The girl I´ve been dating for a few of weeks, and with who I´ve shared the bed a couple of times, asks me after sex: "How many partners have you had before me?" I have heard this question before in other occasions, so I answer her jokingly: "Your mama was my number 50 but it was years ago" she starts laughing and calls me idiot, I change the subject.

With this girl, I could answer anything, because I´m just fooling around with her. However, the question makes me feel very awkward.

Now, what to answer a girl when she askes the number of your sex-partners? I know that for some guys, the number of the girl´s partners is VERY important - some guys can not even concider being with a girl who has had many partners. Do the girls feel the same? Is it a big issue for them too? In short words, what should I tell a girl that I really care about, if she brings this question up? I see that the answer depends on the girl´s personality and her own experience, as well as how much you care about here.

I normally don´t like asking questions like this here in the forum because I think that spontaneity is important and all situations are different. However, I find this thing important. I also tried to look for previous postings about the subject, but I didn´t find any.

How would you deal with this question?

Tango-Kid

You're the first one..........lately *wink*

The best way to answer those questions is to be sarcastic like you did. If she keeps prying for this information then tell her you don't "kiss and tell." Its waaaaaaaay too early in your relationship to dispell this info. Tell her you might tell one day if she's lucky!!


PIMP

If the sex was good and she asks just say... its really embarrassing but im a virgin then smile. She wont believe you but just stick with it and she wont be able to do anything and it will just keep her wondering.

You've already had sex with her...if you tell her, "Oh, about 622", is she going to jump in a time machine and go back and c0ckbl0ck herself?

Do YOU think it's an extraordinarily high number? If so, just respond in vague terms. Or ask her how many SHE's been with. That'll give you an idea of what kind of answer she's looking for. If your number's lower than hers, I would just be completely straight. If it's higher, you may need to scale down a little.

Personally, though, that's one I'd keep C&F-dodging as long as you can.

When you posted this, from the title, at first I thought your girl was asking for the PHONE NUMBERS of your previous sex partners. LOL

Originally posted by squirrels
Or ask her how many SHE's been with. That'll give you an idea of what kind of answer she's looking for. If your number's lower than hers, I would just be completely straight. If it's higher, you may need to scale down a little.

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Hmm, most women prefer men who are older and thus more experienced.
So, maybe your number should be higher than hers.

Thank you guys for good advice!

I´d still like to know - what do you think, is it such an important issue for girls too? Or do they ask it just for curiosity and the answer doesn´t really matter that much?

When you posted this, from the title, at first I thought your girl was asking for the PHONE NUMBERS of your previous sex partners. LOL

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Hehe.. I noticed that too when I read the post again well, english is not my native language.. and I have a nice accent that makes girls crazy

Squirrels, I was mostly thinking about this issue, because I´m not going to fool around all my life, and maybe some day the answer really matters. Personally, I would never perform the same question to a girl. Not that I really would care - but I really am not interested in my girls´ exboyfriends or adventures. Anyways, I think this is one of the questions people should think twice before asking, and answering..

My ex-girlfriend kept asking me the same question:
I told her how many LTR I had but did not tell her about STR. I just said sth like "you do not want to know..."+ teasing. At times I would tell her about some girls but I would never give a number. She said sth like: OMG was it more than 50? LOL ))
I just would not say and she was fine with it.If you know the game(in bed) she will get an idea anyway..

My advise: do not lie to her if you want or if you are in a LTR with her. It is perfectly o.k not to tell everything,but this is just my opinion.

is this really any of her fvcking business? at this point it seems NO.

look her dead square in the eye and tell her, "that's none of your business, sweetie".

do it sternly so she knows that she's in some shyt that doesn't concern her. but also with a smirk so that she knows that u r not an azzhole. with the "sweetie" so as to deflect any of the latter.

that's what i do. why? IT'S NONE OF HER BUSINESS AND IT'S RUDE TO ASK.

don't let her get away with this craap.

Haha, this is another one of those **** tests.

2 months ago, i was shooting pool alone with my HB friend and she threw this question at me.

well i hesitated at first, so she kept guessing the #'s.

since she's not good at pool i say, well if you make the ball in etc or u can jump the ball ill tell you.

she dindt make any of the shots. so i say "better luck next time."

yea, just give them an ultimatum to do something u know they cant/wont do if they **** test u again.

usually i'd say girtls with high IL will do this to u.

DO NOT say it's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. cause that's just being plain cold and makes them feel not as important as they thought they were.

just tease them and play around the question, while not really giving an answer

Originally posted by ChesterB
Hmm, most women prefer men who are older and thus more experienced.
So, maybe your number should be higher than hers.

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Heh, if he's already banging her, then saying he hasn't been with that many isn't going to influence her estimation of his sexual ability. She already KNOWS.

Originally posted by ScrewIt
DO NOT say it's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. cause that's just being plain cold and makes them feel not as important as they thought they were.

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No, it really isn't any of her business, and there's nothing wrong with being straight up and letting her know that. The only thing is, you have to be consistent... you can't tell her it's none of her business and then expect her to tell you about her past -- though if you're like me, you prefer not to know anyway.

I have always answered the question truthfully and I've never had any negative results. I have been with 10 girls as of now, and everyone of them have asked me this.