I was out doing my thing at a club, having some fun and doing what DJs are supposed to do. It just happened while I was dancing on the floor, a revelation if you will. I realized some things about my game and how I DJ. Most importantly I know what were a lot of young guys go wrong, and some may seem obivious and others not so but here goes.
Militancy/Frigidness is a no no:
Women want a confident man, not someone who seems impassive cold or like they belong to a militia group. I know its important to look proud and seem strong, but you can over do it and look like a pissed off freak. I realized that sometimes I laid it on too thick because I thought I wasn't laying it on enough.
Smiling, its more important than you think.
A smile can make or break you if you see a girl across the room and catch her eye. Smile to wide you look like your a lombotomy patient. Don't show any teeth and your smile looks weak, and if it looks weak, you'll look week too. The best thing to do is show some teeth in your smile and the smile should not make you feel like your streching your face but you should be able to tell if your smiling.
The Eyes:
The way you look at someone and look at the world say a lot about you. Look bored and you seem unhappy, give a strong look and you're going to seem angry. When you look at the world or someone look at the world with interest and pleasure.
The mood:
Get your yourself in a good mood and a confident one too. Trust me it will make a world of difference. You can do this before you go out and you don't need alcohol to do it, just listen to good music and note all your qualities.
Dance sucka:
You don't have to a proffessional dancer to look good. Pick up one or two solid moves and go with it. Be sure to bend your knees too makes you more fluid and it looks better when you dance. Any idiot can grind, dancing is important because it expresses your sensualness and indicates how good you can be in bed. Oh and need I mention that you should keep the trouser snake down, I watched some guy get torn down by a group of girls cause he let the snake out of the cage way way to early.
Conversationaly speaking:
When you chat it up be sure listen to what they have to say. Never shout anything even in a loud club simply move in when they speak to hear them and move in to speak when you talk. Its classier and more personal, shows interest and is more intmate.
Sweet I Blew it!
Failing is a blessing in disguise. I let that sink in for a minute.
If you think about it when we fail, we are forced to look at what we did wrong. We then adjust and change. When we succeed we never look at what we did right, when's the last time you see someone question a good thing. Though don't get me wrong if you can get it right the first time go for it by all means.
Not a huge earth shaking revelation but after I had it I felt I made a step forward in DJing. As a lot of you may know I went off on my own for a while leaving this place behind. I wanted to learn the hardway and on my own. Looking back from when I began, and looking where I am now I've made a huge ****ing leap. After that revelation I decided to come back reread the Bible to the concepts fresh and learn some put it to good use and refine what works for me. Its kind of like starting out for the first time but knowing what your doing, I guess I'm trying to get to that next level as they say.
-Grey Fox
Militancy/Frigidness is a no no:
Women want a confident man, not someone who seems impassive cold or like they belong to a militia group. I know its important to look proud and seem strong, but you can over do it and look like a pissed off freak. I realized that sometimes I laid it on too thick because I thought I wasn't laying it on enough.
Smiling, its more important than you think.
A smile can make or break you if you see a girl across the room and catch her eye. Smile to wide you look like your a lombotomy patient. Don't show any teeth and your smile looks weak, and if it looks weak, you'll look week too. The best thing to do is show some teeth in your smile and the smile should not make you feel like your streching your face but you should be able to tell if your smiling.
The Eyes:
The way you look at someone and look at the world say a lot about you. Look bored and you seem unhappy, give a strong look and you're going to seem angry. When you look at the world or someone look at the world with interest and pleasure.
The mood:
Get your yourself in a good mood and a confident one too. Trust me it will make a world of difference. You can do this before you go out and you don't need alcohol to do it, just listen to good music and note all your qualities.
Dance sucka:
You don't have to a proffessional dancer to look good. Pick up one or two solid moves and go with it. Be sure to bend your knees too makes you more fluid and it looks better when you dance. Any idiot can grind, dancing is important because it expresses your sensualness and indicates how good you can be in bed. Oh and need I mention that you should keep the trouser snake down, I watched some guy get torn down by a group of girls cause he let the snake out of the cage way way to early.
Conversationaly speaking:
When you chat it up be sure listen to what they have to say. Never shout anything even in a loud club simply move in when they speak to hear them and move in to speak when you talk. Its classier and more personal, shows interest and is more intmate.
Sweet I Blew it!
Failing is a blessing in disguise. I let that sink in for a minute.
If you think about it when we fail, we are forced to look at what we did wrong. We then adjust and change. When we succeed we never look at what we did right, when's the last time you see someone question a good thing. Though don't get me wrong if you can get it right the first time go for it by all means.
Not a huge earth shaking revelation but after I had it I felt I made a step forward in DJing. As a lot of you may know I went off on my own for a while leaving this place behind. I wanted to learn the hardway and on my own. Looking back from when I began, and looking where I am now I've made a huge ****ing leap. After that revelation I decided to come back reread the Bible to the concepts fresh and learn some put it to good use and refine what works for me. Its kind of like starting out for the first time but knowing what your doing, I guess I'm trying to get to that next level as they say.
-Grey Fox