Hey guys, ive read the site a few times and i have found some good pointers thanks a lot. But i have a serious problem. I am 21 years old and a virgin, i now have a gf who is great and we want to have sex. We tried once and it just didnt work. I had a hard on the whole time we were making out and kisisng, everything was going great. But then when i got out the condom to put it on, my little guy, lol, just shrank. I dont know what teh hell happened. Also one other time we were fooling around it was hard as hell again, but when she started to give me oral sex, it felt great, but again it went away. Should i go to the doctor or something? She thinks its just nerves but i dont know, and i dont really want to talk about this with any one i know. You guys can amke fun if you want, i dont blame you. But does anyone have any good ideas or suggestions on what i should do? Im freakingo ut over this.

That sounds like nerves ye =)

Make her play with your body (erogenous sones like ears, neck, nipples etc while you put on the condom.... Or make her go on the pill ... If you are in a relationship it's preferable...)

You don't need a doctor, here's the deal:

You've been gunning for sex for a long time now, you've probably had to fight that desire off sometimes so you wouldn't come off as needy. But still its been an ever present thought. I'm pretty sure I got it right so far, so if this is true you have mentally hyped up sex so much that its effecting your biology. Your just going to have to calm down, and change how you think about sex. Basically deemphasize it and things should work out okay.

-Grey Fox

Thanks a lot guys. Im pretty sure all im doing is making it worse by freaking out over it. I guess ill just have to calm my nerves and stop freaking out. Anymore ideas or comments feel free to tell me people. Im tryin to figure this out before i get dumped or some **** haha.

If you can jack off OK, then its nerves or maybe anticipation.
C

It is definitely nerves, I had the same issue my first time, you will need to relax and it will happen soon. I can only hope the girl is not a b1tch and will understand. If not, you know she was not worth it.

One suggestion is work up to it, don't pressure yourself to F@ck right away, relax and just enjoy the foreplay, etc, and once you are very relaxed it will work. It will work! Trust me

Dietzcoi

LOL conan thats exacly what i was thinking. After she left, i had to make sure everything still worked ya know? Worked fine then, i was just liek what the heck?
Oh and the girl was really sweet about it, to me at least. I dunno waht she was thinkngi or anything, but she kept telling me it was alright and i was just nervous.