“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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Well as far as the girls that I want to "get to know", the majority of it is in person. Then some on AOL and less than that on the phone. Female friends that I talk to, alot of that is on AOL, then in person is next, and rarely on the phone.
For me, NONE of it is done on IM. Think about it.
What does IM do? Well, it portrays the image of someone who isn't busy. If you're online, whether you're working or doing homework or looking something up, just the fact that you're there is like being on the phone. You're someone who doesn't have anything better to do. You don't appear busy, which isn't what you want.
Aside from that, lets look at the obvious downfalls of IM.
1. No Eye Contact
How can you give up eye contact when you're trying to DJ a girl? This is one of the most powerful weapons you got (to use), not to mention you can tell a lot from looking at a girls eyes.
2. No Body Language
There's no body language online. You can't read her body language, you can't flirt with your body language.
3. No KINO
Enough said.
4. No tonality
Atleast with the phone you can hear the persons voice; IM doesn't even give you that!
I'd avoid it at ALL costs! Only works against you.
Cgraz
What does IM do? Well, it portrays the image of someone who isn't busy. If you're online, whether you're working or doing homework or looking something up, just the fact that you're there is like being on the phone. You're someone who doesn't have anything better to do. You don't appear busy, which isn't what you want.
Aside from that, lets look at the obvious downfalls of IM.
1. No Eye Contact
How can you give up eye contact when you're trying to DJ a girl? This is one of the most powerful weapons you got (to use), not to mention you can tell a lot from looking at a girls eyes.
2. No Body Language
There's no body language online. You can't read her body language, you can't flirt with your body language.
3. No KINO
Enough said.
4. No tonality
Atleast with the phone you can hear the persons voice; IM doesn't even give you that!
I'd avoid it at ALL costs! Only works against you.
Cgraz
k_hectic
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IM is good to practice some lines though. It is useful for practicing with strangers.
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No cgraz is dead on.
If one cannot meet in person with a woman, the only *reasonable* method of indirect interaction is the TELEPHONE.
Let's take one step back here, and first detail the advantages of the first hand contact (real life meeting).
- the TACTILE (KINO)
- the VISIBLE (body language, physical appearance)
- the AUDIBLE (tone of voice, inflection)
With the telephone call, the scenario changes to this:
- the AUDIBLE
This is minimally adequate, but it is acceptable because it really lets you focus on your vocal skills. And in certain cases, this is GREAT way to get her warmed up for a date (first or subsequent). You can make her laugh, and give a good impression and warm up her engine for when you do meet. Also, the telephone creates this weird intimacy where you super-tune all your senses to your ear. You are paying close attention to her voice, so you can read her mind, her wants, her desires. You can fine-tune your ability to manipulate that over the phone. I can recall several times where some excellent phone convo (yes... even ones upto an hour long, belive it or not) let to some great dates and some after-hours action.
NOW... with IM, the best you have in your arsenal are cheesy emoticons.
That is very weak. All human indicators of warmth, closeness, and intimacy are completely gone. You cannot use your tone of voice to manipulate her; nor can you gauge if she is REALLY amused by your joke or just being polite (How many time have you used "lol" without really meaning it? Think about it.). She could also be talking to people other than you.
Just about the only advantage I can think of is being able to carefully measure your words for good effect, but if you're good with people and women to begin with, this shouldn't even be an issue. The trade-off between the intimacy of in person meets and phonecalls, and the ability to plan your speech on IM is too great.
Therefore I strongly concur that IM is for complete newbs or dorks with little social grace. Then again, there are plenty of 'newb girls' and dorky girls with no social skills, and I'm guessing that more than a few guys here don't even shoot for the super-hot chicks to begin with. They probably go for the reasonably cute girl next door type, so it's no big deal. IM-ing could work for these types of girls.
If one cannot meet in person with a woman, the only *reasonable* method of indirect interaction is the TELEPHONE.
Let's take one step back here, and first detail the advantages of the first hand contact (real life meeting).
- the TACTILE (KINO)
- the VISIBLE (body language, physical appearance)
- the AUDIBLE (tone of voice, inflection)
With the telephone call, the scenario changes to this:
- the AUDIBLE
This is minimally adequate, but it is acceptable because it really lets you focus on your vocal skills. And in certain cases, this is GREAT way to get her warmed up for a date (first or subsequent). You can make her laugh, and give a good impression and warm up her engine for when you do meet. Also, the telephone creates this weird intimacy where you super-tune all your senses to your ear. You are paying close attention to her voice, so you can read her mind, her wants, her desires. You can fine-tune your ability to manipulate that over the phone. I can recall several times where some excellent phone convo (yes... even ones upto an hour long, belive it or not) let to some great dates and some after-hours action.
NOW... with IM, the best you have in your arsenal are cheesy emoticons.
That is very weak. All human indicators of warmth, closeness, and intimacy are completely gone. You cannot use your tone of voice to manipulate her; nor can you gauge if she is REALLY amused by your joke or just being polite (How many time have you used "lol" without really meaning it? Think about it.). She could also be talking to people other than you.Just about the only advantage I can think of is being able to carefully measure your words for good effect, but if you're good with people and women to begin with, this shouldn't even be an issue. The trade-off between the intimacy of in person meets and phonecalls, and the ability to plan your speech on IM is too great.
Therefore I strongly concur that IM is for complete newbs or dorks with little social grace. Then again, there are plenty of 'newb girls' and dorky girls with no social skills, and I'm guessing that more than a few guys here don't even shoot for the super-hot chicks to begin with. They probably go for the reasonably cute girl next door type, so it's no big deal. IM-ing could work for these types of girls.
