i was with my girlfreind the other night - we were drunk and she bursts into tears and tells me all this stuff about how she cuts herself and has bullemia, and said that she never wanted to tell me because she didnt think i wanted to hear her problems because when we first met i told her i was sick of negative chicks with issues. so of course i told her she could tell me anything, i told her it was ok, and i burst into tears myself, and then i tried to change the subject to something more fun. and we went back to her place and slept together without having sex, but she now seems more comfortable around me - i know that sounds like we are getting into a ljbf stage, but she kisses me alot still, and she talks about things that we can do on my birthday and stuff like that which is in the middle of next year.

she wants me to spend the night with her tommorow night after her final high school exam.

am i in a bad position now? she also showed me long letters she has written to me, but never sent. i have come very close to telling her i love her, and really want her to tell me the same, but i think she is too frightened.

i dont know.

please help.

what else can be said?, your banging a nutbar, personally if it was me , her problems would have stayed exactly that "her problems".

but anyway, its done now.

i have come very close to telling her i love her, and really want her to tell me the same, but i think she is too frightened.

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LOVE??????????? your in high school for phucks sake, your simply kunt struck, thats all there is to it.

im not in high school. she is. im 22.

im not in high school. she is. im 22.

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so??, shes in high school, you think its any less true to tell her a rubbish throwaway line like "i love you" and think it means anything to her?

Some people forget that being a DJ isn't all about being a cold-hearted bastard who doesn't care about girls.

If you really care about her, good for you. You need to convince her to seek counseling immediately. If she's throwing up after she eats and cutting her wrists, she needs help NOW.

Hold off on the "I love you" for now. Focus on getting her help. The worst thing you could do to her right now is ditch her because she's too negative (but it seems like you weren't even considering it).

this is spot on!

Originally posted by Porky
Some people forget that being a DJ isn't all about being a cold-hearted bastard who doesn't care about girls.

If you really care about her, good for you. You need to convince her to seek counseling immediately. If she's throwing up after she eats and cutting her wrists, she needs help NOW.

Hold off on the "I love you" for now. Focus on getting her help. The worst thing you could do to her right now is ditch her because she's too negative (but it seems like you weren't even considering it).

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do as this guy, Porky, says.

sounds like you could have a good relationship going. just dont go AFC no matter what!......why? I did, and 2 yrs later i still have one-itis! trust me. or if you dont ask me to further explain.

i was with my girlfreind the other night - we were drunk and she bursts into tears and tells me all this stuff about how she cuts herself and has bullemia, and said that she never wanted to tell me because she didnt think i wanted to hear her problems because when we first met i told her i was sick of negative chicks with issues.

Wow that is a mouth full.

You keep attracting these types. Ever wonder why? Have you ever wondered why you choose the name Turtleshell??

In looking at this first sentence you sound like your both made of the same stuff.

This girl needs councelling. Her self esteem is so low as shown by the cutting...she would be a easy target for the pimp game.

Suggest to her getting serious councelling!

Before I find her...