So Italian HB9 text messages me fvcken 15 minutes before I was supposed to pick her up saying in the SMS "Sorry, can't go out tonight because I'm feeling a little under the weather"

What pissed me off that for this, what would have been, 3rd date I had a fvcken swell shindig planned. I know the dude that runs our local Go-kart track and I had to beg my ass off and for him to just let HB9 and I fvck around in his little dune buggy track for the evening. It was a KUNT to get him to agree. So I was real pumped up for this date and she drops that pile of **** on me.

Feeling mega pissed off I hit the rum and coke and fvcken drive around Go-karting by myself, came home 2 hrs ago lit up a J and wrote this HB9 a stellar e-mail. All I wrote in the email to her was "Don't fvck me around with bullsh!t excuses, just tell the fvcken truth next time"

Now that I'm calmed down a bit I think it might have been too harsh. "What if she really was feeling ill?" I think to myself.

Then I think "No, if she was really interested she would have arranged to do it some other time, not just leave it at that"

I'm not sure fellas. Kinda thinking I should call her up tomorrow and apoligize about the email. What do you guys think, let her contact me first or should I apologize.

oooohhhh sh|t. you fuked that one up. the email you sent was totally not a good idea. she might not even talk to you anymore man, unless you have the best reason ever. if you didn't email that, i would of said, you should of called her and told her you prefer to talk. or ask if you could call her in the text message. then say on the phone:

"i'm very dissapointed in you. i had everything all set up for us, it wasn't easy. i'm sorry about how you're not feeling, but you need to make it up to me. call me when you're NOT feeling under the weather. i'm going now. so i'll talk to you whenever alright? cool. see ya!"

something like that bro. that email wasn't really a good idea, heh. and i don't think you can get out of it now. after reading that, she will know you are upset and you get all steamed up for something like that and you haven't even dated yet. i'm not saying it's not okay to be upset. i sure would of. but that is what women think, had you of played it cool and told her the problem, she may of called you sometime to make it up. but honestly? i wouldn't talk to her ever again. she never even apoligized! fuk her! don't waste your time. i have a feeling she got uninterested at the last moment. i don't see why she would of done that to you for any other reason. it just doesn't make sense.

good luck.

1. txt messaging is a pvssy way to back out or do anything. she should of spoke to you in person.

2. my thoughts are what's really going on? she may of had another connection or she may of just not felt like going out with YOU.

3. I noticed that you said you had a stellar date planed. stellar for whom? you as it looked like. have you ever gotten into HER head to see what SHE might like?

4. I think that if she wasn't sick, then you need to move on cause this one is blown.

5. It's too late to retrieve you anger message. You shouldn't send em out when your angry, I've learned the hard way from this.

6. If she likes you she will call and oppologize or say what's up with the hateration email.

7. You sound like your all wrapped up in one ho also. You should know better than that. If they blow out it should be no fvcking big deal.

8. Lay off the booze and drugs homie. You don't need that shyt to be cool dude. And most classy women hate men who indulge in drug habbits.

9. Do not call and oppologize. In reading your post it looks like this one is a done deal. I'm not in your life so I can't say for sure but my instinct says MOVE on.

Yeah good point Tails. She didn't know I had this big thing planned for the two of us though...

Anyway, yeah I think I fvcked it too now that I've sobered up. Shyt..

Anyone else got some opinions on this?

if she replies to that email, tell me what she says, hehe.

Ok then. For future reference, if a chick cancels on you like that and doesn't give a alternative date, just NEXT her because it's obvious she has a low interest?

i know it's harsh what they do. i've had it happen to me many times. where i make the plans for a date, then they come up with a silly excuse. i say give the girl one more chance. let her know that she has to make up for her cancel on the date. i would also tell her that this is her last chance, otherwise i will not be around anymore. after i let her know this, i will not call her. she knows the deal, if she doesn't contact you, i will assume it's over and move on. simple as that.

but honestly? when a girl does this to me, i don't bother. i don't like wasting my time on girls as most men do. it also depends on the reason they give you. if it's stupid, and she DOESN'T apologize, then i will ignore her and i won't contact her. if she was to contact me later in the future, fine, i will accept that, but i will ask for an apology and tell her to make up for it. if she fuks it up again, that was her last chance. goodbye to her!

you said this was the third date? well, the third date is the key. if you can't (don't) close on the third date, or she cancels it, it's a bad sign.

and SMSing you 15 minutes before hand to tell you she's "feeling under the weather" is also a bad sign and a total crock o' sh!t. i mean, 15 minutes before!

the chances are that she was lying and she felt just fine and felt like NOT being with you. the chances are she got another offer that was far more attractive to her.

besides, canceling like that is a total disregard for your time. it pissed you off right? for good reason. she basically trampled all over you.

your email was a bit harsh. you should have done NOTHING! if you want to recover, for your own sake only, send her another one that says this,

"i was a bit harsh on the last one. i had a great time anyway. bye".

DON'T APOLOGIZE! AND DO SAY "BYE", as in later...c-ya...you blew it...ball's in your court...

leave it at that. don't contact her unless she contacts you. better still, let her contact you twice before you get back to her. at least this way, you'll have a better guage on her interest level.

don't write an email like what Tails said. sorry, it's lame, and it's obvious that youre guilting her into getting another chance. have some respect for yourself, bro. she NEXT'd YOU already (chances are).

re-read what Player_Supreme said.

yeah, true. if she did that 15 minutes before the date, i wouldn't of even talked to her, emailed her for that matter. if you really think she's worth it (pfft, fuk no) then email her saying what TooColdUlrick told you to say. if she replies, you'll know her real story. and that will be the end of the book.

You could've been a little (actually, much) more polite about it, but you had the right idea, saying "F you" and going and having a good time anyway. Would've been nice if you could find someone to stand in, but oh well.

See, by blowing up on her, you made it look like you DIDN'T have a good time and that she really got under your skin. Not saying you should apologize at this point, as that would just show more weakness, but you should've just let it roll off your shoulder.

Next time CALL her on that crap. Sick or no, 15 minutes before a Friday night date is no time to cancel. Gives you NO time to change plans or replace her, and it's ignorant. If a girl pulls that, be like, "It's a little late for that, don't you think?" And when she starts babbling about her issues, just be like, "OK whatever, you're gonna miss a fun time, though. Talk to you later." Then get off the phone. And let HER call YOU next time, don't call her up to brag and try to make her feel bad for not coming...they see right through that.

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Ok then. For future reference, if a chick cancels on you like that and doesn't give a alternative date, just NEXT her because it's obvious she has a low interest?

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YES! but remember this: a chick that cancels like that has already NEXT'd YOU. that's fine, just move on.

RAGE!!! I was at the beach today and guess who I saw, italian HB9 who blew me off with some fvcken geezer, holding hands and kissing!!! This ho saw me and looked like she saw a fvcking ghost and only muttered "hi" while her new beau had a stupid smirk on his face. I stood stood there snarling. I haven't heard from this chick since I wrote that email. Now I see that she's found some other guys d1ck to suck. I felt like just punching her in the jaw, making her cry... man I'm still pissed off!!

why not tell mommy and have a good cry? News Flash... you can't always get what you want when you want it... that's life, move on. She'll get hers in due time, somebody will dump her, it's just the nature of the game, now don't freak out so bad and go find another girl. Don't waste another second worrying about that one, life is too short, soon you'll be 49, arggggg.

True Crank it up. One of the few thing that really gets under my skin is when anybody LIES to me. One of my biggest pet peeves.

Even when my best friends lie to me about something serious I let them know that they have one more chance.

If a girl lies to me about something it's over, no questions asked. Honesty is more important than anything else to me.

One of the few thing that really gets under my skin is when anybody LIES to me. One of my biggest pet peeves.

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Mine too. I think what she did was really low. Regardless of whether she wasn't interested or found someone else she showed no courtesy or respect for you and I can understand you being mad. I bet you are so glad you didn't apologise for your email now.

Of course what she did was really low!! She's an HB9 for Christ's sake!! All 8's, 9's, and 10's do this kinda sheite.....all the frikin' time!!

This is why I always advise sincere guys to stay the hell away from those superficial, shallow, and good-for-nothing-but-a-lay types!!

They don't give a ****e about anyone else's feelings but their own. They're used to getting everything they want, whenever they want it. They have absolutely no character or integrity!! Stop wasting your time on them! Start going for HB6's, 7's, and an occasional 8. Although, with the 8, I would expect something like this to happen, but at least when it does, it doesn't hit you so hard.

I feel for ya, man. I now what it's like. My entire high school life was filled with these kinds of stories. Luckily, before I was even 21, I knew better than to give these shallow *****es anything more than a dirty look.

The only justice in it is the fact that they never find a guy who treats them with respect. Most of them never find true love or happiness at all, and end up divorced and/or loney when the rest of us have families already. You'll see them sulking around in bars even when they're 40 and 50 years old, still looking for love, when their looks are no longer their strong point. Just think about that whenever you see one of these chicks....it makes one feel good.


BTW, did you ever get rid of that fat chick???

you did the right thing telling her it was not right for her to waste your time....on the other hand you should have been less "violent" in your email....your should have been more calmed and let her know that it was not ok to waste your time letting her know you really meant it but in a more confiedent way, without cussing or anything like that.

next time dont plan your dates so ahead of time. call her and be like "you want to go out with me tomorrow, or hey im around ill pick you up and well go somwhere". since theres less time for the date, chances are she wont flake out if she says yes.