Ok, here's the deal...

I like this chick in school...she has/had a BF of 2 years who she says was her "first love" (first BF)...he had to go to Israel to be in the military for 2 years and left about 1 week ago.

They haven't verbally "broken-up", but obviously she's here...he's there...

Anyway, is it worth it to start macking a chick like this, or am i just setting myself up for a fall?

I thought there was an interest level on her part, as she started acting differently towards me after he left...but after seeing how she acts around people, she acts very friendly to everyone. So now i can't tell shyte. She does reciprocate kino, but it's usually pretty casual.

I have her number, but only because she invited me to her B-day party (along with some other people from the school), so it seems kinda awkward to call her up...seeing as how i didn't get it through the "3 sec. rule...c/f...kino...close, etc."

Should i be even thinking about this chick?

I thought about asking her straight up if she broke up with him seeing as how he had to leave...see what her reaction is, keep it pretty casual...dumb idea?

Only thing about those girls who "just" broke up with their BF tend to be still attached, and the last thing i need is to be a re-bound case...then again...if i don't initiate something soon i'll end up in the dreaded "friends zone"...

Thoughts?

Dude...seduce her.....make her think your soo great that she'll just forget about this other dude!!

Chicks like and NEED male attention. A long distance thing like this will get her lonely pretty quickly.

She will break with her BF sooner or later (probably sooner).

Hang with her and work it, don't "wait" for her to split with her BF. Otherwise next thing you know some other chump will be screwing her.

A lot of chicks won't get rid of the old BF until they have a new one at least on the horizon. (Having a BF is a equates to status for chicks plus it boosts ther self esteem and makes them feel validated - not having one is a no no). She likely has her eyes open right now (even if she isn't fully determined yet to move on), she is gonna see what guys step up and will eventually CHOOSE one.

So you have to make yourself an option. Be careful, because if you hang with her without any sexual element you are gonna end up being the friend who stops her being lonely but gets none.

As for the rebound thing - do you want to fvck her or not? You have more chance of her hanging around if you've fvcked her than calculating the exact moment to get a relationship.

JJMclure...


"So you have to make yourself an option. Be careful, because if you hang with her without any sexual element you are gonna end up being the friend who stops her being lonely but gets none."


Right on that one!!!


Basically keep up the kino...work as normal

hmm...i thought i'd have to play it a bit differently. What are your thoughts of calling a chick whose # you did NOT get from her directly, with an intent of hooking up?

Be careful being her rebound, she may have some hostilities about her ex that she may displace on you.

Well...as an update, as much as i do like her, I found out today that she still is in love with her BF.

They didn't break up because they wanted to end it, but because he HAD to go to the military...so she still talks to him every day and considers him her best friend too.

Sooo...i'm kinda confused if it's better to next her now, or keep it up. Today i just didn't feel any kind of vibe/interest in her whatsoever.

She's got a b-day party on Saturday that she invited a lot of the people from the school to...instinct tells me not going and nexting is the DJ thing to do based on the circumstances.

Am i right?

Man if a guys called up it's a pretty dcik move to go stealing his chick.

JMHO.

bump

So this board has fallen to the depths of giving advice to a guy who wants to steal another guys girlfriend? A guy that has gone off to serve and possibly die for his country?? Damn guys look at the advice youre giving.....

This board has sunk to the lowest of the lows.

Actually echo,

I never said i wanted to steal his GF...

If you actually took the time to READ my post, you'll see that my question was whether or not i should be macking a chick who just broke up with her BF...not whether or not i should break the two of them up.

They are not together anymore, and have remained freinds...

In my last post you'll see that based on THIS information...y'know...the fact that she STILL LOVES HIM...THE FACT THAT I"M FALLING INTO THE "FRIENDS" ZONE...THE FACT THAT I DIDN'T SEE ANY KIND OF INTEREST RECENTLY FROM HER...i concluded that NEXTING was the best thing to do...

Not "how do i get her still???"

Well, you said, "shes still in love with him, talks to him every day, they are best friends, only broke up cause of the distance".

Sounds to me like they are still together, just not "officially". Why waste your time? Even if she gets with you, your chances of having any type of relationship besides a quick sex fling is slim to none. And again, how do you think the guy would feel knowing he's stuck over there in the Mideast while his quote unquote gf is banging another guy? Just stay away.

thanks echo...

i guess i just didn't want to feel/act AFC by "not going for it"...

She's actually quite cool...which beings me to the other thread i;ve got going, which is "how do i next her"...

She's in my school and in almost all my classes, so i'm a bit unsure how a "next" is to be performed in this situation...

Personally, i know i don't want to be "friends" with her...mainly because i like...so am i supposed to ignore her completely in class, or keep being friendly?

Thanks for the reply by the way...