Craig Reeves
Master Don Juan
I would like to focus on a very important topic that a lot of people do not really ever talk about.
I'd like to talk about ATTITUDE.
Most of us have a serious attitude problem when it comes to doing anything with women. Whether it be approaching them, getting the email/phone number, taking them out for a date, going for the kiss, or whatever....most of us guys have a very wrong view about doing any of these things with the women that we want that will actually get us what we want out of them.
Unfortunatly, this attitude problem that most of us guys have keeps us from ever getting what or who we really want!
So now I'm pretty sure that you guys are all asking me - "What's the problem with our attitudes that's keeping us from not only getting the women we want, but keeping us from getting what we want out of life as well?"
Well it's really quite simple, and here it is:
We place our decisions to go after what we want AROUND the person we're trying to get it from's feelings!
For example, I could be in a resturant and see this goregeous woman that I really would like to meet. However, I don't go up there and talk to her because I don't want to disturb her.
You see what's going on? I'm placing whether I go up there and talk to her or not around HER feelings - not even considering my own! I'm basically keeping myself from going after what *I* want in exchange for what I THINK that SHE wants.
Example no. 2
I meet a girl one day, and I just think that she's just plain wonderful, so I consider going for her phone number the next time I see her, but something keeps telling me that she might have a boyfriend and she might be offended, so I end up not getting it....
What just happened? I wanted the digits, so why the heck didn't I just ask her for them!?
It's because I placed my own wants ASIDE for what she may or may not have felt!
This kept me from an oppurtunity....because I assumed that she had a boyfriend and would get offended, I once again kept myself from going after what I wanted - simply because I didn't think that she'd like me considering my wants, and asking her for her number.
Now let's talk about what somebody with the right attitude would do, and what would go through the mind of somebody with the right attitude.
I see a beautiful woman at a cafe, so I then decide if I want to talk to her or not. I come up with my decision and it turns out that I definatly would like to talk to her because she seems really nice. Although I'm not sure if she really wants to talk to anyone right now, that doesn't matter, because *I* want to talk to her, and if she doesn't want to talk, then that's not my problem - she can just shoo me away.
See the difference...?
Whether she wants to talk to me or not does NOT keep me from considering what *I* wanted (which was to talk to her) and going up there and talking to her.
Example no. 2
I meet this wonderful woman one day, and I just like her so much that I decide the next time I see her, I'm going to get her email/phone number. I'm not sure if she has a boyfriend or not, I don't even know if she's interested in my emailing her. Hell, I don't even know if she even HAS an email or not. But the next time I see her, I ask for it.
Now whether I get it or not is a different story, but the point is.....
MY CONCERNS ABOUT HER FEELINGS DID NOT KEEP ME FROM GOING AFTER WHAT *I* WANTED! I didn't put MY wants aside because I was afraid of what she might do or how she might feel about it.
Now don't get me wrong, you should definatly care about how a woman feels. But you should not place what YOU want from her aside because of your concern about her feelings. YOUR wants, and only YOUR wants should determine whether or not you go for it or not. Not hers or anyone else's.
If I like a woman, I'm going to ask her for her email because I'm interested in her and I want it. Whether she likes me or not isn't going to dictate whether or not I go after what *I* want. I'm going to ask her to write her email down for me, because I'm not going to put my own wants aside simply because of how she might feel about my going for what I want.
If she doesn't want to give me her email then she can just say "no". But whether I thought she was going to be up for it or not didn't STOP me from asking anyways.
Stop letting a woman's feelings DICTATE whether YOU ask something of her or not. Stop letting whether SHE wants a kiss or not dictate whether you go for it when YOU want it. Start developing the attitude that you're going to go for it whether she or anybody else may like it or not.
This is all about ATTITUDE. Attitude will determine EVERYTHING in your life. EVERYTHING. It is FAR more important than every technique you find combined times 10. If your attitude isn't right, all the techniques, all the kino, all the C&F, and all the NLP in the world will be useless for you and only get in your way.
Thank you for reading this. Good luck, and have a blessed day!
I'd like to talk about ATTITUDE.
Most of us have a serious attitude problem when it comes to doing anything with women. Whether it be approaching them, getting the email/phone number, taking them out for a date, going for the kiss, or whatever....most of us guys have a very wrong view about doing any of these things with the women that we want that will actually get us what we want out of them.
Unfortunatly, this attitude problem that most of us guys have keeps us from ever getting what or who we really want!
So now I'm pretty sure that you guys are all asking me - "What's the problem with our attitudes that's keeping us from not only getting the women we want, but keeping us from getting what we want out of life as well?"
Well it's really quite simple, and here it is:
We place our decisions to go after what we want AROUND the person we're trying to get it from's feelings!
For example, I could be in a resturant and see this goregeous woman that I really would like to meet. However, I don't go up there and talk to her because I don't want to disturb her.
You see what's going on? I'm placing whether I go up there and talk to her or not around HER feelings - not even considering my own! I'm basically keeping myself from going after what *I* want in exchange for what I THINK that SHE wants.
Example no. 2
I meet a girl one day, and I just think that she's just plain wonderful, so I consider going for her phone number the next time I see her, but something keeps telling me that she might have a boyfriend and she might be offended, so I end up not getting it....
What just happened? I wanted the digits, so why the heck didn't I just ask her for them!?
It's because I placed my own wants ASIDE for what she may or may not have felt!
This kept me from an oppurtunity....because I assumed that she had a boyfriend and would get offended, I once again kept myself from going after what I wanted - simply because I didn't think that she'd like me considering my wants, and asking her for her number.
Now let's talk about what somebody with the right attitude would do, and what would go through the mind of somebody with the right attitude.
I see a beautiful woman at a cafe, so I then decide if I want to talk to her or not. I come up with my decision and it turns out that I definatly would like to talk to her because she seems really nice. Although I'm not sure if she really wants to talk to anyone right now, that doesn't matter, because *I* want to talk to her, and if she doesn't want to talk, then that's not my problem - she can just shoo me away.
See the difference...?
Whether she wants to talk to me or not does NOT keep me from considering what *I* wanted (which was to talk to her) and going up there and talking to her.
Example no. 2
I meet this wonderful woman one day, and I just like her so much that I decide the next time I see her, I'm going to get her email/phone number. I'm not sure if she has a boyfriend or not, I don't even know if she's interested in my emailing her. Hell, I don't even know if she even HAS an email or not. But the next time I see her, I ask for it.
Now whether I get it or not is a different story, but the point is.....
MY CONCERNS ABOUT HER FEELINGS DID NOT KEEP ME FROM GOING AFTER WHAT *I* WANTED! I didn't put MY wants aside because I was afraid of what she might do or how she might feel about it.
Now don't get me wrong, you should definatly care about how a woman feels. But you should not place what YOU want from her aside because of your concern about her feelings. YOUR wants, and only YOUR wants should determine whether or not you go for it or not. Not hers or anyone else's.
If I like a woman, I'm going to ask her for her email because I'm interested in her and I want it. Whether she likes me or not isn't going to dictate whether or not I go after what *I* want. I'm going to ask her to write her email down for me, because I'm not going to put my own wants aside simply because of how she might feel about my going for what I want.
If she doesn't want to give me her email then she can just say "no". But whether I thought she was going to be up for it or not didn't STOP me from asking anyways.
Stop letting a woman's feelings DICTATE whether YOU ask something of her or not. Stop letting whether SHE wants a kiss or not dictate whether you go for it when YOU want it. Start developing the attitude that you're going to go for it whether she or anybody else may like it or not.
This is all about ATTITUDE. Attitude will determine EVERYTHING in your life. EVERYTHING. It is FAR more important than every technique you find combined times 10. If your attitude isn't right, all the techniques, all the kino, all the C&F, and all the NLP in the world will be useless for you and only get in your way.
Thank you for reading this. Good luck, and have a blessed day!