Ok so my attitude and behaviour towards women has improved alot. I can make conversation easy enough, don't fall for the BS, and so on.

BUT, when i'm 'out' i have this mental block when it comes to just approaching women. I always seem to find a reason NOT to approach though (eg, she's busy talkign to her friend, she must be with a guy etc) - when i think about it it is pathetic, its like im looking for a girl with a flashing neon light saying TALK TO ME before i'll approach.

Maybe i shoudl be looking for reasons TOO rather than NOT TOO approach (now theres a thought lol)

ive read the DJ bible stuff several times, do i just need a slap in the face and a kick up the a**?

Have any of you guys overcome something like this?

Yes we all have, "slaps you in the face and kicks you in the butt" now stop waising your own time asking quesions which you already have the answers to.

Yep, employ the 'three second rule ' in the bible. If you see a pretty girl, don't wait any longer than the time it takes you to say 'one thousand two thousand three thousand' in your head to approach her.

Eventually this becomes second nature and you won't have time to start making approaches as to why NOT to approach her.

Make sure it's a natural approach though - don't pounce on her just as she's come into the room and hasn't even taken her coat off!

Originally posted by AFCitsnotforme
Have any of you guys overcome something like this?

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Yes.

Next time you want to approach a girl, but you start feeling afraid of what she'll think/say/do, what her friends will think/say/do, or what your friends will think/say/do, stop and say to yourself, "Lose the drama, get over yourself and try again."

You're injecting a lot of unnecessary drama into the situation worrying about what effect she or anyone else has on your reality. Get control of yourself...what happens has NO impact on the rest of the universe.

If your not sure if you should approach her or not try this. When you make eye contact smile and wave. If she waves back go for it.