long story short, we have known eachother for about 8 years and a couple months ago we decided to start a relationship. went well for a couple of months but started to argue alot over foolishness. she broke up with me about 2 weeks ago because of that and also because she's in college and it's very difficult for her to argue with me. she ends up not studying or doing work because of me.

so it was kind of a clean break...we both wanted to remain friends after....i cut off all contact with her shortly after..obiviously missing her...then a couple of days ago, i went online and saw her...i unblocked her to see if she would talk to me. within 5 min she initiated contact, asked how i was blah blah. she also asked to see me on the weekend but i said no.

anyway, the reason i'm posting is because her birthday is coming up, and she invited me to the club. i don't think it's a good idea for me to go, because i still feel for her, so what should i say to deny her? thanks

"I'm busy."

Friends for 8 years... That is a tricky situation, if you do decide to go, make sure to have alot of fun...

Are you trying to get her back? Cuz, I doubt that is possible at this point.

Move on...... best for the both of you, when you are done with the emotional rutt, then you can initiate contact for friendship again.

If you want to remain friends, you will have to stop avoiding her. You can go to the club on her birthday but you don't have to hang out with her the entire night. If you still have feelings for her you both are willing to work at your problems, stop playing around and get back together.

i know that "i'm busy" won't work because she knows me...she'll just pry. am i trying to get her back? no. do i want her back? yes. but i haven't done anything to get her back..nothing...she was the one who talked to me, asked to see me, and invited me to her party. i don't want to go because it'll obiviously bother me to see her. i was thinking of saying that.

i know it's over but why do you say that theres no chance? just curious. even if she was asking to see me? thanks once again