered and I just told her mom to have the girl call me back. After I hung up my female friend called to see how I was doing and I told her that I just called the girl to apologize for ignoring her. My female friend was like, "OMG!!!! You're so lame! Be a MAN!!! Do you know how much of a pvssy you look like now? BE A MAN. Don't call her to apologize. Fvck that slut. Ignore her." That was one of the few times where my female friend gave good advice on women.

I never did see that girl again and it was what brought me to this site and eventually led me into other things. Through it all I always remember my female friends advice.

So, if you're not getting a second date it's most likely because you're boring her, creeping her out, or just plain not creating a connection. If you have nothing exciting to talk about, if you're not having fun, then you're boring her and why would she want to experience that again? If you're talking about marriage, kids, looking at her with doe eyes, and agreeing with everything she says, then you're creeping her out. Again, why she want meet up for a second helping of that? If all you do is talk about superficial issues then she may feel no connection and think you just want to fvck her and leave. Unless she's a party girl, why would she want that from a guy who doesn't take any time to actually get to know her?

You have to be fun. You have to be laid back. And you have to get to know her. Behave the way you normally do around your friends.

Originally posted by Soma

You have to be fun. You have to be laid back. And you have to get to know her. Behave the way you normally do around your friends.

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great.. totally summarized everything you said in that sentence! couldnt have put it better.