So, some of you are probabley wondering, "What's up with the new journal Pink?" Well, that's a long story. Basically, I wanted the first Journal to be editted, my links to my photo album removed and then have it placed in the Archive. It was, however due to a miscommunication between some mods, it was then deleted. Hence the significant drop in my post count as well.

However, fear not those of you who care, for I shall continue on. But first, for those of you who never followed my original journal, a quick recap:

It all started before my Halloween Party. I wanted that night to be my sort of "DJ coming out" night. However, that's not what happened at all. I started with a list of around 7-8 girls I wanted to follow up on. Instead, I developed a one-itis on a friend of mine who I psuedo-dated for a short while towards the beginning of the school year. This was completely retroactive, and if anything stunted me back to AFC status. I eventually overcame this however and begin to focus on a second girl. My problem this time was ignoring some significant red flags and trying to continue with it, in the process still acting AFC. In a strange twist that probabley helped me out, I was c0ckbl0cked out of my date with this girl. So, with this brief intro out of the way... I bring you...


THE NEW BEGINNING

So, basically this journal will contain FRs and quandrys from my personal experiences. I will seek advice from you, and in turn the n00bs of this site can watch someone progress from AFC to DJ. After the last journal, I have to say I am definately taking a new approach to things. I am sick and tired of always failing because of my damn AFC tendencys. So from now on, no more. I will take all advice you give me 100% consideration. Be as brutally honest with me as you want/need. Do not hold back. This is about me learning and progressing, but I need your help to do so. But first I want to set a rule up. I was never really comfortable with using the actual names of people I was discussing. And becaue of that, I won't. However I will refer to some of the same girls as the first journal, but you should be able to figure out who I am talking about. And with that, my first FR...

-Mr. Pink

FR #1

Ahh... intresting night. Tonite was supposed to just be a night amongst friends, but turned out rather different. A few of my friends were supposed to come over, we were gonna get dinner then just watch a movie. Well, my friends came over, including my ex-oneitis (followers of Journal one know who I'm referring too... R). And someone I wasn't expecting at all. At two of the Halloween Party's I went to, a girl I was kinda interested in persuing was there. However, after talking to her for a short bit, I wrote her off since I didn't really click with her much and moved on. Well, she came over, much to my surprise.

And guess what, I wrote her off waaaay too soon. She's actually a lot cooler than she came across before. Problem is, since I was surrounded by friends, the mood was not very conducive to high amounts of flirting/kino. But, I still managed to work some in. I'll definately call this girl up next week and see if I can get something together. However, she got a phone call from some guy during our movie and was talking to him for a good 15 minutes or so, so I'll have to be alert for that. Other than that, intresting night. Found a new prospect.

-Mr. Pink

Keep progressing bro, I wanna be there when everything clicks for you...


Glad to see your still putting in solid efforts.


Fuvk R! I hate that attention *****...LOL



PIMP

Maybe you will not agree, but in my eyes, a girl that talks on the phone during the date for longer then a 'hi, I'm busy I'll call you back.' raises a red flag.

My lil trick has been that I leave my cell on, untill she gets there, then I'll shut it off as she is watching. Most of the times that I've done this, if the girl had a cellphone she pulled it out to make sure it was off, or turned it off. Either that or, if the phone rings I quickly say 'tell e'em youll call back'

And, I've said it before... you're already at a higher level of skill then ALOT of the guys that come to this site.

PS. I like the journal idea, but it gets hard to help without reading a massive back 20-30 posts... ie every so often it'd be nice to just start a new post or something, even if it were once a month or something...

Yeah, that's why I kinda wanted to move the old to the Archive Forum and start a new one here. But that didn't happen to well unfortunately...

Yeah, that phone call kinda raised a red flag in my mind. Thing is, this wasn't a date at all. When 4 of my guy friends, my ex-oneitis and her (I'll refer to her as The Aussie from now on) are over, it's really not a date.

However, it is strike number 1. 2 more and I drop efforts.

-Mr. Pink

Originally posted by Mr_Pink
the mood was not very conducive to high amounts of flirting/kino. But, I still managed to work some in.

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You can use this to your advantage sometimes. I've had occasions (admittedly way in the dim dark past) when I was kinoing a girl in the presence of her friends and because they saw they'd give these little signals like they could tell we were in the process of hooking up (saying things like "should we leace you two alone " jokingly) . This puts a massive dose of social approval behind you and creates that "meant to be" vibe in a chicks mind.

^^^

That would not be the case with my friends. Though I love them, they'd make some sort of comment to try to screw me over. It's weird enough hanging out with them and my ex-oneitis (I'll just refer to her as the ex from now one, quicker to type) because of a few of the comments they'll say will put both of us off pretty bad.

Anyways, no FRs for tonite, but rather a question. I've been noticing lately that I've been having a substantial increase in the amount of girls who "like" me. Since I've started this journal, I've had one girl downright tell me she likes me and go through the whole AFC thing, one buy me a cake in return for a favor, and one just randomly show up at my house.

Think this has something to do with my recent attempts at attracting women?? Or, possibly the social proof from continuing to hang out with my ex?? Think there's any way I can work up the ladder and get the girls I'm intrested in to think like these girls??

-Mr. Pink

FR #2

This is last night actually. I just randomly bumped into two girls that I've been intrested in at the mall. I just caught them as they were leaving so I only got to talk to them for like 5 minutes, but it was still a cool coincidence. Nothing major though...


Still looking for some responses to the above question...

-Mr. Pink

Hi Mr. Pink

For a moment, i thought you disappeared

But, there you are

Anyway,

Originally posted by Mr_Pink
^^^

Anyways, no FRs for tonite, but rather a question. I've been noticing lately that I've been having a substantial increase in the amount of girls who "like" me. Since I've started this journal, I've had one girl downright tell me she likes me and go through the whole AFC thing, one buy me a cake in return for a favor, and one just randomly show up at my house.

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Wow, you know when I first realized that girls actually did like me, I used to think otherwise for a long long time I just went...Whoa

It's a really good feeling to finally realize that you're actually not as bad as you've made yourself to be in your head. That's when you first realize that you can have any girl you want, that you can finally have standards and not settle for anything!!

Then what happened with me, was as I was going through some old HS pictures with my friends, I saw a girl who at the time I had probably never even considered, but in the picture she was mirroring me, sitting the same way that I was and stuff. Not much, but I realized that I had been liked all the time. It was me who was blind and not seeing it!

Think this has something to do with my recent attempts at attracting women?? Or, possibly the social proof from continuing to hang out with my ex?? Think there's any way I can work up the ladder and get the girls I'm intrested in to think like these girls??
-Mr. Pink

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Actually like I mentioned above, what has happened is that you have finally gotten some self-esteem, whatever that means, and you see yourself in a different way. Your recent attempts at attracting these girls, are just the extension of the new you!!

It could be also that now that you see yourself differently and act dfferently, meaning that oyu see these girls as potential "mates" somehow through energy or ether or whatever , these girls' insitcts are awakened and they come to like you.

If you read some of Pook's latest posts, the one where I have extracted my signature from, and Mr. Fingers' latest post on the tips forum, as well as an old post from DeepBlue on cultivating feelings of desire not obligation, I think you'd learn so much more.

Okay okay, you lazy ass, I'll post the URLs for you


This thread is huge, but if you just focus on Pook's replies, you'll get it.
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=38986

And of course Mr. Fingers's post
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=41738

And DeepBlue's post who I think had these ideas way before Pook or Fingz.
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=18400

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If you're anything like me, you'll realize that you're working too much at attracting girls. Remeber it's called ATTRACTION for a reason!! That reason is that when attraction is engaged, she is attracted to you like metal is attracted to a magnet. She comes to you. The metal goes to the magnet. How does that happen?

According to physics, the magnetic field of the magnet, which sorrounds the magnet, magnetizes the metal and makes it a tiny magnet, an extension to itself. Then the metal is pulled into magnet because it just cannot resist staying apart Now does the magnet do anything to attract the metal? NO. The metal magnetizes itself under the influence of the magnet's field and then it decides to fly and stick itself on the magnet.

Nah, I'm still around. I just havn't had too much free time due to college applications and all that crap, so I havn't been posting much.

I'm kind of in a dry-spell lately too. The number of women on my list is small right now. I'm working on trying to get it higher though...

-Mr. Pink