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Master Don Juan
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I thought I'd sign my entrance to the world of this forum with a little thought I have on what differs the players/don juans from the uneasy...
I'm not an old fella, I'm still stribing with first year university but I do not think that necessarily reflects experience =)
Since my change in attitude 5 years back from the not so interested in girls to girls are life way I've been doing ALOT of studying, retrospective thinking and so forth when it comes to subject of picking up girls... Now my biggest problem was actually what I call a two inn one, fear and lack of selfconfidence. The only reason I managed to conquer these was the luck I had in the selfconfidence section... I heard many a time compliments from gorgeous, handsom, delicious, don juan and so forth but I never ever BELIEVEDE any of it. I thought I looked bad, I thought I had no chance with girls even though I got them. The reason my selfconfidence changed was a summer, a summer where I literally was showered with girls... Two of the hottest girls I had ever seen activly pursued me and I got them both, THIS was when my selfconfidence changed... It was the first step in realizing my goal.
Now one other thing I did was I moved to attend university. This helped ALOT. It gave me a FRESH mental start.. No bad memories, only millions of possibilities but one thing stuck. FEAR. The male ego is SO fragile, more fragile than an eggshell... Boys/males do NOT want to get rejected, they do not want to feel worthless, who does? This is where I had my epiphany.... Carelessness... It was hard but it went actually pretty quick. I went from the "WHAT IF" evil circle of meeting girls (Where you go what if she has a bf, what if she doesn't like me) to the SO WHAT mentality. I lost all fear of meeting girls... How did I do this? I applied some serious retrospective thinking... There is one thing I've always been good at and that is selfanalyzis and looking over myself and my past but I always did it with a very negative and pessimistic attitude... I instead start trying to look over all the POSITIVE aspects of myself, all the positives I had experienced. All the kind words, compliments, the days I felt good and so forth and it was honest to god like an epiphany. I just instantly realized that life IS a game and you are rolling the dize, you are in control.
If you loose your fear, you will never see a girl as a challenge again but rather as a possible experience =) Remember one thing, charm, personality, being a player it's WHO AND WHAT YOU ARE, you live it, you breathe it. It's impossible to fake, you need to know yourself for others to know you.
Probably not interesting for anyone to read but I still like to open a forumaccount with a sharing experience since I'm a very open and talkative person =)
I'm not an old fella, I'm still stribing with first year university but I do not think that necessarily reflects experience =)
Since my change in attitude 5 years back from the not so interested in girls to girls are life way I've been doing ALOT of studying, retrospective thinking and so forth when it comes to subject of picking up girls... Now my biggest problem was actually what I call a two inn one, fear and lack of selfconfidence. The only reason I managed to conquer these was the luck I had in the selfconfidence section... I heard many a time compliments from gorgeous, handsom, delicious, don juan and so forth but I never ever BELIEVEDE any of it. I thought I looked bad, I thought I had no chance with girls even though I got them. The reason my selfconfidence changed was a summer, a summer where I literally was showered with girls... Two of the hottest girls I had ever seen activly pursued me and I got them both, THIS was when my selfconfidence changed... It was the first step in realizing my goal.
Now one other thing I did was I moved to attend university. This helped ALOT. It gave me a FRESH mental start.. No bad memories, only millions of possibilities but one thing stuck. FEAR. The male ego is SO fragile, more fragile than an eggshell... Boys/males do NOT want to get rejected, they do not want to feel worthless, who does? This is where I had my epiphany.... Carelessness... It was hard but it went actually pretty quick. I went from the "WHAT IF" evil circle of meeting girls (Where you go what if she has a bf, what if she doesn't like me) to the SO WHAT mentality. I lost all fear of meeting girls... How did I do this? I applied some serious retrospective thinking... There is one thing I've always been good at and that is selfanalyzis and looking over myself and my past but I always did it with a very negative and pessimistic attitude... I instead start trying to look over all the POSITIVE aspects of myself, all the positives I had experienced. All the kind words, compliments, the days I felt good and so forth and it was honest to god like an epiphany. I just instantly realized that life IS a game and you are rolling the dize, you are in control.
If you loose your fear, you will never see a girl as a challenge again but rather as a possible experience =) Remember one thing, charm, personality, being a player it's WHO AND WHAT YOU ARE, you live it, you breathe it. It's impossible to fake, you need to know yourself for others to know you.
Probably not interesting for anyone to read but I still like to open a forumaccount with a sharing experience since I'm a very open and talkative person =)