Hey guys I'm new here and it's really nice to meet you all. There is this simple trick I use to pick up women inside a dance club environment, I can't guarantee it will work for everyone but it works for me just about every time I go to a club. You see a girl dancing like a sex goddess I mean she is moving her body in a very seductive way. So you walk up to her and whisper into her ear "I like the way you dance" she will obviously say "thanks" then you say "can you teach me some of your moves?" she will either say "sure" or giggle at your request turn to you and start moving her body like she was doing earlier in a seductive way trying to teach you. You then start copying what she does and slowly inch closer to her and eventually you guys are bumping and grinding.

Just out of curiosity, whats the success rate with that trick? If that works for you, then go for it mate but i dont see it working for someone like me.

But anyway, ill give it a try and see what happens.

P.S. Good work on starting to post tips

that sounds fine, until you realize that most girls are dancing in groups

in my exp girls dancing by themselves are there just to dance

I personally don't think clubs are a good place to meet women.

1. The music is usually so loud you can't make conversation.
2. The women are often in groups and very wary of male attention because they know they are in a 'pick up' joint
3. It's dark so that cute HB9 might turn out to be a 5.5 when she's got her make up off in the daylight.
4. There are hundreds of AFCs buzzing around the women like flies round sh*t so it's difficult to get a look in.

Austin, Just out of curiousity...

What places do you find ideal to pick up women?

Yeah I know all of your concerns are valid, and I understand that things become intimidating when they are dancing in groups. I usually go to clubs when it is Jam packed, so when you do talk to a girl her friends are usually not in an exact group that can sometimes be intimidating. Even if the club isn’t packed and they are dancing in a group, from my experiences her friends don't care if you talk to her. Yeah you might get rejected nicely a few times but hey when you are inside a club full of women then your potential is much higher. Yes the music is loud but that can be a good thing because you can get closer to her ear and talk to her up close, and plus the conversation will be very short and the action will start right away. I go to clubs on the weekends I usually go to the most popular ones that will be full of girls, or I go to a club when it is having a special event. My highest success was during Caribbana (Caribbean festival in Toronto) Thousands of people mostly black Caribbean come to Toronto to party. The clubs are full of hot hot hot American and Canadian girls, I was bumpin and grinding the night away with beautiful girls! Plus one sweet half black half white girl brought me back to her hotel for some more fun . Like I said above this works for me, so it is up to you to give it a try.

No offence, but...

Originally posted by Austin Allegro
I personally don't think clubs are a good place to meet women.

1. The music is usually so loud you can't make conversation.
2. The women are often in groups and very wary of male attention because they know they are in a 'pick up' joint
3. It's dark so that cute HB9 might turn out to be a 5.5 when she's got her make up off in the daylight.
4. There are hundreds of AFCs buzzing around the women like flies round sh*t so it's difficult to get a look in.

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I think clubs are a good place for the exact reasons you've stated:

1. The music is usually so loud you *don't need to bother with conversation*
2. The women are often in groups and *want male attention because they know the came to a pick up joint*
3. It's dark so *you can pull much hotter babes: if you ain't a looker, because they're mostly there for 1 thing, they're drunk and not as picky as normal.*
4. There are hundreds of AFCs buzzin around, *making it easier to stand out and pull*

IMO and experience, people don't go to clubs for a conversation, and girls go to clubs because they know it's a pickup joint.


Canadiandon, that seems like a good tip, I'll give it a try this weekend.

BTW, Sammo, what do you mean you don't see it working for 'someone like me'.

how to pick up a girl in a club...by Oxide.


when you are in the club, approach a good looking girl. look at her, and estimate how much she weighs.. if she is over 200 pounds, you will probably break your back, i advice against this form of heavy lifting... if the target is under 200 pounds, look her in the eyes, put both of your hands on her butt cheeks, then, using an upward motion with your arms, pick her up in the air. the girl will put her hands around your neck.

Congratulations.. you have just picked up a girl in a club.





p.s. jokes aside, i do this quite often, girls freak at first, but then their slut side kicks in and they enjoy it..or become totally embarassed and run away. (i mean when u are dancing...so dont run around picking up every girl )

LOL, Named, thanks for 'reframing' my somewhat negative attitude to clubs! I still don't like them though...!

Best places to meet women I find are parties, because you usually have carte blanche to approach any women there and chat to them, or get the host to introduce you.

My club rules:

1. Do not pick up chicks that are in groups, it is lame
2. Do not pick up chicks if they are with a guy, it doesn't matter if the guy is just a friend or boyfriend.
3. Pick up chicks that are by themselves, they are asking for a guy to dance with them.
4. You must be into the same music they are dancing, if she's in the trance room a lot and you usually hang out at a hip hop room.. it won't work out.
5. You should only number close *IF* you have a chance to make her go somewhere else/quieter. If she says she likes it where she is.. FORGET HER.
6. Do not go to clubs thinking "Tonight is the night for me to hit on a lady" - Trust me.. most of the times I dance with women are when I never expect anything.

Basically the dance club is not a good place to pick up people. If the girl is wallflowering/hanging at the bar at a dance club, you don't even want to approach them there either - it's a dance club.. you're supposed to dance if you're just going to hang around go to a bar.. it shows the girl is very boring and you do not want those.

Good point Austin...

When comparing clubs to parties your point suddenly becomes very true! I thought that you meant in general, this is mainly because parties are a scarcity where I live. You're right about basically being able to talk to anyone at a party because they're very social events.

My bad If I came across as pompous!

No probs Named.

There's never a scarcity of parties - it's knowing where they are. You have to network. Eg a friend of mine organises a monthly lunch (it's at his club but you could use a restaurant, hotel etc - anywhere classy with a good atmosphere).

He always invites about six random girls he's met and six guys, usually ones he knows are single. You get to know at least two or three of these 12 people and always get an invite to at least one other event in the next few days.

It's not like cold approaching or formal dating (which often doesn't work in England) but it builds you up a network of acquaintances.

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My club rules:
2. Do not pick up chicks if they are with a guy, it doesn't matter if the guy is just a friend or boyfriend.

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Everyone should highlight this, cut it out, and read it every day. She COULD be with a friend or a brother or something utterly retarded like that, but taking the time to find out is just bothersome. Plus, it's a good way to get yourself hurt.

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I rarely go to dance clubs anymore.

Instead, I go to the "Pub/Lounge" type places for several reasons:

1) Most of these places don't have dance floors, although they do have ambient background music.
The women that go to these places are there to meet guys, not to dance.

2) The music is more for atmosphere at pubs/lounges and is not ear-splitting loud. It makes it 1000% easier to talk to women and run your game.

When you're at a dance club and you're trying to talk to women, you have to lean in so close to hear/be heard that you can't hold eye contact during conversation or read body language and almost have to yell to communicate.

You say something, and she says "what?" - you repeat yourself, this time louder and she still can't hear you.
Eventually she does, but then you're the one saying "what?" to her reply, and on and on, back and forth.
Very frustrating and a waste of time.

And for you students of SS, it makes it impossible to use patterns (shifting tonality and such) in a loud atmosphere and to read body language.

David DeAngelo often talks about how communication is mostly body language, eye-contact and tone of voice.

Not to mention, most of these places get really crowded to the point where you have to fight your way thru the crowd and wait forever to get a drink or use the bathroom.

And it can get hot and sweaty in those places due to the large crowd. No thanks.

3) Dance clubs are often populated with groups of women who are just out for a night of dancing with the girls and nothing more. They enjoy the attention from all the AFC's buying them drinks just so they can dance with them.
Again, the Pub/Lounge going women are pretty much there strictly to meet guys.

4) Dance clubs usually have some cover charge of anywhere from $10.00 to $40.00 or more, as well as a long wait to get in.
If after you wait in line for an hour and drop a fair amount of coin to get in and don't like the scenery, too bad.

Besides, I've got better things to do with my Weekend night(s) out than to stand in line for an hour while watching all the people on the VIP list waltz right in.


5) If you're not a good dancer, you might not do that well at dance clubs. The alternative is to take the time to learn to dance well.
The problem with that is that it's time - consuming and only helps your game in one environment.

That's time and effort you could be using to hone your DJ skills.
Skills that will help you PU in any environment, not just dance clubs. (Personally, I think dancing is somewhat AFC, but that's a different subject)

In my opinion, the Pub/Lounge scene is a better bet than the Dance Club scene when it comes to meeting and picking up women.

I usually go to an area of San Francisco (Known as "The Triangle") where there are about 10 upscale pubs/lounges/restaurants within a quarter-mile radius.
You should see how packed the streets get in this area on a weekend night.
It's almost like one big street party and sometimes there is more action outside than inside.
No cover charge or wait to get into most of these places either.

Originally posted by Austin Allegro
I personally don't think clubs are a good place to meet women.

1. The music is usually so loud you can't make conversation.
2. The women are often in groups and very wary of male attention because they know they are in a 'pick up' joint
3. It's dark so that cute HB9 might turn out to be a 5.5 when she's got her make up off in the daylight.
4. There are hundreds of AFCs buzzing around the women like flies round sh*t so it's difficult to get a look in.

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That's the perfect sample of tought of a guy who isnt getting any at clubs. This same kind of guy when see's a girl and a guy making out in the club thinks they are boyfriends or met before, or when he sees a couple going out too.

Nope, action DOES happen at clubs, and a lot of guys with game take girls with them from the club to bang them.

Derek, I agree with many of your points after having years of experience in this. Dance clubs appear to be best for picking up really drunk chicks for a forgettable screw. I have a friend who specialized in it. I personally can't dance if I don't like the music.

Now for our friend in Portugal, I believe the clubs in your country might be a little more fun than some of our dance clubs. There are different types of attitudes in different bars.

For a while I went to a certain dance club in my town on a semi-frequent basis. I was kind of sickened by seeing some of the same chicks suck face with tons of different guys every time I was there. It's a great place to meet some supersluts.

Dance clubs are great if you like the music and scene.

I prefer to see bands, and go to regular pubs where you have a decent chance of talking.

Since I have my gf of 3 years still, I don't scam as much because she's with me alot. But I know what I prefer.

A GREAT PLACE IF YOUR TOWN HAS IT is a blues bar or a reggae club!

i think clubs are a hit or miss..sometimes i go and meet hot chicks and everything works out... somtimes i go and the girls are the biggest b1tches... my advice is to go to clubs with your own girls, that way you dont look like a AFC just trying to pick up any chick and also if you cant find a girl u have your "girlfriends" to chill with. plus when you go down with girls other girls will notice you