Hey guys i have a quick question, the other day i started a new job, the girl who took me around on the orientation was hot as hell and later when i started my boss kept telling me that this girl kept asking about me. I got her number on Thursday and want to ask her out to do something on Monday i was thinking about asking her tonight. Should i wait alittle longer to call her... lol im pretty pumped up to call her but do you guys think i should wait until this weekend ?

Call her sunday nigt, set someting up for wednesday or thursday, or even next sunday. Build some anticipation. Make sure you don't spend too much time clinging on to her on the phone.

Thanks for the advice, but we both have off on Monday and i work night shift while she works days, my plan was to go out monday night after i get some sleep... should i call her tommorow if i want to set this date up ?

First of all, I would advice you to stop looking at this as a "date", because it will make things harder for you this first time and everytime after. Don't make it sound too formal for her; play it as a very down to earth thing to do. Invite her to get together, or to join you to hang out. Doesn't have to be anything fancy, or that has the "date" connotation.

Women really invest a lot of time and energy into "dates", so accepting such an offer from somebody new might really cause her to really consider wether its worth to go through the whole process, let alone what it will do to you. If there's a chance that she will want to get out of it, she will. Women put too much emphazis into these kinds of things, and try to find what it means.

Play it more casual, that way you can "screen" her and see if you even want to keep seeing her again; makes both sides be more confortable and things go much smoother into an eventual "date." Invite her to join you on something you are already have planned; so have something planned. Keep it low key. If things go well, plan something for next weekend.

To set up this kind of get together, you don't need to ask her that far in advance. I would call her sunday, probably late afternoon and ask her to get together. Don't ask her if she wants to go out on a date. Don't give her any chance to hesitate by the prospects of everything attached to a typical date.



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Call her at work Monday morning and tell her that you are going to be in the area around lunch time or after she gets off work (take your pick). Ask her if she'd want to have a cup of java of something along that line.

During your outing you can get a better feeling of her IL and set yourself up to getting together with her either during the week or on the weekend.

Call her at work Monday morning and tell her that you are going to be in the area around lunch time or after she gets off work (take your pick). Ask her if she'd want to have a cup of java of something along that line.

During your outing you can get a better feeling of her IL and set yourself up to getting together with her either during the week or on the weekend. Having a phone number is good but you don't need to depend on it when the woman is easily accessable.

FIRST OF ALL...Read the bible...Second of all..wait like 4 days to call her...or up to a week..Third of all Don't go on a date on Friday or saturday..those days are days you go out with friends and pick up other ladies...there too important to waist on a girl you don't even kow is worth it yet!

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