I had plans last Saturday night with this girl I've been out with 2 or 3 times. She had a family function during the day so she said she'd call me around 9:30pm. Meanwhile something came up where I had to go out of town for the day and ended up getting back at 10pm. There was a message on my phone asking me to call her and that her little sister showed up unexpected, but she still wanted to get together with me. I wasn't really into hanging with her sis too, but I called her anyway. They were heading bowling and said they'd call at around 11pm since I wasn't ready to head out yet.

Just before 11, my neighbors came by and invited me for a drink. I set the call forwarding (or so I thought) so that my phone would ring at their place should this girl call me before I got home. Anyway, I assumed she didn't call me, but when I came back to my place at 11:30pm there was a message from her on my phone. WHen I called her back all I got was her machine. Some people came by my place then I tried her later at 1230 and got her. She sounded a bit annoyed that I missed her call, but she said ok when I asked her to do something on Sunday. Anyway, I called her twice on Sunday and left 2 messages(one early afternoon and the other in the evening), but got no reply.

It's Monday and I still haven't heard from her. We've had a blast both times we've been out, but our last date was 2 weeks ago. We've been mostly planning stuff that doesn't happen for one reason or another. She's a tiny bit to blame(she was hung over sick onetime), but it's mostly my fault. What do I do? Call her back and try again or wait for her to call me?

M.

I'd wait one day and then I'd send her a txtmessage with some funny but friendly stuff just like casual as if the flaking never occured to test her waters.

Some people here would prefer calling though.

She doesn't have a cell and I don't have her email address so I guess I'm only left with the call option. What should I say? Should I just pretend like it never happened and make more plans with her?

M.

Did you leave a message when you called her on Sunday?? If you didn't then I'd wait a couple days and call one last time. If she doesn't pick up, leave a message and then leave it alone. She knows you called and its up to her to get back to you if she's interested enough.



PIMP

Yeah, I left her 2 messages - one in the early afternoon and the other in the evening. I didn't think it was a big deal since she's called me and left 2 messages in one day before. It was actually just last Weds. Could she be so put off from me not being around for her call that she's completely dismissed me and won't return my calls? Normally I'd just say NEXT, but I really was starting to dig this girl and I did kind of mess up this past weekend. Help me out, what do I do?

M.

Don't call her back!!! You did your part by calling her after you missed her message and then you called her twice again. Why would you call her again? To tell her what she already knows? Huh? You'll look weak and desperate! Don't call her anymore if she doesn't reply to your messages!