disdain update

There's something in the 48 laws of power about Treating the things you cannot have with disdain. (Ignore them)

Let me share a story to back up the what the wise stocktrader stated here. [url]http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=43862[/URL]


While I was just a regular guy at the pub, before I started working the door, there was this girl who was pretty charming and rather attractive. She had come over to our table to wait on us, and pretty much acted as if she were paid by the flirtation rate per minute. She didn't really work there, though. She was an attention wh*re, trying to help the owners.

I flirted right back with her, but didn't get anywhere. Well, I saw her leave with this one guy that night.

Three weeks later, she leaves with a different guy. Men, I'm telling you, she left with a lot of guys. All this time, since I got nowhere with my harmless flirtation, I just ignored her. When she would speak to me, I would be act lethargic, not really caring a bit about what she had to say.

She asked me to buy her a drink. I got the drink, brought it to her and told her it would be 4.50. She told me it was only 3.50. I told her that there was a 1.00 delivery charge. She said she wouldn't pay it, so I drank it.

Ever since then, she's like this bee around honey. All over me. She even stuck her tongue in my ear! Twice. I looked at her like she was nuts.

Last week she made me cookies. (not too bad, either) I shared them with the entire pub and I thought she was going to cry.

I told her that she wouldn't respect me if I didn't share.

I will never do the nasty with this chick, because my standards have risen. But, if I wanted to, it's nice to know that in this case, it works.


Remember, social proof works in conjunction with disdainment very well. In this one case, too well.

One of the younger guys (from here) was asking me how it was going with a fantastic girl who "didn't give out her number".

This chick had come up to me and introduced herself, after asking if I remembered her. I did not. ( I say that, even if I do.)
She was smiling big, playing with my hair, and schmuck that I am, I was loving it! After an hour of chatting about my weekend plans, her lack of same, and other fluff, I asked for her number.
As I stated, she declined.


I told him (young fella from here) it was too soon to say. How's this girl going to know I'm treating her with disdain if I only see her once every two weeks?

That's what I get for drinking too much. Ever notice how easy it is to come up with the clever thing to say after the opportunity has passed?

Guess I'll just "next" myself for screwing that opportunity up.
I'm sure she was playing a game, like "let's give the bouncer a woody." Alcohol does cloud the judgment!

I guess I'll see how disdain works on this next cutie.

i love it when you call me big pappy!

hahahahaha

wuddup. i am having the same issue. how do you play hard to get/disdain, when you only see the person 1ce a week, if that!?

what other tactics is a DJ to use, when playing the game with a fellow hard to get DJ?

by the way, that link does not work.

Ooops.

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=43862

In my case, with this particular young lady, it's just a matter of knowing that there are many more opportunities. One should never put all of ones eggs into one giant hope basket.

When I see her, I'll deal with those circumstances in my own way.
Nothing I can't handle.

This other DJ ship passing in the night -- nothing you can't handle either.

Well, Big Pappy did not hit the home run tonight! But, dear readers, he did bring back some useful information that he hopes will be of some use to someone, since I find it no consolation at all.

When last we left Big Pappy, he had some little hottie rubbing all over him, but not coming up with the digits. Subsequently, Big Pappy was trying to figure out how to ignore what he could not have, if the actual "what" that he couldn't have, had no idea that it couldn't be had by Big Pappy.

So, I came to find out that she is very interested in Big Pappy. But, only so far as his reputation takes him.

Let me explain, in the first person.

Let's call her Christina -- as that is her name. She's not so much a hottie as some chick I would like to enjoy physically.

Now, before I hear the chorus of "nextae the femaleia" be advised that I have a date with another hottie tomorrow evening, who claims to not know who to trust less - herself or me. I gave her even odds.

Christina has a friend -- who, at best is cute. Call her Beta

Four weeks ago, I didn't have a clue who these two were/are.
Now, because Christina introduced herself to me, I know who she is.

All I can think of is that Beta is pissed at me for something. I never saw her before four weeks ago, unless I carded her at the door. I can't see why anyone would take that shyte personal.
So, I came in the pub, made my social butter fly rounds to my friends, sat back and waited for those that were less than worthy to make their rounds to me.

She see me and asks me if I saw Christina. I said, "yeah."
She asks me If I said Hello to Christina, I said "Yeah"
Then she asks me if I talked to Christina, I said "Yeah, I said Hello".

Then she told me how I always talk to Christina. I told her -- "Look. 3 and a half weeks ago, I didn't know Christina from a hole in the wall. Why should now be any different? "

She said, "I thought you liked Christina."

I told her that I like everybody.

Christina came up and said she wanted a body shot. Why she wanted Jose Cuervo in her navel, I'll never know.

So, a little whipped cream to make a well, and a little Jose to fill it, and a Big Pappy to empty it, and all the planets are in there proper alignment again.

And that's all I'm going to say about that !

hahahah, i can tell you are drunk when you write this sh!t, cuz it makes no sense!!!

who the fcuk is beta, and what did she do? i am confused as to your situation...

Did I write that?

Let me just pull the covers back over my head....

"Christina has a friend -- who, at best is cute. Call her Beta"

Beta is getting a kick out of the little game between Christina and myself. Probably enjoying more than Christina or myself.

I'll see her (Christina) this weekend -- and I am going to lay the mack down on her candy a**!

well, i do think that me and you have the same kind of confidence, atleast.