This summer while doing a summer internship in a bank I met a girl who while I was not initially especially interested in, I have grown very fond of. What follows is a rather lengthy story, but I would really appreciate it if you could read it and make comments and give me some advice of how best to proceed. I have her number, e-mail, etc. but due to being at different universities we have only seen each other once since the summer.

Here goes.....

Being on the same summer scheme and seeing each other every day during work breaks, and going out socially with the rest of the summer students, I got the chance to spend quite a lot of time with her.

As I said initially I was not interested in her (she was not the usual beautiful, tall blonde type I usually go for), but was friendly to her and talked to her a fair bit, and smiled whenever I saw her and stopped to chat. She returned my smiles all the time, and always seemed very happy to talk to me. I once complimented her, and she went all silly and blushing and schoolgirlish, and said "I knew I liked you Matt" . On evenings out she always looked for the opportunity to tease me, in a way she never did with the other guys, and brushed past me on occasion. She also kept on referring to details in previous conversations and remembering all these petty details I told her weeks ago, and dropped hints on occasion she was looking for a boyfriend.

Things hotted up when she found out I was going out one evening with a female friend from university. Ever since then she kept asking whether she was my girlfriend, and why not, and whether I had a girlfriend (not believing me when I said no)
On her birthday when she got rather pissed, she began the interrogation again, and as I had rather a lot to drink myself I was not able to evade her questions as best as I usually was. I happened to mention that the girl I went out with was not really my type, and she asked me what my type was, and I made the gaffe of describing the type of blonde beauty I previously went for (with little success may I add), which seemed to upset her.

At the end of the evening when I had to leave early, out of nowhere she rushed towards me and tried to kiss me, and as her breath smelled of alcohol I gave her the cheek brush.
The next day she seemed rather put out and cold, but she did give me a really nice birthday present (I gave her one but it was quite small but she was pleased with it) but she splashed out on a nice shirt for me, and dropped hints that we should keep in contact and meet up sometime when we were back at university.

The following day I finished work, and as I happened to be playing sports at her uni in Nov, I gave her an e-mail suggesting we meet up the morning before the match and that went smoothly although she was just being really friendly, and there was none of the tension that existed during the summer (although she happened to mention she was single as she was too busy to have a boyfriend). I gave her a hug on meeting and leaving, which she did not pull away from, and she was eager to meet again at Christmas.

OK story over!
My questions are:
1) How do I close the deal? I could engineer another meeting this Christmas, but was not sure to proceed from there, as I think we are dangerously moving to the friends zone, despite my belief she is very attracted to me.

2) What do you reckon her interest level is given the behaviours and actions I have described. She is a really friendly girl, so I could be reading too much into her actions, but did get the impression she fancied me a lot.

Thanks a million!Q

MAtt

yo keep it brief and short mutha...

Surely someone has something useful to say about my situation?

Well obviously she WAS attracted to you at least. You became a pretty good challenge to her.

Whether she still is is a bit more in the open, but I'd say chances are she is.

Is there any reason why you can;t specifically ask her out sooner than Christmas? Does she live THAT far away? I can understand that you wouldn't be able to just casually run into her, but perhaps you can call her up and say, "We should get together next weekend. We can meet at xxxx (or you can come to my uni, or vice versa)"

Then make a move, get some kino in and go for the kiss.

If it's not feasible to do that, then I guess you could wait until Christmas and basically do the same thing.

What you need to do is very clear: make your intentions known by a definitive unmistakable *action*. It's just the circumstances surrounding it that might make it a little bit tricky.

But basically, what you gotta do is find some way to meet her in person, and take her out to something fun and interesting, one on one, and make a move.

You're correct, you may be in danger of falling into the friends zone. For all we know, you may already be there. But the only way to know for sure if she still is attracted is to do what I said above.

Closing the deal is really very simple. Just can be intimidating, that's all. But you gotta do it if you're thinking about her this much.

And I'd say your chances are pretty good.

Good luck- -E-Z

By Christmas I meant the Christmas hols which start ridiculously early for universities in England (Dec 10th).

She seemed really keen on my idea of a day out in London, and London is such a cool place around Christmas time with the lights, the shop windows, and I know an excellent cafe which does superb cream teas, so I thought I would invite her to do that.

E-Z Rider when and where is the best time to make a move, as last time I met up with her I planned to get a kiss in, but never found the right moment.

Really appreciate your help, and if anyone has any input it would be much appreciated!

Originally posted by EternalBachelor
By Christmas I meant the Christmas hols which start ridiculously early for universities in England (Dec 10th).

She seemed really keen on my idea of a day out in London, and London is such a cool place around Christmas time with the lights, the shop windows, and I know an excellent cafe which does superb cream teas, so I thought I would invite her to do that.

E-Z Rider when and where is the best time to make a move, as last time I met up with her I planned to get a kiss in, but never found the right moment.

Really appreciate your help, and if anyone has any input it would be much appreciated!

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The key to making a move is to get her alone in an intimate situation. By 'intimate' I don't mean lighting candles and playing Kenny G, but just alone in a situation where you can focus on each other. Perhaps the easiest situation to think of is watching a movie over at your place. I can't imagine bringing a chick over to my place to watch a movie *without* making a move.

Let's look at the movie situation:

Rent a stupid movie. Something stupidly funny, preferably. You want to be able to, during the course of the film, draw her attention away from the TV and to you. So don't rent some hair-raising drama or anything really interesting.

A movie that makes both of you laugh is good. It puts you in a good mood and makes you more likely to touch each other, and makes her more responsive to kino. Kino is important. Mess around with her, tickle her some. Get real silly and wrestle her. Women LOVE this. It will make her feel giddy and school-girlish. While you're say, man-handling her at wrestling...look into her eyes and go for a confident kiss.

I had never made any kind of move before I came to this site. I've had two good relationships since I came here, and I started them both by making a move similar to what I described above. One I did on my old trampoline actually, lol. I took her over to my house to 'study some lines' for a play we were in, and I told her to come for a walk outside. Spontaneously, I had us go start jumping on a trampoline. It was rediculous of course, for us to be jumping like little kids, but it was fun in a 'romantic-tension' kinda way. I think I started play tackling her, and kind of wrestled her down on the matt, and from there the kiss was obvious, and I blew her away =)

The other move was actually at night in a neighborhood swimming pool with nobody around. This girl had asked to 'hang out' and I told her I'd like to go swimming. She seemed kinda surprised that I wanted to go late at night, but I insisted and we went. We ended up water-dancing (chick was a dancer =) and racing each other across the pool, and I'd dunk her if she beat me. Then at one point she was against the wall, and I came up in front of her and started getting closer. She couldn't take her eyes off of me...I was pretty intense, messing around, kind of teasing her (If you can get a girl inot that kind of 'giddy' state, they are just BEGGING to be kissed, and you pretty much know it, so you can tease her). Then almost before I even touched her lips her arms were around my neck. And this girl was actually an ex that had broken up with me, and I know she didn't have that in mind when she asked me to hang out =)

The power is in the kino. Get her alone, get her feeling good, and initiate kino. Working towards massive kino. Massages are money, as well.

All of this *might* sound a little immature to you...but really it's not, and you'll have fun, and so will she. Kino is almost magical in that when someones touching you you almost can't help but be attracted to them (ever remember when an average plain girl that you usually wouldn't give a second look would run her fingers through your hair or massage your back, and you somehow felt attracted to her while she was doing that? The same works for women, except they are even MORE receptive to touching than guys. You just have to get them comfortabe first- the stupid funny movie will do that.


This isn't as complicated as the length of this post might indicate. I'm just trying to stress the main 'ingredients' you need to make a surefire effective move.

Good luck and all that -E-Z

why oh why do people beat around the bush when they could be in it? learn how to read the signs bruh and act on them. this ch!ck wants your man-sized c0ck. no doubt about it. even if her IL has fallen (which it hasnt cuz challenge doesnt decrease IL), thats irrelevant. whats relevant is what YOU want to do, not whether or not shes still game. this is your reality not hers. if you are still interested in the b!tch than make it happen and give her a chance... otherwise move on and dont sweat it.

REJECTION IS THE FATHER OF ALL THAT IS HAPPYNESS.

Originally posted by DEKKA
why oh why do people beat around the bush when they could be in it? learn how to read the signs bruh and act on them. this ch!ck wants your man-sized c0ck. no doubt about it. even if her IL has fallen (which it hasnt cuz challenge doesnt decrease IL), thats irrelevant. whats relevant is what YOU want to do, not whether or not shes still game. this is your reality not hers. if you are still interested in the b!tch than make it happen and give her a chance... otherwise move on and dont sweat it.

REJECTION IS THE FATHER OF ALL THAT IS HAPPYNESS.

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haha I love this guy! (in the most hetero sense, of course)

Basically that's my underlying point. It's so simple- just do it. My posts hopefully will help you create a means TO do it. But just remember to chill and not get too worried, and don't overcomtemplate things. Assume the positive in this case, and being a Don Juan, take this lady.

Good Luck- -E-Z