i did a search, but couldnt find quite what i was lookin for, so here goes:

ive been seein two girls lately (thanks to this site, and those on it). unfortunately, ive just gotten exclusive with one, and i need a way to break it off with the other...

background on the girl im dumping:

been dating for 3 months, but have only seen her once in the last 4 to 6 weeks (she says busy with skoo, but she wasnt busy earlier in the semester) she lives next to campus and i live about an hour from her. high IL (make out session on first date, VERY touchy feely with me since), but i cant keep her due to promises ive made...

how do i do this (never have). do i take her for lunch? maybe the first place we met, to kinda close the circle?

do i tell her about the other girl? or just say its not working for me...

i MUST do this soon...

just remembered, she having financial/school/ and family problems, and is most likely a bit depressed

if you have only seen her once in the past 4 to 6 weeks, i don't think you really owe her anything. From here on out, you and this girl are just friends, thats the easiest way about this, just LJBF her (feels good to be on the side who is choosing )

yes, yes it does .

and thats exactly what im gonna do!

You said it best when you said that you need to close the circle. It is an AFC move to let her go when she expects you to be around. I wouldn't take her to where you first met though.

Completing the circle is good however, I would do it face to face at her place. She will be in a place where she feels safe and will be able to let her emotions flow if necessary. PLUS, you will not be in a public place where she could cause a scene in an attempt to embarrass you.

ok, cool

but how do i put it? i know i cant tell her about the other girl. do i go with distance and lack of contact? or maybe one of the vague "its just not working for me" lines?

i think im being a pest about this, but i want to get it right. thanks!