I feel like when I was 19, 3 years ago and I came across the board..

I am in an LTR and I guess I feel "out of my element"..I notice that since Ive been with her exclusively, I cant get enough of the relationship material on this site.

Its become addictive again and I am starting to obsess over it.

I am really trying hard to listen to Tesuque's and Mr. Fingers' repective advices about just letting go in order to learn more about yourself as well as learnign to have a more fulfilling LTR.

Its hard to put into practice when all of these "techniques" on this forum have helped me bag so many chciks when I was single. Its like I dont trust myself or the girl enough to "just let go"..I am a monster feeding on this knowledge, claiming the unrealistic goal of Perfection. Its like im not comfortable enough to just dive in without knowing everything there is to know, and things I should be wary about, in an LTR.

To tell you the truth, the whole thing is a big turn off. I really dont know what to do..will this phase pass as I naturally become more in tune with my gf? Or will it only grow more intense?

Im starting to feel that I would be happier being single, simply worrying if Ill be "getting laid" again (although of course this is something Im not concerned about). At the same time, I would fel like a total cop out by not meeting the challenge of an LTR with a genuinely great girl.

Any thoughts fellas?

Leave the board for a week. No contact with it at all. Then come back.

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Why would this be a bad thing? I mean, the whole point of So Suave is self-improvement. You're learning from this site, as well as putting the stuff you've learned into action. I don't know why this scares you so much, because it's not a bad thing as long as you keep it in moderation.

b the man of the relationship and take control - if she hesitates to follow and start doing her own sh@t - then u know something is wrong - start testing her in different situations and write down her reactions and your observations - as if your a national geographic reporter and she's an animal this will keep your skills sharp and ever watchful - so u dont revert to afc status.

hell if she passes all your tests and u accept her for what she is - then y spoil a good thing only to end up with a crazy ho.

SAY NO TO HOS!