Guys, let me know what you think about all this.

My GF, who I have been with for about 3 months now wrote me a message on the back of a picture of the two of us. Here is what she said:

I enjoy our talks, walks, and times spent together. I like the fact that we both enjoy spending time with each other's families. You have brought more smiles to my face and more laughter into my life. I always feel special when I am around you. I love the way I feel when I am in your arms. When your arms are wrapped around me, I feel safe and protected from all of the bad things in the world. The way your hugs and kisses make me feel is undescrible. Thanks for geting me to see the cup as half-full instead of half-empty. Thanks for always encouraging me and letting me know that I can do anything I set my mind to, and that my dreams can come true. My mother and my grandmother are right, I am falling in love with you.


Ok...thats it. Many of you will know from reading some of my other posts that she and I are pretty close...relationship wise. We get along great, and TONS of fun together and all that good stuff.

I always keep up the C&F stuff around her while continuing to live my life independently from her.

So....the other day she gives me a new batch of pictures of the two of us that she had just finished developing. From that she chose one picture of the two of us she wanted ME to write something on the back of.

Ok, so today I finally did it...and here is what I wrote:

Throughout life there are truths we miss, and moments we can’t understand. I would like to say that I understand why I feel the way I do. Why when I hold you in my arms it feels like the entire night sky stops just for us. Or why when I kiss you, I could swear that the entire world is smiling upon the two of us. Sometimes I wish I understood the feeling I get inside when I see your smile or those funny goose bumps on my arm when we hold hands. Spending all those great times with you has helped me come to one conclusion. That not completely understanding everything is part of the adventure that makes our relationship so fun. Just as long as I don’t miss the most important truth in this unknown adventure: The truth that I am falling in love with you.


Yeah, Yeah... I know. Kind of "chick flick" stuff. But before some of you start having cold sweats remember that this is an LTR, not a ONS!

So I put the picture into an envelope and took it up to her job for her today. She was VERY happy to see me up there as I have NEVER gone to see her at work before. I handed her the envelope, made a quick joke about it and we started having a great conversation like we usually do when around eachother.

I cut it short by saying that I needed to leave and go take a shower...having just finished playing soccer with a bunch of friends earlier.

Later on in the day, during her lunch break she calls me up. She had a very sweet and happy tone to her voice, and started out by saying what a nice suprise it was when I showed up at her job. Then she said that my note was "very sweet"

Ok, the rest of our conversation is irrelevent right now. What I want to know is...what do you guys think of

#1. Her note to me...

and

#2. My note to her....

Did I come on too strong? Or was it just the right amount? Keep in mind,guys that I am always very confident and funny around her. I NEVER have and NEVER will become a sensitive romantic around her. That note of mine revealed more about my feelings to her in 1 minute than I have in these past 3 months.

So let me know what your opinions are on the whole situation!

*sniff sniff* like something out of a chick flick


use the line from jerry migure "you complete me"


i dont think u came to strong
it seem mutal
but then again i'm the village idiot

I dunno... do you think it was the bad kind of "very sweet", or the good kind? If this was the first time she's actually written to you that she loves you, or "is falling in love with you", it could be like the first time she says it - i.e. pull a Han Solo and sort of brush it off. Maybe you could have left off the last part where you used the L-word of doom.


I have a question for you: Why the hell would her mother and grandmother tell her "ohh darling little girl you must be falling in love with this man, maybe you can get married and have babies together oh yes"? What's that about? Do you talk to your grandpa about your girlfriend, and how you want to marry her? Nuts.

WTF, your relationship is not just a simulation, where u do things, come here and ask the next action to take, and then take the next action. Come back here again after that, and ask what to do next.

Man, live your life, enjoy it, dont become her chump, be yourself, make sure you have your own life besides her, do your thing. U dont NEED her. But it doesnt mean you cant be soft and caring to her also. Just dont go overboard. Only way to truly acheive this is to live it and experience. U cant just come here constantly to get the advice on EXACTLY what you should do. If you do, more than likely your relationship will fukc up. Have fun man, your in love, good luck, just dont go too soft or u will get burnt.

Her note to you showed you her very high interest level and just shows that you've been doing something right. Don't change what you're doing and it'll go on fine.

As for your note, it really depends on how this relationship is. I wouldn't have pulled a sappy one cause those are reserved for the day you get married and when you do something wrong. But you couldn't have possibly hurt yourself too much if you did so at all. You included that you don't do that kinda stuff often. Good and keep it that way. The more you do it, the less special it becomes and it might end in boredom somewhere along the line. Just because she likes it this time doesn't mean she'll like it the 500th time.

Overall, I think you'll get away with it. But this is just a personal opinion about what you did. Girls want the romantic affection too, but not as much as they think they want it. Just becareful not to overuse it, it gets tiring quickly. But good job as to what you've done so far in the relationship to get her to this point.

Well now is about that time in which for no apparent reason you break up with her and bang her sister/best friend at about the same time. Then you have a few conversations about getting back together, further damaging her fragile mind. She'll grow bitter and the experience will further drive her nuts. She'll then develop a pattern of leading guys around and acting like a crazy sh!thouse rat. She will devour AFCs whole and spit them out. Looking for answers they will come here and learn, go out, get a real nice girl like yours and do the same. The cycle continues....

No you dunce, if she said or wrote "I love you," and means it then she means it. If you think otherwise figure out why. But don't comeback here and have us solve your problems every step of the way. Next you'll be asking whether or not the way she blinks means anything if you keep getting spoon fed. Taking a leap of faith in trusting someone if you believe they can be trusted is apart of LTRs get used to it.

-Grey Fox

^darn it, I was going to bust out the sarcasm but this guy beat me to it!!!

Has you proclaimed her love in person?

Written is different from spoken.
Then be careful saying " I love you" back too many times.

I think its cute

Sounds good to me man. It seems very mutual! 3 months is a pretty good amount of time to have figured out enough about the person to decide what kind of feelings you have for them. The only thing i saw with that was show wrote you then handed pictures to you and ask you to write to her, and you did. I guess since it's mutual enough its okay as long as you only wrote back to her if you really meant it. I have currently started a new relationship and this is by far the best one i have ever stepped into. Its time to go LTR! Im tired of dating *****es. Anyway it seems like you just need to continue what your doing. Good luck man!