When I was younger, I used to think that when a g/f expressed jealousy (over previous girlfriends, being friends with an ex or past sexual activity) it was a good sign that they were really into me.

But, I've met a few women (and dated some of them) that have adverse cheating histories but are also incredibly jealous. I don't try to theorize just for the fun of it, but I think that the jealousy comes from insecurity/low self esteem, which also makes people more vulnerable to cheating (someone paying attention to them, making them feel attractive).

A lot of these girls make it sound as if their cheating is the fault of their b/fs because they are not attentive enough, but in some cases it's the nice guy getting cheated on too.

Anyone have a reaction or thought?

My conversation partner for English was some one like that.
Since I was an "outsider", she just used me to better her French, and I just used her to improve my English, I don't know any of her friends, so she could tell me everything about her.

So this girl looks like she's just like a normal girl, she doesn't dress provocatively or anything, she only dresses up when she goes out.
But she makes NO apologies when it comes to cheating. If she's not happy with the boyfriend, she will cheat, there's nothing bad according to her. Oh wait, there's one bad thing: she complains that he won't know anyway, so she doesn't get a full revenge...

On the other hand, it looks like she can't live without a boyfriend. I still don't understand why. Wherever she goes, she always gets a boyfriend, and she will drop him as soon as she leaves. But the irony is that she "has self-respect", she never "gets together" with strangers for cheating, it should be some one she has some connection with.

I guess some girls are just weird in a way that you can't even imagine. At least I learned that with her.

Originally posted by JohnJones
A lot of these girls make it sound as if their cheating is the fault of their b/fs because they are not attentive enough, but in some cases it's the nice guy getting cheated on too.

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That's because women refuse to ever take responcibility for any of their actions.

God, I'm starting to sound like PRL.

I think its true that they don't take responsibility (or rather, don't suffer any real consequenses).

Anyway, I used to think that jealousy was at worst the possibility of bad drama or a high maintenence woman.

Now I know that its a big red flag on a personal level.