Starting tommrow November 11, 2003, I will be starting my life over. A current update on how things are going in my life.


I feel very lost and I am trying to find myself. I am going to start hanging with new friends, Get another job. I also want to find a girl worth being faithful to.


I am doing very well in college and I have all of my families respect. The only thing they disapprove of is my gf. She is dropped out of HS and she smokes ciggrates. I am the exact opposite I don’t drink or smoke and I am in school.

The thing about is I am very close to my gf. She is like my best friend, and we have been through a lot together. She is also about to go back to school and she has a new job. She is down to a few ciggrates a week.


I think I should move on because it’s just too much **** in our relationship that can’t be fixed. Also I am afraid that the chick will get pregnant?

I am changing my friends because my current ones are losers and the our find with being losers. I have a little gut I could be a lot leaner so I joined a gym and it starts tommrow.

I have a fear of cold approaches I also want to conquer that. I did one last night it went okay but I want to be a lot better.

I have a 96 civic and I am going to probably get a 99 spider or 02 cavalier 2dr sport

I have been shopping an my clothing are very nice.

Some people said keep it because it will save me money cause I won’t have a car note. But **** it I am not happy with my car, so why go through life unhappy when there is a way to be happy.

I am going to start reading books everyday and I will start studying harder. I have a B for my GPA. But I want to get that up to an 4.0.

It would be very helpful if you guys could go through this transformation with me. Because it is tough and it’s a lot easier with people on your side.

I will be going out a lot to try and do cold approaches and do some FR. I will post every week on update on how things are gong and CA's.
P.S. I am not an AFC I have read the bible and had ten different girls at once. But I am done with the whole player thing I am just looking for the one for me.


Thanks

Its going to be a bit difficult to do all those things at once. Maybe try to tackle a couple at a time. I have those "I want to be completely different from this point on" moments also, but if you try to do it all at once you get spread thin.

Don't talk **** about your friends, losers or not. That makes you the loser, not them.

P.S. I am not an AFC I have read the bible and had ten different girls at once. But I am done with the whole player thing I am just looking for the one for me.

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Cmon man, if you aren't at least somewhat AFC and had 10 different girls at once, you wouldn't bother reading this site or the bible, and you especially wouldn't make this sort of post.

Good luck though, change is a good thing.

Cmon man, if you aren't at least somewhat AFC and had 10 different girls at once, you wouldn't bother reading this site or the bible, and you especially wouldn't make this sort of post.



I forgot to mention that I have been reading this site for a long time. I went from an AFC into a DJ hooked up with a girl. I kind of went back to some of my AFC ways.


I just need to get my inner DJ back.

Thanks.

I'm going through the same thing as you are pretty much. I realized what I needed to do after my girl left me. I didn't know who I was anymore and I needed to find out exactly what made me happy and a good portrait of who I am. I am slowly finding that and I can see that you are too man. But like someone else said.... take it one thing at a time. Once you start something you get really excited and want to do it all at once but you can't do that. you'll just drive yourself even more crazy.

Here's what I did and it may work for you as well. Pick three things you want and go for it balls to the wall.

Example:

Go workout and get ripped, throw out all your old clothes and buy some new ones, and find one new hobby to do (in my case it was paintballing).

Once you tackle one of those then add one to the list. I have gotten new clothes and a new hobby so I added two new ones to the list.... to get Invisalign for my lower teeth and to get a new part time job.

See what I'm saying here. It puts everything into prospective. Make a list of everything you want to do and on a seperate list have the things you've accomplished as well as the things you are currently working towards.

Take care man and PM me if you want to talk.

Hey, I hope that you don't expect this to be a one or two week venture, because that is the type of change that can take months to accomplish...

Look at the boot camp, that is a minimum of 8 weeks (probably more like 10-12 weeks for the average person)...

Good luck tho.