Does the frequency of smiling having anything to do with DJing and masculinity

Jvesti · Nov 15, 2003

I heard this elsewhere in one of the posts but they said that smiling a lot is unmasculine.

I think there are two types of smiling.

Wuss smiling that exudes weakness and nervousness. Like when a hot girl waves at a geek and he makes a dweeby wimpy smile. LIKE wow, She actually waved at me I'm so lucky. This is what is girl and shouldn't be avoided.

Then there is smiling that exudes confidence when you walk into a room. When i have a ****y confident smile on when i walk into a room it always makes girls turn heads and I stand out.

For instance your saying in your head "Holy **** I'm the man it's on I own" then a smile that exudes confidence naturally radiates from your face. You don't even think about it the smile just comes on your face. Sometimes when you view someone doing this you can feel their confidence.

Not sure exactly how different the facial expressions are but I can definitely intuit which is which and I'm sure females can do it a hell of a lot better than i

PuertoRican_Lover · Nov 15, 2003

unless u have a reason to smile - DONT SMILE!

smiling is for pus@ies

y r u smiling when u walk into a room - was there a joke said?
shows u r a fake - guys and girls know this and wont trust you.

who r u smiling at?

looks unmasculine - u r obviously trying to look unthreatening!!!!

women do this (smile) to guys to show them that they will b unthreatening to them if the guy decides to approach her - she is opening up to him!

Mr. Latte · Nov 15, 2003

Are you kidding me? Those guys who walk around mean mugging all day are hilarious. It makes me wonder if their dog died.

Julian · Nov 15, 2003

Im half Mexican so for some reason my face in its relaxed state, LOOKS MEAN AS HELL!

I smile when i find something funny, or im feeling very content. I usually dont smile when im just driving or walking somewhere etc.

Jvesti · Nov 15, 2003

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
unless u have a reason to smile - DONT SMILE!

smiling is for pus@ies

y r u smiling when u walk into a room - was there a joke said?
shows u r a fake - guys and girls know this and wont trust you.

who r u smiling at?

looks unmasculine - u r obviously trying to look unthreatening!!!!

women do this (smile) to guys to show them that they will b unthreatening to them if the guy decides to approach her - she is opening up to him!

You can smile for other reasons than trying to convey you are unthreatening. I'm not too sure if i agree with ya.

Haven't you ever been so confident it put a smile accross your face?

G_S · Nov 15, 2003

I totally disagree. In my last 2 college courses I decided to smile at everyone as soon as I walked into the room--this was on the first day. In those same two classes two different girls I had interest in blatantly started pursuing me. I've never had that happen in any other classes. This "it's unmasculine" and "smiling is for pussies" is total crap. If you believe this you're either

1. still in HS
2. you simply have poor social skills.

Also, smiling doesn't make you look fake, it makes you look confident and friendly. I know plenty of "fake" people who never smile. Just don't smile so freaking big, and SMILE with your eyes too. The problem is that some people don't know how to smile and make it look mechanical.

Mr. Latte · Nov 15, 2003

Well, if you're walking around smiling like an escaped mental patient, sure you look like a moron. If you smile like you're confident and sociable person, you're magnetic. Walking around with some stupid mean mug on just makes you look like you're trying too hard to be cool.

G_S · Nov 15, 2003

Originally posted by Mr. Latte
Well, if you're walking around smiling like an escaped mental patient, sure you look like a moron. If you smile like you're confident and sociable person, you're magnetic. Walking around with some stupid mean mug on just makes you look like you're trying too hard to be cool.

Yep, he nailed it. Really, who wants to get to know someone better who looks unfriendly and unhappy?

iqqi · Nov 15, 2003

giggy, you are a virgo eh?

anyways to respond, the last guy i was "infatuated" with, alot had to do with his smile. he was always cheesing away. he had one of those silly goofy grins, but it was a great smile, it was like a flashlight. beaconing me.

it is what made me want him in the first place.

Jvesti · Nov 15, 2003

exactly

goofy geeks go around smiling looking goofy because it's generally a nervous smile and lack of control

Smiling like Tom Cruise in "Top Gun" and Arnold Schwartzennager as himself in "pumping iron" exude confident.

such as when Arnold went on stage at Mr. Olimpia in the movie. He stands there starts to flex and lets out this smile like "Yup, I know I already won I'm the man" is a perfect example of non-***** smiling

There is nothing wrong with smiling people when it's the type like this.

So pimp its scary · Nov 15, 2003

Ok...

Why the hell do you guys worry about smiling?

Somedays, things are going just soo awesome that I can't help BUT smile. Maybe it looks 'fake', maybe women will resent, or maybe women will say 'look at that guy whose haveing the time of his life, I hope he comes talk to me.'

Often, when I'm talking to a woman, I keep things soo light, or keep us both laughing so much that if I kept a serious face it would look awkward.

Come on... this bad mouthing smiling is ridiculous.

It's such a non-issue it shouldn't be debates.

Oxide · Nov 15, 2003

Gigolo, you ass! that is my bday , sept 17!

Fine, i guess you can be born on my day too.

PuertoRican_Lover · Nov 15, 2003

when you are exchanging pleasantries smiling is ok

but y r u smiling is the question? what is the reason? u r by yourself smiling?

and y would u smile when walking in to a room - the guy wanted to be ****y ? I dont get it.

PuertoRican_Lover · Nov 15, 2003

when people r trying to gain your confidence they smile

i.e. salespeople who want to sell u their shyt and then they act like they r your friend - fake!

or people smile at their boss - u know the type the "eat shiyt and grin" smile like the one above in this post

PuertoRican_Lover · Nov 15, 2003

im just saying smile for a reason - dont smile just to smile - thats not masculine - that is a feminie trait.

Tkman · Nov 15, 2003

Smile whenever you want to smile.

madgame · Nov 15, 2003

From what I know, I actually read it in some article on the web (not on this site though) smiling makes people MORE attractive. I think not smiling to look more masculine takes this whole being a man thing too far. In that article it also said something like...

Do you know a girl who a lotta guys are after and who you like 2 but just cant explain to yourself why, cause she acutally doenst look that good? Chances are she smiles a lot.

Ok now every critic could say..yeah ok it works for girls but not for guys because smiling is feminine (or in other words: for pussies) but I really think your chances with girls are better if u do smile (maybe a lot but not too much cause u dont wanna look stupid)
cause it just makes you seem more friendly/ approachable..whateva..if somebody smiles he just looks more attractive unless he got a few teeth missing and a real ugly smile lol

becker · Nov 15, 2003

I've never gotten anything but positive responses when I've smiled. For me, it's sort of like a ****y smirk; you can't take it too far or else you look like an arse-hole, but if you do it just right, it's a great flirty look.

Do it with very strong eye contact too, and you've won half the battle

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Does the frequency of smiling having anything to do with DJing and masculinity

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