Gripe. v.

1. [informal] to complain or mumble.
2. to have sharp pains in the bowels

This should explain my cause. I bring these to my case because after reading the works of others, my own fears were confirmed.

The Three Stipules of Faults of Attraction.

I. Most Focus on Power Rather then Mutual Attraction*

II. Many Rules only work in theory.*

III. They are complex and hard to understand.*

DAYS BEFORE CALLING*
If there is a mutual attraction, calling one day or seven days after will not affect the outcome. Call her when you have time and want to. DO NOT play games.

CHALLENGE*
Playing herd to get is not beneficial, even if she doesn't see through it, only a small amount of women fall for this.

Instead of pretending to be a challenge, become social, and don't cancel dates, make it so you always have so much to do and so much going on she will always want to be around you.

MYSTERY*
Rather then hide behind mystery, bring out your flaws and fix them. if you don't know how to do somehting ask someone who does, If you don't know what something is ask, focus on becoming the guy who everyone loves and wants to be around instead of hiding behind mystery and illusion(not allusion )

COMPLIMENTS* and POSITIVE ATTITUDE

By being negative, and alwayts using neg hits many aspiring DJ's swing to the jerk rather then learn how to keep an equalibrium. People like to be happy and smile. AFC isn't bad because you compliment women, rather because you serve them hand and foot and are desperate. DJ's are about having fun and being positive, enjoying life. NOT putting others down, or making people sit and wait because they thought you had a date. That just pisses them off and neither of you benifit.

I've seen many aspiring DJ's post..."Last night I had a date with HB9. SO I didn't show up. She's going to be really horny next time." WRONG. she'll be pissed off and probably won't come again. I've seen this same scenario with sex, and all different fields, by sutting someone off, they don't want more they get pissed of anf try to get back. If I gave you a rolex to wear, and you showed it off, told everyone about it, was proud and happy of it. This night you were going to a big party, as you were walking through the door I took the watch back. You'd be pissed. Of course you still want that watch. But if you get pissed off enough You'll get a watch from someone else, no matter how much that watch ment. If you annoy someone enough that it outweighs the passion they will find passion elsewhere even if it is not as great.

Part II. How to Use these Tools.

It has been said here to be C&F, to make the girl feel good, but these ideas and true ideals of DJism are hidden amongnst the murk.

Let us explain a few techniques.

BASIC.

Approaches
Friend Approach

Communication Skills
Nouning
Basic Kino

Self-Esteem
Basic Self-Esteem Raising Tips, Feeling Good about yourself

INTERMEDIATE

Approaches
Group Approach
Cold Approach
Street Approach
Club Approach

Communication Skills
Conversation Mapping
Intermediate Kino
C&F

Self-Esteem
Learning to spend a life that revolves around what you want and enjoy not what others fell is nessecary
Self-Invprovement

ADVANCED

NLP[not required]
NEG-HIT
DJ Self-esteem habits.
DJ-LifeStyle


The above chart is slim and a quick guideline to what you should be learning and the order. This is not a comprehensive order at all. But it does show a few things that most people overlook when trying to teach a AFC DJ traits.

A DJ tries to bring him to his DJ level without taking the previous steps, unless he has a DJ right next to him coaching, this can be devestating for a new DJ.

An AFC MUST FIRST, learn to feel comfortable in his own surroundings. If an AFC is not able to initiate kino with family members, then he won't be able to with complete strangers.
A AFC should first train in his surrounding he already has until he has a slight mastery of the basic skills.

The Intermediate skills should be closely studied, as they can be easily misconsckrewed.

The Advanced skills should be taken with caution as they are almost always misconsckrewed at first. These are not for Newbs or AFC's. They are Powerful and work, but in the wrong hands can be devestating if not used right.

AFC's want the quick answer, there is no quick answer, by jumping pieces and skipping things you will get somewhere quick, and nowhere in the long run.

The Keys To A New Mindset

1. Be Bold and Sure.
2. Have Fun and Play Around.

If you have fun and you know what you want and don't flip-flop and say...uh...ummm....like..all the time. You should be fine. Read the bible and suck in the tips.

*These part especialy were taken from MoTU. pretty much all of this was Taken from MoTU post. I give almost all credit to MoTU. It was truly his post originally. I just modified it to work for me and cut out some things I didn't feel were nescessary anymore. I was reading it and felt some things were out of place and could be added to adapt to the new board. if any other things you feel need to be adapted tell me and I'll edit it. Just giving due credit.