AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
This is my first . . . or second official tip. That doesn't matter. I will keep this simple so you guys won't get MEGO syndrome. (my eyes glaze over).
I came here because of a girl, but I changed myself physically and mentally for myself. That is what I say to myself and probably what you say to yourself sometimes. But is it really true? Your old oneitis...are you doing all this for her? Think about that. I realized that I have been for some time now, but also realized that I have been doing it for myself. I cannot seem to pull away. This is partially due to her being such a cute talented girl, and I feel guilt about just letting what could have been be.
But that's all nonsense. Now, to the tip.
The truth is, I still cared. And when you care about other people, esp. girls you like, you lose some of your self-worth. Obviously, this excludes family members and relatives, but in society, you must put up a facade of caring, but keep it at that and leave it. Never completely put on that mask of caring, for one day you will not be able to get it off. That is how we get sucked into oneitis situations when we supposedly are DJs impervious to oneitis's. Just keep that mask there so people cannot see your true feelings, but are greeted pleasantly anyways.
Lastly, the main point: Be fvcking selfish.
In the end, the one person who really matter is you. Your friends, acquaintances, study buddies, etc. in high school will be long gone after you graduate. No one will remember you, and if you get caught up in the moment and get used while the others exhaust you and move ahead themselves, the 20 yr. reunion will be a major b1tchslap.
Always keep YOUR goals in mind. If getting that girl is a goal, so be it, but make sure you're doing it for yourself, not because so you can "save her" or some bullsh1t like that. Most importantly, remember your long term goals. This world is a huge but only a few people are successful in life. Why? It's because they were selfish. Being honest and virtuous is good, but putting everyone ahead of yourself is not. It's stupid.
This may be harsh to you readers, or some may realize it already, but I realize this ever more now, and no one can help you except yourself. This qualifies as more of a "life" tip, rather than dating, cuz that sh1t is over rated anyways.
I came here because of a girl, but I changed myself physically and mentally for myself. That is what I say to myself and probably what you say to yourself sometimes. But is it really true? Your old oneitis...are you doing all this for her? Think about that. I realized that I have been for some time now, but also realized that I have been doing it for myself. I cannot seem to pull away. This is partially due to her being such a cute talented girl, and I feel guilt about just letting what could have been be.
But that's all nonsense. Now, to the tip.
The truth is, I still cared. And when you care about other people, esp. girls you like, you lose some of your self-worth. Obviously, this excludes family members and relatives, but in society, you must put up a facade of caring, but keep it at that and leave it. Never completely put on that mask of caring, for one day you will not be able to get it off. That is how we get sucked into oneitis situations when we supposedly are DJs impervious to oneitis's. Just keep that mask there so people cannot see your true feelings, but are greeted pleasantly anyways.
Lastly, the main point: Be fvcking selfish.
In the end, the one person who really matter is you. Your friends, acquaintances, study buddies, etc. in high school will be long gone after you graduate. No one will remember you, and if you get caught up in the moment and get used while the others exhaust you and move ahead themselves, the 20 yr. reunion will be a major b1tchslap.
Always keep YOUR goals in mind. If getting that girl is a goal, so be it, but make sure you're doing it for yourself, not because so you can "save her" or some bullsh1t like that. Most importantly, remember your long term goals. This world is a huge but only a few people are successful in life. Why? It's because they were selfish. Being honest and virtuous is good, but putting everyone ahead of yourself is not. It's stupid.
This may be harsh to you readers, or some may realize it already, but I realize this ever more now, and no one can help you except yourself. This qualifies as more of a "life" tip, rather than dating, cuz that sh1t is over rated anyways.
great post.