Hey guys,

I've been on these boards for the about 9 months now and I'll be the first to admit that I'm a bit of a keyboard jockey! I do socialise with my large group of friends every weekend and I DO score a fair amount of girls (none I'd like to go out with tho!). Ive changed my life in general slightly but with girls I'm now ****ier, funnier and more of a challenge (Hell, I evenm managed to turn this HB9 around so SHE came up to me one night and asked straight out did I wanna kiss her! Thanks sosauve!).

Apart from girls, nothing much has changed for me thats why I made the decision, with a mate of mine, to get outta this town and move to England for a while, come January/February.

Here's a bit of background on myself:

- I didnt complete school, I left early.

- For the past 3 years I havent really had a proper job, just doing PT work here and there.

- During the day I'm quite shy with people and awkward around them (I have good days now and again tho.)

- Ive a LOAD of friends and associates and am well liked.

- Ive only really ever had 2 girlfriends (both lasted 2 weeks).

- Ive scored a LOT of girls, the ones I liked didnt want anything more, the ones I didnt like were, by and large, into me.

- Im an above average looking fella (not being big headed) - http://www.facethejury.com/profile.asp?user_name=silverwex

- Ive never really been bothered about my future, hence no career interests.

Anyway, this planned trip to England, we're planning on going initally for 2/3 months. I plan to stay on longer if all goes well.

The thing is, will this be THE turning point in my life? Even if it doesnt go according to plan?

Im planning on - Joining a gym, approaching girls, doing some sort of karate/kickboxing, eating properly, getting a full time job (maybe in an office) and generally trying to build up my confidence.

Any of you guys ever do this before (go away)? How did it turn out for you?

Will this be the best thing I can do?

Thanks guys!

reality check

- I didnt complete school, I left early.

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so finish school

For the past 3 years I havent really had a proper job, just doing PT work here and there.

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then get a full time job, do school part time

During the day I'm quite shy with people and awkward around them

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get over your shyness and awkwardness. You're suppossed to be a DJ all day, not just when you're boozed up.

the ones I liked didnt want anything more, the ones I didnt like were, by and large, into me

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that happens to AFC's all the time.

Ive never really been bothered about my future, hence no career interests

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well you better get bothered. do you know how hard it is to find a job after you're fifty? nobody wants you. how will you pay the rent after you retire.

Im planning on - Joining a gym, approaching girls, doing some sort of karate/kickboxing, eating properly, getting a full time job (maybe in an office) and generally trying to build up my confidence.

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you can't do that where you are now? Have you tried? REALLY tried? I don't except excuses.

Where are you going to stay in England? How are you going to pay the rent, pay for food,pay for transportation? Exactly what are you going to do to get a job? You MUST have these questions answered. Supporting yourself is expensive, even with a buddy to share the cost with.

I started my life over, but that consisted of moving back with family until I was able to support myself. I think you should try to do those things you want to do in your home town, or nearby, first. If you make a genuine effort, I'm sure you can find you can do all those things right where you are, just get off the keyboard and do it.

oh yeah, one more thing

The thing is, will this be THE turning point in my life?

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No, the turning point in your life happens in your mind. Its all about how you see things. And right now, your vision is pretty blurry.

Thanks for the advice.

I plan to get a job to pay for the rent etc. Jobs are easy to come by, theres a load of job centres scattered all over england.

Dunno why you're being so skeptical about this... ?