OKay...ive been working on my C&F alot lately and i think i got to the point where its actually working like everyone else says.

I managed to really put on the C&F with this girl and i got a date for this saturday. The conversation went from "what she did today" to the things she wants to do with whip cream and chocolate. She put things as if she wants to get the bejesus railed out of her. Im not sure what she wants from this, LTR, ONS but whatever it is, IM SCARED TO DEATH.

I cannot be more serious about this, but im scared to what can happen. Yes, i want to get laid, but im treading on land that i NEVER NEVER walked on. I am both happy and scared at the same time..

WHAT TO DO?!?!?!?!?

You dive in head first because this is what you have been waiting for for a long time. If the anxiety overwhelms you so much that your c8ck won't get up, you accept it and try to please while getting pleased in other ways. When the night ends for good or for not so good, you will at least appreciate being more experienced and use what you learn in that case to help you advance in the next one.

In other words, continue the tradition.

Dude i know what your saying. I wouldnt suggest banging on the first night. Its best to be comfortable before you fucc, if your comfy when you go out with her, then go for it.

I suggest heavy making out, caressing, dipping the fingers, getting a blow/hand job and if your not nervous, then bang her hard. Otherwise just do all the foreplay stuff and save sex for the next date.

i dont thikn i will get laid the first night.....but off the topic of sex, im just nervous about the whole thing. ive never been in such a situation before. I keep improving myself, always putthing things to the next level as the DJ bible states, which i did. I went from getting the number, to finally calling her, to improving my C&F and ending up in my situation now. But what if you think you arent ready for that next level?

Originally posted by killerasp
i dont thikn i will get laid the first night.....but off the topic of sex, im just nervous about the whole thing. ive never been in such a situation before. I keep improving myself, always putthing things to the next level as the DJ bible states, which i did. I went from getting the number, to finally calling her, to improving my C&F and ending up in my situation now. But what if you think you arent ready for that next level?

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Killer, you are 20 years old; you are ready for that next level.

It is okay to be nervous. Man, you are going to look back on these memories and love em. You wil be an old man rocking in his chair and recalling the chic with the whip cream. You are ready.

Originally posted by spanky
Killer, you are 20 years old; you are ready for that next level.

It is okay to be nervous. Man, you are going to look back on these memories and love em. You wil be an old man rocking in his chair and recalling the chic with the whip cream. You are ready.

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Hell yeah. Thats what i freaking needed. Im freaking 20yrs old, it about time to live life to the fullest!!!! HELL YEAHHHHHHH

Originally posted by killerasp
OKay...ive been working on my C&F alot lately and i think i got to the point where its actually working like everyone else says.

I managed to really put on the C&F with this girl and i got a date for this saturday. The conversation went from "what she did today" to the things she wants to do with whip cream and chocolate. She put things as if she wants to get the bejesus railed out of her. Im not sure what she wants from this, LTR, ONS but whatever it is, IM SCARED TO DEATH.

I cannot be more serious about this, but im scared to what can happen. Yes, i want to get laid, but im treading on land that i NEVER NEVER walked on. I am both happy and scared at the same time..

WHAT TO DO?!?!?!?!?

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I have been in the same exact situation before. I had this girl, from simple laughs to consistent laughs with my C&F which only grew stronger as I moved along. Sexual innunendo was mixed in freely. Mostly I did neg-hits, but she kept laughing. Baffled at my success, and scared at what I might have created in this girl, I pulled away almost immediately. You know what happend?

Yup, you guessed right. She became even more obsessed and starting begging me for more attention. Now at this point I was REALLY, but I mean REALLY scared!!! I thought I had just created a stalker!!! I'm serious too, as she jokingly said she had followed me home, which was a lie of course.

I thought about it long and hard. If I pulled away, she'd come running back to me, if I pushed like i had been doing, she'd become even more attached. What to do?

Well I chose the middle approach. I started conversing with her normally, no C&F, no pull-aways just simple friendly talk. And you know what? It worked. It cooled off the fire and made everything more manageable for me. Now we are good friends, mostly because of her body (hint: she was fat), because if she was anything else at all, I would have gone for the kiss and closed it off with a nice make out session.

By the way, she still lingers over me and pulls all kinds of stuff on me, while all I get is good training at C&F and maintaining control. So what you need to do is cool it off just a bit, not too much to maker her chase you, unless your fear disappears.

After a while, you gain control and can steer this thing anyway you please, but first you need to try some things. You can try my approach, just to see what happens. Pull away completely, and if she comes running back to you, you've got it. Then you suddenly are normal and you let her get used to this for a while and then pull C&F again until you get comfortable with this territory.

If you dont leap, you cant fly.

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Originally posted by legolas
I have been in the same exact situation before. I had this girl, from simple laughs to consistent laughs with my C&F which only grew stronger as I moved along. Sexual innunendo was mixed in freely. Mostly I did neg-hits, but she kept laughing. Baffled at my success, and scared at what I might have created in this girl, I pulled away almost immediately. You know what happend?

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When you say you pulled away, did you not call her? not IM her? how far did you get before you pulled away?

Things are heating up and i want to see how far we get. But when it comes down to doing the dirty deed, im not sure ill do it on the first date. Some may, but i dont think i would.

Re: Re: god honest truth...IM SCARED

Originally posted by legolas
Well I chose the middle approach. I started conversing with her normally, no C&F, no pull-aways just simple friendly talk. And you know what? It worked. It cooled off the fire and made everything more manageable for me. Now we are good friends, mostly because of her body (hint: she was fat), because if she was anything else at all, I would have gone for the kiss and closed it off with a nice make out session.

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The odd thing is that this girl is no size 2, but rahter she got some meat, not too much, not too little, but the right size for me.

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Originally posted by killerasp
When you say you pulled away, did you not call her? not IM her? how far did you get before you pulled away?

Things are heating up and i want to see how far we get. But when it comes down to doing the dirty deed, im not sure ill do it on the first date. Some may, but i dont think i would.

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Actually the pull away happened face to face. While things were heating up, she was my coworker, I suddenly stopped talking to her. I may have said "I'm not talking to you anymore" or I may have just started igonring her completely and going about my day. She came after me, begging for me to talk to her again.

By the end of the day, I had already started to implement my "normal" method, simply because it seemed to be the only way out. In the end it all worked. I think you need to take your time with this girl, simply because you need to get comfy controlling this thing, or you may end up being way too anxious during your first time, which happens to almost everybody.