I spent Alot OF Time Reading many topics and Sometimes the G/f Stealers club..cuz alot of the girls out here are going out with dumasses. Well i'v been spending quite a bit of time with this one girl..talking to her lots...working on my DJ skills....but the problem is when i met her..she was seeying some one...she olny talked about it once and thats cuz she didn't want to go in the movie store where he worked...i'v hung out wit her about 3 times..she still hasn't said any thing else....she seems interested cuz she told me if she was single she would go out with me......No how do i find out if she's still with this dude...or do i start ignoring her...should i put the moves on her....What should my next step be..i'm sorta looking for a long temr thing here..cuz she's actualy interesting and outgoing...So What should i Do Now???
I'm still new at this and would like to try my best to see what i could acomplish...Cuz i sorta always can't seem to get past this point usualy

Judge her actions, not her BS lines about 'if i was single id do this' blah blah...

You said that you talk to her alot but have only hung out 3 times ? A couple of points -

Don't spend a lot of time on the phone with her / chat or anything else other than face to face.

You don't want to get stuck in the friend zone. Don't be too available and don't be her emotional tampon. Keep the mood happy.

So what do you do next ?

Kino, Kino, Kino.
Make a move.
See how she reacts.

Then you will know where u stand.

ok that workes...she seems into me..but really unsure about whats going on..thats why i'm a lil confused i think..i know not to become her emotional tampon.....i'm thinking i should maby back off for a lil while..but will that just kill my chances? And yeah..next time we do something i'm definitly will Pull something..tonight she kept bugging me about being a playa...and i made her appologize..and i bugged her about it again..i siad sorry isn't good enough..and She knows i love skirts on my ladies..and told her that wasn't good enough..she asked what would be good..i said i'm not telling you..let me sleep on it.....so i'm gonna tell her she ows me a good night kiss..what Do you Suggest if she puts it down???Coky Funny..like ok..your loss and just leave??

Hello Speed,

I have been in the same situation. I tried the being friends thing with the girl, then after growing some cojones I just made a move on her. I got the token resistance (basically she didn't want to come across as a $lut), but after about oh... 7 seconds she was all over me.

She hasn't left me for her bf (ok to be perfectly honest - fiancee), but I did get a couple of shags and bj's. Guess it depends on what you want. If you just want to get that moist feeling between the legs, then you have a good chance and just make a move. If you want a relationship with her, don't count on it happening.

Backing off won't do you any good, unless she is not getting any from her bf, because she won't chase you.