I understand all the techniques and all that stuff on this site, but I've come up with my own ideas.

Screw techniques, they're just for insecure people. And stop thinking about how not to screw things up, just live your life and never worry about what someone else thinks of you. If you have to put women out of your life for awhile, so be it, just experience as much as you can and don't

With that said, somebody will probably tell me that C & F and challenge are incredible, or that I'm just pulling stuff out of my ass, yadda yadda yadda. That's fine, I want more opinions. I'm just giving mine.

With that said, here's my problem. I think that the most important thing about attracting a woman is to make her feel special, while still having a life and appealing to her inherent desire for a protector. I've got the life part down, my life is pretty damn good right now. I give people a sense of being a protector, too. I'm 6'1" and a muscular 190 lbs. But, I just don't know how to make a girl feel special, and I'd appreciate any advice you have for me. Thank you.
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Well my opinion about all this stuff that it isn't about fronting a facade. You should never lose your character in order to land a girl. I say much of these things are self-improvement. I mean, what harm could come from becoming more confident or charming?

I always hear people say stuff like "Be yourself."

But what is really yourself? Well, believe it or not, you are the product of all ******d influences that have affected your life. Everything you are and everything you say are the causes of the TV you watch, the way you were taught, the music you listen to, and the people you talk to. Being yourself isn't really something to worry about, unless you're denying what you like or what you want to do in fear of others.

But there are ways to improve how you see yourself. And with that, it will improve how others see you. Being a sincere DJ is just loving your life.

Now as for making a girl feel special. Well just giving her some attention makes her feel special. Going on dates with her makes her feel special too. I mean, if a girl cut into her time to ask me out on a date with her, I'd be pretty flattered myself, regardless of what happens.

For the most part, if you want to attract a girl, have fun with life. Everyone is looking for some more fun and girls just love being around a fun guy who can handle himself. If you want to make her feel protected, be a man, don't fall for the sensitive sissy pansy stuff, nowadays people don't really need that much protection, but knowing they have a man with them is pretty much all they need.

Just do what you do and try to better yourself everyday. No tricks to it.

tecniques arent for insecure ppl.....theyre to improve skills that you might have......ok lets just say screw tecniques never live by them. then you go out with a girl and you want to make her feel special, well thats a skill you need to have and some kind of tecniques to be better at it....

i do brazilian jui jitsu its a grappling way of fighting. jui jitsu is almost purly tecnique. im not a very big guy, yet i beat guys that are 100+ lbs heavier than me. if i want to beat those big guys with force im gonna get my ass killed.

so i do think that you need some kind of tecnique to get through life, school, work, activities, women, sports anything. its not necessary but it makes it a lot easier and whatever you want to work on is much more skillful.

at least that my philosophy.

Originally posted by SmoothOperator
...Screw techniques, they're just for insecure people. And stop thinking about how not to screw things up, just live your life and never worry about what someone else thinks of you...

But, I just don't know how to make a girl feel special, and I'd appreciate any advice you have for me. Thank you.
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It's all in how you treat her, your actions will speak louder than your words.

I agree with undesputable and I can understand where SmoothOperator's coming from. A lot of insecure guys do go out and try to learn techniques that they think will make women like them and they end up kind of "selling out" who they are in the process. That being said, creating the life you want, with the women/woman you want TAKES A TON OF HARD WORK. I've got some friends who are extremely successful with women and a lot who aren't and the ones who have learned to be successful (who aren't one of the lucky few who instinctively do everything right around women) are constantly working their asses off at it. Smooth, you sound like a guy who's got a lot of self-respect and takes a lot of pride in his life. Yes, it's important to be who you are, but unless you've learned the specific techniques to convey THE BEST ASPECTS OF WHO YOU ARE to women you're going to have less then you deserve in this area of your life. This process can be very frustrating, especially at the beginning, because you're going to come across a lot of techniques that either A) don't fit your personality or B) recommend you do something or treat a woman in a way that you don't agree with, but part of the process of living the life you want with women, if you aren't yet, is to sort through the techniques out there until you find ones that fit your personality and that you can use to treat women in a way that you both enjoy.