I want you to forget all that B.S. about speed seduction and NPL. It will make you look sleazy and it works only on certain kinds of women. These women are not the kind you want to take home for an evening, because they will leave you with a gift that last 3 to 6 months and requires a special shampoo.
The kind of women that are worth picking up are the one's that respond to your timing and confidence. These are often the hardest one's to pick up because they are expecting a lot of their supposed "dream man." Unfortunately it won't be until their late 30s when they realize this man is in fact just a dream. Until then they will seemingly pick random guys to date, who through some strech of the imagination qualify as a potential because they in one dumb way or another appear to have a quality of their "dream man."
Naturally you noticed that these guys no where near quailfy to the "dream man" most women look for. Just for a review the "dream man" is an absolute contradiction in every sense. He is tough, yet sensitive, tacturn, yet talks about his feelings. Faithful, yet other women want to flirt with him. Gives his woman everything she wants, and yet leaves her wanting for more. In short a contradiction.
So then its natural for us to ask why she can "pick" a guy who share little resemblance to this "dream man." Well most women have been taught through example and verbally that men can be trained. When they see their mother's harp on their father and get him to do something, that signals to them that men can be nagged and trained to do things. Like a jeweler with a diamond, he will find a rough diamond with some worth while qualities, with a little work it can become a refined and valuable diamond. Well guys I hate to shock you but a lot of women think and talk the same way. They see a guy with a few qualities and they think they can be trained and refined into the "dream man."
Another funny thing about women during this whole screening process for a potential BF; believe me it will feel like a screening process. Is that they believe they can "play the field" while you cannot, and that they get to pick who their BF will be. Two problems with this, first only an AFC would submit themselves to this kind of run-around, and that obiviously we are put at a disadvantage in this process. In fact I even had a girl try to do this to me at one point, after I found out she was playing a butt load of guys:
Her: You may have chosen to date me, but I get to pick who my BF is.
Me: And how many guys have you fed that line too?
Her: That is none of your business, like I said I get to pick.
Me: Okay I get to chose then. I chose to never see you or your busted goods again.
It just absolutely amazed me that she could be so cavalier about the whole thing. But despite this being the only time I have ever seen this incident so bluntly played out. It happens more often than not. But when this situation is reversed and the woman finds that she is going through the screening process, she labels the guy a dog or whatever and tells him its over. In this spefic situation I like to call this action Herpocrsy. Which is when feministic ideals allow for the perversion of traditional roles in dating. This is the reason why most of you are here because this perversion of traditional roles is making this **** too annoying, and you want to be back in the drivers seat in the dating scene.
Despite women being cavalier in their dating in multiple guys. They cannot for the life of them be cavalier when it comes to letting a guy know wheither or not they like them. They will never come out and say they out right dislike you unless they are put in a corner. Also the will never tell you they want you unless they are put into corner. Between these two extremes are a lot of ambiguity and microscopic signs, that may or may not mean something. The reason why women do this is because they are terrified of being called out for their B.S. Its the way they were brought up, when they played house, they never dreamed up the senario that the husband comes home, accuses them of infidelity with the pool boy and demands a divorece. While most boys played war, cowboys and indians, whatever and at some point the senario came up that one of them had to be the leader and lead a charge up some hill or sneak into the creepy neighbors house, or the courtmartial or trial for some pretend crime. Well whatever it was, the fact is it took guts to do something and to face the direct consquences of failure. Whereas in the game of house the girl always gets to make all the problems go away with serving her pretend house hold ice cream after pretend dinner.(You get the point)
Of course by now you are saying "Okay Grey Fox, you have catologed all the B.S. we have to put up with. So how does it help me."
Well Sun Tzu, the Chinese philosphier who wrote the Art Of War,once said "Know yourself and understand how to defeat your enemy." So you want to identify a few things about yourself.
First what qualities do you have, and how can you spin them off to appear as the "dream man" qualities she wants. Next play a little give and take, find out what her boundaries of comfort are. What scares her about relationships and what makes her most comfortable. More speficially what does she fear about herself in terms that it will drive away a suitable male, and what she relies on to give her balance. Think of it like Raiders of the Lost Ark, you know in the begining where he is switching the gold idol with a bag of sand. You want to find away that switches the things that make her comfortable with the things you do that make her feel comforted. Example being the provider/protector. Become her source of true comfort and she'll be attracted too. Also do some things that set her off, that make her worry if she can keep you and not lose you to another woman. Give her something harmless to complain about to her AFC friend, and deep down she will love you for it. Because she still believes that she has a challenge to train, unlike the AFC who will nod at anything she says and does. Understand that women operate in ambiguity, which suits them best. Its going to be your job to remove their ability to use that ambiguity while creating your own. When a woman who thinks she knows it all and can have her way, suddenly finds herself in the realm of doubt about her femine powers they become a lot easier to deal with. Because they will make mistakes in trying to ascertain you intentions, namely they will become more direct and demand direct results to analyze.(Read: She wonders if you really want her, so she makes rather aggressive sexual moves to see if you want her.) The harder you make her work for it, the harder she is going to want you. Just do not be impossible, difficult yeah, but making her jump ridiculous hops with no light at the end of the tunnel is a no-no. Think of it as an illusion, it actually looks a lot more complicated than it is, and its true because we hate playing games, but we have to just the same. Or at least appear that way, and in order to setup an illusion we have to get them to think a certain way about you, hence we have to know their boundaries, the way they play guys, and most importantly how you can make her believe that you are exactly what her insane ideal "dream man" is.
Example of the Illusion to look like this "dream man":
Qualities: Confidence, Challenge.
Lifestyle: Appears to be busy, likes sports and has hobbies.
Time: You can only make time for her at first during the weekday and not for very long.
Phone Convos: You only have 5 minutes and you are direct because you have other high priority things to do.
Your Job: Whatever you do, your role is important and you are going place.
Your Car: Its not the best thing in the world, but you take care of it and you are happy with it.
Your feelings for her: She doesn't need to know, its her job find out by sticking around and working to figure you out. You can show interest, but you don't mind if you ever see her again.
Social Life: You are well liked.(I should hope so.) Your free time is spent on tried and true friends, who doubt your new interest, but by your grace alone she has the chance to see you.
Dates: Action, Action, Action. You are out to have a good time, and she initially is just there to play along. Though playfully you show small signs of interest though they are few and far between, baiting her interest and her for future dates.
Control: You are in the driver seat. You make decisions and never let her see you doubt yourself or come running to her looking desperate for a date.
While she thinks she is getting her "dream man" to manipulate and play adult house with, she is really getting a DJ who makes the "dream man" look like an AFC because that is what the "dream man" really is. She'll thank you later for disposing her of those B.S. illusions and showing her that she doesn't want some dummy for a BF, but a DJ she can't predict but loves the ride he takes her on.
P.S. Eventually you and your woman will get into the arguement. My best advice is to remember this maxim: Women are not in an arguement for logic, they are there for distance and irritation. They are not going to let logic wreck what they want to say. Remember that and act accordingly. If you can get through the arguements and not hate each other, you may just be alright. Nelson Mandela spent 23 years in prison and was totured regulary, but after 6 months of marriage to his wife he had to call it quits. He just could not take her B.S. anymore he claimed as the reason for divorce.
-Grey Fox
The kind of women that are worth picking up are the one's that respond to your timing and confidence. These are often the hardest one's to pick up because they are expecting a lot of their supposed "dream man." Unfortunately it won't be until their late 30s when they realize this man is in fact just a dream. Until then they will seemingly pick random guys to date, who through some strech of the imagination qualify as a potential because they in one dumb way or another appear to have a quality of their "dream man."
Naturally you noticed that these guys no where near quailfy to the "dream man" most women look for. Just for a review the "dream man" is an absolute contradiction in every sense. He is tough, yet sensitive, tacturn, yet talks about his feelings. Faithful, yet other women want to flirt with him. Gives his woman everything she wants, and yet leaves her wanting for more. In short a contradiction.
So then its natural for us to ask why she can "pick" a guy who share little resemblance to this "dream man." Well most women have been taught through example and verbally that men can be trained. When they see their mother's harp on their father and get him to do something, that signals to them that men can be nagged and trained to do things. Like a jeweler with a diamond, he will find a rough diamond with some worth while qualities, with a little work it can become a refined and valuable diamond. Well guys I hate to shock you but a lot of women think and talk the same way. They see a guy with a few qualities and they think they can be trained and refined into the "dream man."
Another funny thing about women during this whole screening process for a potential BF; believe me it will feel like a screening process. Is that they believe they can "play the field" while you cannot, and that they get to pick who their BF will be. Two problems with this, first only an AFC would submit themselves to this kind of run-around, and that obiviously we are put at a disadvantage in this process. In fact I even had a girl try to do this to me at one point, after I found out she was playing a butt load of guys:
Her: You may have chosen to date me, but I get to pick who my BF is.
Me: And how many guys have you fed that line too?
Her: That is none of your business, like I said I get to pick.
Me: Okay I get to chose then. I chose to never see you or your busted goods again.
It just absolutely amazed me that she could be so cavalier about the whole thing. But despite this being the only time I have ever seen this incident so bluntly played out. It happens more often than not. But when this situation is reversed and the woman finds that she is going through the screening process, she labels the guy a dog or whatever and tells him its over. In this spefic situation I like to call this action Herpocrsy. Which is when feministic ideals allow for the perversion of traditional roles in dating. This is the reason why most of you are here because this perversion of traditional roles is making this **** too annoying, and you want to be back in the drivers seat in the dating scene.
Despite women being cavalier in their dating in multiple guys. They cannot for the life of them be cavalier when it comes to letting a guy know wheither or not they like them. They will never come out and say they out right dislike you unless they are put in a corner. Also the will never tell you they want you unless they are put into corner. Between these two extremes are a lot of ambiguity and microscopic signs, that may or may not mean something. The reason why women do this is because they are terrified of being called out for their B.S. Its the way they were brought up, when they played house, they never dreamed up the senario that the husband comes home, accuses them of infidelity with the pool boy and demands a divorece. While most boys played war, cowboys and indians, whatever and at some point the senario came up that one of them had to be the leader and lead a charge up some hill or sneak into the creepy neighbors house, or the courtmartial or trial for some pretend crime. Well whatever it was, the fact is it took guts to do something and to face the direct consquences of failure. Whereas in the game of house the girl always gets to make all the problems go away with serving her pretend house hold ice cream after pretend dinner.(You get the point)
Of course by now you are saying "Okay Grey Fox, you have catologed all the B.S. we have to put up with. So how does it help me."
Well Sun Tzu, the Chinese philosphier who wrote the Art Of War,once said "Know yourself and understand how to defeat your enemy." So you want to identify a few things about yourself.
First what qualities do you have, and how can you spin them off to appear as the "dream man" qualities she wants. Next play a little give and take, find out what her boundaries of comfort are. What scares her about relationships and what makes her most comfortable. More speficially what does she fear about herself in terms that it will drive away a suitable male, and what she relies on to give her balance. Think of it like Raiders of the Lost Ark, you know in the begining where he is switching the gold idol with a bag of sand. You want to find away that switches the things that make her comfortable with the things you do that make her feel comforted. Example being the provider/protector. Become her source of true comfort and she'll be attracted too. Also do some things that set her off, that make her worry if she can keep you and not lose you to another woman. Give her something harmless to complain about to her AFC friend, and deep down she will love you for it. Because she still believes that she has a challenge to train, unlike the AFC who will nod at anything she says and does. Understand that women operate in ambiguity, which suits them best. Its going to be your job to remove their ability to use that ambiguity while creating your own. When a woman who thinks she knows it all and can have her way, suddenly finds herself in the realm of doubt about her femine powers they become a lot easier to deal with. Because they will make mistakes in trying to ascertain you intentions, namely they will become more direct and demand direct results to analyze.(Read: She wonders if you really want her, so she makes rather aggressive sexual moves to see if you want her.) The harder you make her work for it, the harder she is going to want you. Just do not be impossible, difficult yeah, but making her jump ridiculous hops with no light at the end of the tunnel is a no-no. Think of it as an illusion, it actually looks a lot more complicated than it is, and its true because we hate playing games, but we have to just the same. Or at least appear that way, and in order to setup an illusion we have to get them to think a certain way about you, hence we have to know their boundaries, the way they play guys, and most importantly how you can make her believe that you are exactly what her insane ideal "dream man" is.
Example of the Illusion to look like this "dream man":
Qualities: Confidence, Challenge.
Lifestyle: Appears to be busy, likes sports and has hobbies.
Time: You can only make time for her at first during the weekday and not for very long.
Phone Convos: You only have 5 minutes and you are direct because you have other high priority things to do.
Your Job: Whatever you do, your role is important and you are going place.
Your Car: Its not the best thing in the world, but you take care of it and you are happy with it.
Your feelings for her: She doesn't need to know, its her job find out by sticking around and working to figure you out. You can show interest, but you don't mind if you ever see her again.
Social Life: You are well liked.(I should hope so.) Your free time is spent on tried and true friends, who doubt your new interest, but by your grace alone she has the chance to see you.
Dates: Action, Action, Action. You are out to have a good time, and she initially is just there to play along. Though playfully you show small signs of interest though they are few and far between, baiting her interest and her for future dates.
Control: You are in the driver seat. You make decisions and never let her see you doubt yourself or come running to her looking desperate for a date.
While she thinks she is getting her "dream man" to manipulate and play adult house with, she is really getting a DJ who makes the "dream man" look like an AFC because that is what the "dream man" really is. She'll thank you later for disposing her of those B.S. illusions and showing her that she doesn't want some dummy for a BF, but a DJ she can't predict but loves the ride he takes her on.
P.S. Eventually you and your woman will get into the arguement. My best advice is to remember this maxim: Women are not in an arguement for logic, they are there for distance and irritation. They are not going to let logic wreck what they want to say. Remember that and act accordingly. If you can get through the arguements and not hate each other, you may just be alright. Nelson Mandela spent 23 years in prison and was totured regulary, but after 6 months of marriage to his wife he had to call it quits. He just could not take her B.S. anymore he claimed as the reason for divorce.
-Grey Fox
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