I'll tell you the whole story since I suppose it's pretty unusual.

I tried finding a girl through the internet didn't work so I gave up and was in the process of removing all my accounts on different sites when this girl e-mailed me. I had been through this before it didn't lead to anything and also I didn't think I had a shoot at this girl anyway. So I was 100% honest with her, I just told it as it was you know so now she know more about me then anyone before even my family. We talked ALOT a couple of hours everyday for a couple of months.

She lives 6-7hours away, but I went to visit her a couple of times and she was gonna visit me this weekend. Everything went great when I was at her place. But the whole trip when she was gonna visit me went wrong from the start. I got the impression she didn't want to come. Finally she booked a plain ticked and she was gonna come alone, she didn't want to do that at first either. (she really don't like traveling, but still!) She got a 2yo doughter and at the last moment her ex tells her that he can't have her over the weekend. btw the doughter loves me and I don't have a problem with her having a kid. I think the ex just wanted to be an ass, since he new he was gonna have her this weekend for a month.

This is when things started to be wiered. I had told her how important this was for me that she came. We have talked about me moving in with her when she gets a new apartment (her idea). Anyway I got over that she didn't come and said fine come another weekend. Anyway we talked over msn one night and she said that she was lucky that I can't see much without my glasses and couldn't see her "ugly" body when we had sex. And that maybe I should find someone else, I think she said it as a joke. But she has issues about her body.

The next day I sent her an sms telling her that "she shoulden't say that and I don't want to be with anyone else it's you that I love". Big misstake, after that she avoided talking to me for a couple of days I finally got her to say that she paniked when I said that I loved her and that I couldn't because we have only meet a couple of times. I asked her if she wanted to take it slower and that I could get an apartment in the same town instead of moving in with her. She still hardly talks, and she used to talk alot and be really pushy.

The thing is before all this she was REAL interested I have meet her entire freaking family and some of her friends and eveything. And we talked about everything... This whole thing got me pretty pissed that shes can't even just tell me that I was an idiot for telling her that I loved her instead of avoiding me. My though is I should just give her some time to figure out what she wants since no matter what, I won't see her until next weekend or the one after that. She told me that she likes me alot but is unsure about herself??? Just want some inpartial input on the situation.

something tells me you spend too much time communicating via internet rather than person.

You dont love someone you talk through a technological device with.

I think this one is beyond help guys, but youre welcome to have at it. As for me...I'm "tired". It's starting to get repetitive.

Yeah, this is very strange. I would think you need to meet a girl in person before declaring your love for her.

Yawn.....Read the bible Newbie

Damn you guys can be harsh.You can tell which posters here are doing 40days and 40 nights at the moment

Dude , what you may be experiencing is a phenomnon known as "oneitis" it's where you only have one girl on your horizons at this time so she becomes too much the focus of your thoughts and feelings and so your percieved feelings for her intensify.

In this situation I reccomend you find three other women to date, to get some perspective.

However in this specific case the girl seems like a lot of trouble. First she's hot then she's cold...

Have you ever behaved this way to someone you were genuinely interested in? (the answer is no).

So you need to tell her to either poop or get off the potty. If she can;t sort her sh*t out and start consistently showing you affection and regard then ditch that qss and F*** Ten Other Women.

(You can tell I'm stuck at the base today huh).

yup, i'm pretty sure that this situation is going down in flames for two very good reasons:

1) You're acting like a clingy AFC... talking for hours on end, and agreeing to move in with someone so quick into the relationship. The challenge is lost

2) You told her that you loved her! BIG friggin mistake... if you'd read the bible, you would have learnt that the DJ NEVER says i love you first... let the girl be the first to say it

I say, back off, lay low, be unavailable and start getting other women...


-iceH

BOOM!!! That's the sound of your chances with this broad shattering like a piece of antique glass hitting the floor.


You are a MAJOR AFC!! Go read the bible, and forget about this girl because your done.



PIMP

He broke one of the cardinal rules!!!!!!!!!

Never ever say i love you to a girl unless she says it first. As a dj your main goal is the dating and seduction process. As she spends time with you she will be the one to get serious, not you because women control the speed of the relationship.