I've been working on a few girls right now and i'm very reluctant to mention the fact that i'm almost broke and about to lose everything i own (yep the job market totaly sucks). Sometimes i don't even hit on girls because of it.
Some HBs are just too costly on the pocket book.

Does anyone have any experience with this?

Anyone out there totaly broke and still picking up the ladies?

I was out of work for several months. Was broke as hell. I know how you feel about not wanting to pick up women cause I was the same. Even felt somehow that my "worth" was diminished so who would want to be with me? Especially hot women. But, I just went out and did my thing. Got my confidence back after a couple crash and burns, haha, and some successes, and things went smooth from there like old times. I was picking up women like nothing. It was at that time that I met my last gf.

If you're fine with who you are, money won't matter. Girls will still be all over you. All their friends will rag on her for going out with a broke guy but if she's digging you, it won't matter to her.

True...but the fact that you are uncomfortable being broke is what repels women, rather than the broke-ness itself. It shows that you are in a position you find less than ideal and don't have the will/determination to fix it.

This is something you need to deal with for your OWN sake, though. Forget women. Get a job. Even just going to interviews and such will make you feel a lot more in control of your own destiny. And chicks dig that.

Oh man! I was planning to start a thread about this topic. I've been unemployed ever since my military discharge 2 years ago. Recently, I've taken steps to get my life on track; preparing my resume and attending workshops at my college. At least I know I want a job in the film or television industry.
However, the prospect of job-hunting is very intimidating to me since I've led a sort of sheltered life and never needed to do this sort of thing. I don't want to end up in some dead-end gig under the heel of an abusive supervisor. Are there any resources online that can help?

On a related note: Tomorrow, this girl I know is going to the cinema with me and she is paying. I kind of feel uncomfortable about it.

Originally posted by squirrels
True...but the fact that you are uncomfortable being broke is what repels women, rather than the broke-ness itself. It shows that you are in a position you find less than ideal and don't have the will/determination to fix it.

This is something you need to deal with for your OWN sake, though. Forget women. Get a job. Even just going to interviews and such will make you feel a lot more in control of your own destiny. And chicks dig that.

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oh believe me i'm totaly fine and i've found many ways to be happy. I'm just not sure how women will respond. my guess is that they will think i'm a complete loser that can't find a job. That couldn't be further from the truth. I'm trying my ass off and i'm trying my best to fix these issues. I just don't think that is something a woman will understand. you either are a provider or you are not.

I guess when **** happens you have to put your DJing ways on hold untill you solve your own problems first. hmm.. but then again solving your own problems keeps you busy and that is being a DJ.

Originally posted by 00Kevin
I'm trying my ass off and i'm trying my best to fix these issues. I just don't think that is something a woman will understand.

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Women look for jobs too. It's just the conniving professional daters that can't respect your situation.

Originally posted by WatchMeWalk
Women look for jobs too. It's just the conniving professional daters that can't respect your situation.

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that is true. i'll bet the girls that hang out with my band would understand. but those office *****es i used to date definitely wouldn't!

I was lost my job over some corporate misconduct issue. i was trying to repackage and sell corporate software. they had no prof of it because i was too smart for them, but they let me go without cause because they suspected it. some jerk ratted me out. oh well i deserved it i guess.

hmm.. i wonder if that would make be a Bad boy in the eyes of a woman.

From my experience, this is social conditioning on the woman's part. They EXPECT to find the "provider" therefore, they are going to entertain a perspective mate that is gainfully employed with a median income to support her lifestyle. This is not a bad thing, though. It helps you quickly identify the sincere ones from the gold-diggers. Just watch your back and your wallets, fellas.

Once you are secure with who you are this will be a non-issue. Sure, some women will not want to be with you because you don't have a job. But once you get to the point where you realize your job does not define who you are in the slightest, the amount of girls that reject you will lessen. And those that still do? You won't care.