Hey my fellow DJs!! I know it's been quite a while since I properly posted on here, so I thought I'd share a couple of recent experiences.

Lately I have been reading Mike Pilinski's work from highstatusmale.com, and I believe I have now found a seduction style that suits my personality, my culture (I live in the UK), and that consistently produces results.

I now almost always look for a non verbal 'GO' signal from a girl before I approach, and if the signs are right, then the seduction is easy peasy!!

An experience I had at the weekend:-

I was on a train coming home, when I made eye contact with a nice girl who was sat nearby. She was with a friend. I made a big effort to HOLd the eye contact for around 5 seconds and then smile. To my surprise, she smiled right back!!

Throughout the journey, which lasted about 25 mins, everytime I looked at her, she again smiled!! I 'knew' I was 'in'.

My only problem was that whilst I am good at getting the non verbal contact going, my weakness was what to say to start an actual conversation. I actually stumbled upon the answer unexpectadly.

As I was getting off the train, I walked past her, smiled and said 'alright'. I then continued walking into the station. The 2 girls were behind me and I could tell they were talking about me.

They went outside to wait for their lift home, and I was wondering what to say or do from here, as I KNEW she was interested because of the signals I got.

Suddenly I pulled a pound coin out of my pocket and I thought why not go and ask them to change the coin for change for the phonebox?? I then noticed the girl who was looking at me before walk near to the door where I was and take a look at me.

All of a sudden I felt a surge of confidence, and I went up to the 2 girls and said 'excuse me girls, do you have change for a pound coin??'. They answered yes and began looking in their purses. When I got the change, I said 'hold on a second, I'll just make sure you've not ripped me off!!' (in a joking tone of voice). They laughed and I then said 'nope, you're 10p short!', to which we had a bit of flirty fun teasing going on!

At this point I realised I had broken the ice, big time, and my next line was 'by the way you've got a nice smile', to which the girl in question loved!!!!

The conversation continued for a few minutes until her lift arrived to take them home. Unfortunately this happened so suddenly that I had no time to number close. I do however know where both girls work (they told me mcdonalds, which they seemed embarrassed about) so i may take a casual visit sometime and number close there.

The point is, TRIAL AND ERROR eventually leads to ANSWERS. READING THIS SITE AND NEVER TRYING ANYTHING FOR REAL DOES NOT.

Not a sausage of a reply then??

I gues my post was a little long?? I know people don't always bother reading long posts lol.

Well, I must say, those are the instances that really help develop the DJ personality. I think you did a great job with that cold approach, and you should definitely follow up one day. Even if you don't, though, that experience has helped you a whole lot, I would say. Congrats.

Don't drift into the left lane if you ain't ready to pass....

I've gotten the "go" signal to appraoch several times from hot girls and I didn't do anything because I didn't know what to say or I just wouldn't allow myself to believe that these hot girls were actually interested in me. I've been kicking myself everyday because of the opportunities I've missed out on. I've learned from those incidents though.

Originally posted by Fatality
I've gotten the "go" signal to appraoch several times from hot girls and I didn't do anything because I didn't know what to say or I just wouldn't allow myself to believe that these hot girls were actually interested in me. I've been kicking myself everyday because of the opportunities I've missed out on. I've learned from those incidents though.

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I know exactly how it feels to see opportunitues, but not do anything about them! It's always afterwards that you feel like sh*t that you missed out isn't it? For a long time I also had a hard time believing that a girl could really be showing me, of all people, interest.

But not now. Something has clicked inside me lately, and I no longer 'fear' picking up girls with my new approach. It's more of a buzz.

If you get the correct 'go' signals, then anything small talk to break the ice will work.

BELIEVING you have what it takes to attract women is extremely important though.

Originally posted by Guitar_Whizz
I know exactly how it feels to see opportunitues, but not do anything about them! It's always afterwards that you feel like sh*t that you missed out isn't it? For a long time I also had a hard time believing that a girl could really be showing me, of all people, interest.

But not now. Something has clicked inside me lately, and I no longer 'fear' picking up girls with my new approach. It's more of a buzz.

If you get the correct 'go' signals, then anything small talk to break the ice will work.

BELIEVING you have what it takes to attract women is extremely important though.

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YEah if they give you the "go" signal all you pretty much have to do is say something rather than nothing like I always did. If you talk to her and for some reason she ends up not liking you because you said soemthing wrong it's better to know that you tried and it wasn't meant to be rather than her being the one that got away and always wondering "what if."

The worst thing would be to look back at all our missed opportunities and think 'what if?'. Surely that's far worse than having to push through a bit of fear to do an approach.

I'm almost at the point where I don't give s sh*t about rejection now, I take the attitude that 'I didn't have her in the first place, and I don't have her now i've been rejected, so I've not LOST anything'.

I say take all opps while you can.

Another thing....not every girl will give you signals. So don't take it personally if you don't get looked at by every girl. It's too unrealistic to expect that. Just act on the ones that DO seem interested and you'll be fine.

Sweet post

"Welcome to McDonalds, may I take your order?"

"Yes, I'd like a whopper with cheese, no onions, and a beautiful girlfriend."

Haha, great story man. If in doubt of what to say, this is my favorite:

Calmly and slowly, pausing often:
"Hi, i saw you from over there and had to take a minute to see what you're like."

The only problem is she may not know what to tell you right away

Your post seems logical enough. We can break it down to this format:



1) Scan for IOI's.

2) Upon identification of IOI, reciprocate.

3) Her reciprocation of your IOI is the deal-breaker. If she responds, it's on. Approach.

4) Break the ice with any seemingly innocuous opener. Don't be Mr. Fancy Pants - just be simple genuine, pleasant, calm, and flirty. The 'smile opener' is a universal and effective one.

5) Conversate. Demonstrate value, induce humor.

6) Number close.

7) Leave scene of crime in a stylish and suave manner.




Guitar Whizz - good job, mate. (Always wanted to say that, LOL)

Cool post Guitar Whizz. I had a similar post in the HS section... Sad thing is no matter how many times we say "SoSuave can't teach you like field experience", no matter how true it is, just seems cliched to newbies and falls on deaf ears

How've things been? Did you leave the world of seduction for a bit? I remember back when you were on top of the world from doing like 70 approaches or something.